Expert: Maggie - 5/31/2007

Question
I am 31 years old and i've never had a orgasim. My partner is get very frustrated because of this. What can i do to figure out what will make me have an orgasim?

Answer
Hi Crystal,

Can you orgasm when you masturbate, is it something that happens only during partnered sex ? The key to orgasm is to experiment with yourself through masturbation, this way it helps you find what feels good for you and there is far less pressure than if you are with a partner.

Also, the more you fixate on trying to get an orgasm, the less likely you'll get one. That's one it works. And you gotta be really relax too in order to get one.

And have you ever had a gyn visit ? If so, was there something abnormal going on with you ?

Feel free to follow-up.
MAGGIE.