Expert: Azure - 5/29/2007

Question
QUESTION: I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we used to have a great
sex life. However, in the last year of our relationship, I've been having a lot of
problems orgasming during sex. In the last 6 months I've only orgasmed once
or maybe twice during sex. We've talked about this a lot but neither of us
know what to do about it, and I feel that my boyfriend is maybe feeling he's
inadiquate when I know (and have told him) that he's not. This is causing him
to not want to have sex with me at all. I still have drive and still enjoy sex, I
just don't reach orgasm, even after 45 minutes of sex. I'm in a rut and our
relationship is really suffering from this problem. Help!!

ANSWER: could be alot of factors--how often were you having sex?..is he providing sufficient foreplay, enough to bring you to orgasm before intercourse?..have you tried different positions?..how's the rest of the relationship?

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QUESTION: We were having sex sometimes everyday but mostly every other day or 3 times a
week. A lot of times no, he isn't giving me sufficient foreplay. A lot of times he'll
want to go straight into it, but not always. He very rarely gives me oral, although
I will give it to him. Even when he does, however, it doesn't bring me to orgasm.
We have tried using different positions but not different places. The rest of the
relationship seems pretty normal. Sorry if I've left a lot out the first time!

Answer
"normal"??..are you both really happy with each other? sexually, can you orgasm masturbating?..as to him, you're accepting too little; he should be providing alot of manual/oral foreplay EVERY time, even giving you an orgasm prior to intercourse; tell him what you like and need him to do, otherwise he will continue being a somewhat selfish lover; also, cutting back on frequency might help...