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Question Let me start by introducing myself. I am an asian male, 21, I've had 4 sexual partners in the past 6 months. My latest partner, lets call her Anne... I met her a little less than a month ago, but she's 21, and she lost her virginity to me. There is nothing physically wrong with her, she's fit, healthy looking body, beautiful, etc. We started having sex about a week and a half ago.
We have not gone "at it" very much.. but I noticed that she doesn't get pleasure either from fingering or sex. She says she feels something inside of her, but she doesn't feel pleasure. I have not given her oral sex yet, but I offered it Earlier today.
Is there something that may be wrong with her that can be resolved? Is it mentality? Is there a hormonal imbalance? What can--should we do?
Answer certainly those are two possibilities; start by her seeing an endocrinologist to evaluate hormone levels, or consider the effects of any meds she might be taking; if all is optimal, she should consider counseling to uncover psychological barriers to her experiencng pleasure..
