AboutPete Expertise I am an Australian clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor who can answer all questions to do with male sexuality and questions relating to intimacy.
No problem is too big or too small. You can ask in total confidence.
Experience Comprehensive experience in hypnotherapy and counselling in Australia over a number of years. I have two very successful clinics that cater for people what to make permanent positive changes in their lives.
Organizations Full Member Australian Association of Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts Degree, Post Graduate Diploma of Education, Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy, Graduate Diploma of Psychotherapy & Counselling
Past/Present Clients I do not discuss past or present clients
Question Hi Pete my question is about me and my fiance. We have been together for 6 years. Never had a problem with our sexual realationship until now. Everytime we have sex he goes limp after a short period of time. Then I have to give him head to get him hard again. Then most the time after that its just fine very seldon does that happen more than once each time. Is there anything we can do to prevent this or do we have to deal with it. Please let me know ASAP. Thank you very much for your time.
Theresa
Answer Hi Theresa
Thanks for sharing with me.
You don't say in your e-mail how old is your fiance.
There are many reasons why men can suddenly develop problems attaining and maintaining erections.
It is always a good idea to get checked out by a doctor if it happens on a regular basis: if there are no physical issues, then it is psychological and the good news is that there are lots of treatment options available for physical and psychological caused erectile problems.
Remember that drugs (medicine, legal ones like alcohol and tobacco as well as illegal ones)all are known causes of erectile dysfunction "ED"(the new name for impotence).
Lifestyle factors such as changes in work also can be contributing factors. Talk with him and see if there is something bothering him other than ED.
In my work with clients it is often amazing how they "stew" on lots of little irritations that end up making them unable to have a fulfilling sex life. Sometimes there are unresolved issues to do with sexuality.
Every male is different; and it is true that as males age, it can take them long to attain an erection, but with an understanding partner there should be no problems.
From what you have shared, I can suggest that you make sure that you allow for lots of foreplay in your intimate time with your fiance and use and see which positions he finds the most arousing.
There is a good chance that he will be able to stay more erect using the doggy style position (rear entry) as there is a lot of stimulation on the head of the penis; as well as depth of penetration being available.
Just make sure that there is plenty of lube available if needed. If there is a height difference between you, consider placing a pillow under your tummy to give him extra leverage.
Know that if you need extra information, you can always send me a line via a follow up question.
