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Topic: Dealing with Bosses and Coworkers



Expert: Doug Staneart
Date: 2/6/2008
Subject: Manager Meetings

Question
Hi,

Thanks for making yourself available for advise.

Recently, a new manager took over in our office and had one on ne meetings with us.  In my meeting he asked my thoughts ahout my immediate supervisor.  Everything I had to say was negative and I asked to be moved to a different team- a request he granted.

On the day I was packing up and moving things to my new desk I pulled aside a new employee to advise her on a situation she was worried about.  I returned to my desk and got a phone call from the new manager asking me to come to his office.  He said my immediate supervisor went to him near tears because for some reason she assumed I was telling the new employee negative things about her to justify the reason for my departure from the team.  I set the record straight with the new manager and spoke to my immediate supervisor to set the record straight.

In our conversation she proceeded to reveal everything I discussed with the new manager.  It appears he told her everything I said and identified me as the person who said it.  At this point I'm on a new team but what should I do at this point?  Is there not a presumption of confidentiality in these cases?

Answer
Anna,

You have no reason to expect confidentiality.  Human nature is to tell secrets.  A good rule of thumb is to never tell a coworker of any kind anything that you don't want another coworker to know.  I suggest that you apologize to the old supervisor and be on your best behavior with the new one.

I know it stinks, but that is human nature.

Doug Staneart

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