AboutDoug Staneart Expertise Doug Staneart can answer questions about gaining cooperation from, motivating, and influencing coworkers and employers. He is also an expert on how to avoid and resolve conflicts as well as other issues dealing with long term business relationships.
Experience
Doug Staneart has been a speaker and trainer for over ten years specializing in public speaking, leadership training, and team building. Doug is CEO of The Leader?s Institute® (Leadership Training) based in Dallas and author of the books 40 Ways to Influence People and Fearless Presentations. He has accumulated over 2700 hours of classroom coaching and training and began his career with Dale Carnegie Training® where he was recognized on numerous occasions for superior instruction.
Question I have been in the military for 15 years. I have a Commander who is always, micromanaging, and undermining me. If I do things my way, he criticizes and wants it done another way. I have shown my discontent with the position I am in, yet he keeps me here to, I feel, tick me off. The position I am in has a negative effect on my career outlook, and I really need to find another position.
How do I deal with this? Everyday, I am angry and feel smothered. My motivation is low
Answer Jeff,
Sorry, but dealing with people in the military is quite different than in companies outside the military. Outside the military, you always have the opportunity to get a new job, but since that option isn't available in the military your limited.
You might try speaking to the commander and asking if you have done something to offend him. Explain that you feel like you are being limited in what you have control over and ask for his help. People sometimes change their behavior if their ego is on the line. If he is "helping" you, then he'll want you to succeed.
