AboutJoan Schramm Expertise I can answer questions about handling difficult bosses or co-workers, motivation, team-building, and just getting along in an organization. I am also an expert on conflict resolution and communication as well as other issues dealing with business relationships.
Experience Joan is a professional Coach and the founder of Momentum Coaching, www.achieve-momentum.com. Her experience is from over twenty-five years of business leadership, training and coaching.
Organizations Coach Training Alliance, Coachville, Attractionville, 247 Coaching, Solo-E
Publications Many of my articles have appeared in local newspapers and online at sites like www.ezines.com, www.marketingseek.com, www.articlecity.com, www.exactseek.com and others.
Education/Credentials BS in English
MS in Human Resource Management
Certified Coach through the Coach Training Alliance
Question A new employee was hired 9 months ago, and the same month she was hired......her and the married boss got real cozy...an affair was started. We were all upset at work. The past 5 months we have been quiet and minding our own business, but know the affair is still going on. I heard that this woman has a reputation and broke up another marriage. She's sneaky, manipulative, knows how to put the waterworks on, throws blame on us and makes us look like the troublemakers. She will pout for 2,3 4 hours if something isn't going her way. Is offended at the drop of a pin ! You have to wear white gloves with her all the time. She's a bitch ! And the boss is in love with her and she's got him wrapped around her finger, because he hasn't any backbone to stand up to anyone. So, us as employees shut our mouth, because he doesn't stand up for us. He tells us to not upset her ! She is NEW, bottom of the ladder ! For godsakes it's impossible for her to know eveything ! but we have to treat her like a princess.......I am so fed up with the situation. The problem is I have been working there for over 20 years and before her arrival I had an excellent working relationship with my boss and like his wife and family. With this bitch, we don't talk anymore....he talks business with her, not me anymore. Meetings are inspired by her, because of her bitchyness and poor wooo meee.
How do I let it go ???????????????
Answer Teresa --
Tough one. The short answer is that you have to just let it go. You can't do anything about it. It really stinks, but all you can do is to continue to do your job and hang in there. Sooner or later either the affair will end, or your boss' boss will find out what's going on and will put a stop to it.
It isn't either an easy or a comfortable situation to be in, especially since you know and like the boss' wife and family. You're put in a position of having to watch him cheat on his wife, and also feeling slighted because the "other woman" has taken some of the position you used to enjoy at work.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I sure wish there was something else I could tell you, except to just suck it up and soldier on. Reflect that what goes around comes around and she will get what's coming to her someday.
