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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Like this guy, but he doesn't like me.... I think? | 2/9/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Hi there, I am in year nine this year, and I like this guy, who is also in year nine. I have ... A: Well honestly, there isn't really you can do without being too pushy about the situation. Now that ... | ||
| HELLLLP | 2/8/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Hey Kevin, (i apologize for the Thesis you are about to read) I'm an undergrad (19 yrs old) in ... A: I fell asleep for 60 years, and now I celebrate my 7xth birthday in a month or so! Jk. :) Being ... | ||
| ?? | 2/3/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: So, this is kind of a dumb question, but I am 14 and there is this guy at my school that I really ... A: A lot of friends give each other friendly hugs, when they see each other or say goodbye. But if you ... | ||
| Like this guy, but he doesn't like me.... I think? | 1/31/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Hi there, I am in year nine this year, and I like this guy, who is also in year nine. I have ... A: Being split into two different social groups is tough, that's for sure. It doesn't give you the ... | ||
| How Do I Get Over This Crush?!? | 1/31/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: My problem isn't that massive, but its been on my mind for a while! So here it goes; Well I'm in ... A: It's good that your friend suggested to do many things, like keep yourself occupied, remove ... | ||
| How Do I Get Over This Crush?!? | 1/31/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: My problem isn't that massive, but its been on my mind for a while! So here it goes; Well I'm in ... A: You can't force feelings. It never works. I think you should stop worrying about what is 'real' and ... | ||
| Complicated crushh | 1/28/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Hey, this is gonna take some explaining so sorry about the length of this... Btw I'm 13, and ... A: My best guess is that after you confessed to him (and I'm assuming he didn't like you back), things ... | ||
| I like a guy that doesn't even know I exist | 1/28/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: Here's the thing. I've recently fallen for a guy that's 2 years older than me. He's a sophomore, I'm ... A: If it's weird for people of different grades to go over and talk to each other, then you should tell ... | ||
| Does it sound like he only likes me as a friend? | 1/26/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 haha So I’ll just forewarn you that this is gonna be long... I feel the need to put in every ... A: It looks like you have a good relation with this guy already, where both of you seem comfortable ... | ||
| Help | 1/25/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: Hey :) So I have a tiny problem that I was wondering if you could help me with! I really like this ... A: I'm going to assume that you both clearly know that you two like each other, and not like...it's ... | ||
| Want to know if my best friend (girl) likes me | 1/24/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: First of all thank you for taking the time to read this I really appreciate it. That being said here ... A: First of all, I'm sorry for the delayed response. And there's really not an 'easy' way to ask her. ... | ||
| Want to know if my best friend (girl) likes me | 1/24/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: First of all thank you for taking the time to read this I really appreciate it. That being said here ... A: I don't think she'd lie about how she considered dating you in high school. Girls usually wouldn't ... | ||
| How to tell my crush i like him?? | 1/22/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: I've a crush on this guy...lets call him John, and i really wanna tell him that i like him. He's a ... A: I wouldn't recommend jumping into telling you that you like him right away considering the fact that ... | ||
| Crush in the gym | 1/21/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: I'm Sofia 18 years old. Some evenings I go to the gym because I like working out. Today I tried the ... A: It's okay to approach him. Maybe you could ask him for help on something or just make casual ... | ||
| Waiting......... | 1/19/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Okay, It's really complex for me. I've been teased about this guy Ron ever since the start of ... A: What you do at prom is the first step, but it's a great first step. You can be a little indirect ... | ||
| Waiting......... | 1/16/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Okay, It's really complex for me. I've been teased about this guy Ron ever since the start of ... A: I'm going to make the same assumption that what's preventing you two from approaching each other is ... | ||
| Could he like me? | 1/14/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: So my second semester at school started, and I got put in a new class with all new people. There's ... A: I highly doubt that he's just messing around. Chances are that he really does find you attractive. ... | ||
| How do I message him? | 1/9/2012 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I have a crush issue that I would like help with. Here is my problem... There is this guy who ... A: Making Facebook friends is relatively easy, but actually talking comfortably with them with a ... | ||
| Something about this crush | 1/7/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: OK i don't know where to start but... in the 9th grade i met this girl. I told her a few times ... A: No problem! :) and I wouldn't say you're confusing me. I'm just trying to get a clearer picture, so ... | ||
| Something about this crush | 1/6/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: OK i don't know where to start but... in the 9th grade i met this girl. I told her a few times ... A: Was it the same atmosphere after you told her how you feel? Did you notice things got awkward? Or ... | ||
| Something about this crush | 1/6/2012 | Rebecca Thomas |
| Q: OK i don't know where to start but... in the 9th grade i met this girl. I told her a few times ... A: If you could tell me anything else she said on Christmas Eve/Christmas morning, it would be easier ... | ||
| This "Kid's" Feelings :/ | 12/25/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Um, hi. I have never done this before, but before I start, just let me say, that I have epic ... A: I think he's at least interested in you, but to firmly say he likes you...I can't guarantee it. I ... | ||
| puzzled about his feelings | 12/22/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: "Hi, The guy that I'm writing about is a friend of mine, he's a very interesting and attractive ... A: Is he aware that you are married? If not, then it is indeed more likely that he's using that term ... | ||
| puzzled about his feelings | 12/22/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: "Hi, The guy that I'm writing about is a friend of mine, he's a very interesting and attractive ... A: Although using a certain term of endearment shows that he does set you out as a unique person in his ... | ||
| Crush | 12/21/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: There's this guy at my school he is in the grade below me which is grade 10. We are friends on ... A: It sounds like both of you have a lack of self-confidence. On the internet, where you don't have to ... | ||
| Crush | 12/15/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 Hey Kevin,I need help.Please. Im 16,recently I feel in love with a 16 year old girl,lets just ... A: Falling in love is indeed a scary endeavor when we have little confidence in ourselves. To be scared ... | ||
| Crushh | 12/10/2011 | Ricky |
| Q: Hey! I'm 13. theres this boy in the year below me, and hes cute, plays guitar, good looking etc. we ... A: Just talk to him and get to know him better. This will also give him the chance to get to know you ... | ||
| I like this guy but i don't know if he likes me | 12/7/2011 | Ricky |
| Q: One day in class i didn't have anything to do but homework from a class before, but i didn't knwo ... A: From what you have explained, it is too early to comment whether this guy likes you or if he has ... | ||
| Big fight with my crush, now he hates me | 8/20/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: When I first started my job I noticed this really cute guy, every since then I wanted him to be mine ... A: It's good you recognize that you need to give him a little space, because that's exactly what the ... | ||
| Dealing with Tease | 8/18/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: my name is Ezra, I'm 13 years old and i lived in Indonesia. Anyway, i have a problem of dealing with ... A: What you're experiencing is a natural reaction. Whenever we are suggested by another that we have ... | ||
| Should I tell my crush how I feel or should I just let it go? | 8/15/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 I have feelings for a friend of mine, he is 17 and I am 13. We are fairly good friends and spend ... A: It doesn't really matter what your ages are, but what does matter is the level of maturity you two ... | ||
| Crush on my teacher's son? | 8/15/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I'm a seventeen year old Aussie and am graduating from high school in about 6 weeks time. I'm not ... A: This is a tough situation. Simply going up and introducing yourself to him is going to feel ... | ||
| Have no clue about my crush, confused?! | 6/5/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: Ok, im in 10th grade , and i have no clue how my crush feels,he used to be in my class and my lunch ... A: Eh, I can't really tell for sure. There's so many possibilities for misunderstanding here, and not ... | ||
| no idea what i should do | 6/3/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me with an issue i am facing. I (D) am 27 years old and so is my wife ... A: Might as well come clean with at least your wife. The sort of consequences that could happen if this ... | ||
| Still struggling with an old crush !!! | 6/2/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I'm a 26 year old. I'm a transsexual guy. Till date I have lived my life as a female. I finished my ... A: Your statements are filled with many assumptions. From my experience...it's not the tendency for ... | ||
| This boy~ | 6/2/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: To start off with my name is Karmyn, and I've liked this boy (Jacob) for about 3 years. I met him ... A: Well yes...and no. It all depends on you. Although the burden of reversing the situation lies on his ... | ||
| I'm in 'love' with my teacher. What should I do? | 6/1/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: :3 I live in a small, one mile town, and have to attend the closest cities' high school. I'm 17, and ... A: Sorry for not getting to you earlier. This is quite a sensitive situation. Unfortunately, due ... | ||
| Still struggling with an old crush !!! | 5/28/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I'm a 26 year old. I'm a transsexual guy. Till date I have lived my life as a female. I finished my ... A: 1) There are lots of factors that play into decisions that seem weird at first. It could be that she ... | ||
| Still struggling with an old crush !!! | 5/26/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: I'm a 26 year old. I'm a transsexual guy. Till date I have lived my life as a female. I finished my ... A: People can hold on to the smallest of things in their lives, for who knows how long. This just so ... | ||
| What do I do now? | 5/25/2011 | Kevin Serrano |
| Q: So I'm 19 and go to community college in Northern California I met this girl in English class. We ... A: First off, I truly suggest getting that number. Being able to contact her on a whim will put you in ... | ||
Dealing with Crushes
Answers by Expert:
Kevin Serrano
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Expertise
I give advice on a variety of crush topics. Now with some experience on my belt, I can confidently help in a majority of crush issues. I have dealt with more uncommon cases including long-distance, age-difference, non-straight orientation, and lengthy crushes, on top of the more normal happenings. I do not have a formula to my answers, but they will all focus on avoiding drama where possible and being the most straightforward. Don't be surprised if you get a 3 page essay on occasion ^^.
Experience
I am currently an undergraduate freshman in college. For perspective, I've been rejected eight times in a row, each through a different way of communication. The total number of times I've tried? Nine. If anyone knows the feeling of heartbreak, being a hopeless romantic, or being a shy person, I probably do.
I've also given first-time crush relationship advice several times to various friends and acquaintances from around the world. I am fascinated by their stories, both successful and not, and have refined my perspective of the adolescent life to be less rosy, and more constructive.
Organizations
I have run under my school's Student Government for four years, now serving as PR Director. In a school of 2000 students, its not hard to spot many dramas within government and without. After all, we're all still teens on the inside. I also am part of research within my university's psychology and cognition department.
Education/Credentials
A first year university university student studying cognitive science. I have taken community college extracurricular, including a first-year college psychology course, which is a crucial perspective class. I don't have much experience credential wise, but hopefully my personal experience and expert experience may compensate.
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