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Expert: Duncan Date: 5/12/2008 Subject: Just confused.
Question Ok, so for a while I've been interested in this girl at my work. (Obviously this is my last resort.) Its sort of embarrasing to admit this stuff, and I don't know where to start, but I guess I will.
Ok so I haven't dated in awhile (around 8-9months) but that's just because I don't like getting in to relationships unless I really like the person. I've had a few people ask me out, but I gently turn them down unless I really like them, and even if I do I have trouble convincing myself that it would work out. I mean, I have to REALLY like the person. So I've gotten to know this girl as of late, and she's a great person, and I like that. I talk to her at work all the time, and I some times email her or text but I'm just too shy to go further then that. I'm afraid of rejection. She's a year ahead of me in high school and thats a bit intimidating, but we're only about 4 months different in age. I just can't get the strength to do anything about this. I often wonder if I'm being bothersome, and over think way too often. So I guess I'm just asking for some advice. How can I overcome this feeling that I'm not good enough?
Answer Hey Brandon,
If you don't think that you're good enough, just look at what you said earlier. "I've had a few people ask me out" means that you're obviously dateable. If you know what it's like to reject somebody, it's really not as big of a deal as they make it, right? Well, think about that if you want to ask this girl out. She'll probably accept you, but if she rejects you, it's not that big of a deal as it's going to feel to you. It's a win-win situation. I hope I was able to help. Ask me another question if you have one.
