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Crushes can be confusing. When you have one, it can be hard to decide what to do about it, right? I can help you figure out how to deal with a crush, whether it includes figuring out if he/she likes you, getting to talk to him/her, getting the confidence to ask him/her out, etc. Trust me, I have had so many crushes that it's hard to count all of them. Ask me a question and I'd be glad to help.

Experience
Since I am still 16 years old, I experience life through teen eyes everyday. I have first-hand experience in this category, and can relate to most of the issues that people post questions about. People feel comfortable talking to me about these types of issues in everyday life, so I hope you will too. Education/Credentials I am a high school student that has been studying Psychology for the last year. I have been studying it on my free time as well. Awards and Honors I am a 3.9 GPA student and have received numerous awards in middle school and high school. Past/Present Clients All of my friends have confided in me about these issues numerous times, as I do with them.

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Topic: Dealing with Crushes

Expert: Duncan
Date: 5/8/2008
Subject: I really like this guy

Question
QUESTION: There's a guy I really like in my school - he's a year older than me and I've never talked to him but I see him a lot in the hallways and he's in my school string orchestra. The only reason I noticed him at all in the first place was because he started staring at me earlier this year (I think). Now, I'm 99.9% sure he does stare at me but he only does it when he thinks I'm not looking. In the hallways, he's usually with his friends and I can't get the courage to go talk to him when he's alone, much less when he's with his friends. He plays the cello and I play the violin. He's on the baseball team and I'm on the swim team. He's a sophomore and I'm a freshman. I feel like we have nothing in common; my friends tell me to go talk to him, but I'm afraid that even if I do get up the courage to do that, our conversation will be awkward. I don't know what to say to him. I friended him on facebook a few weeks ago and he accepted last week. If he didn't know who I was before, he definitely does now. I don't know what to do. I really want to go talk to him but I don't know how to approach him.

ANSWER: Hey Ashley,
Good job for having the courage to friend him on facebook. If you still feel shy about talking to him face-to-face, you could start a conversation like "Hey, aren't you in the school orchestra? How do you like it?", or something like that. You can just say hi in person, and do the conversations on facebook for now. It's definitely a good way to start. Your courage will build if you get to know him better, and it's a lot easier to get to know him online. I hope I was able to help. Good luck, and write back if you need to.

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QUESTION: Thanks for answering so quickly! Actually, I was afraid at first to friend him but after a LOT of convincing from my friend, I finally did. The only problem is that I AM quite shy about talking to him face-to-face, so while I'd like to have facebook conversations with him, he rarely goes on facebook and even when he does, he rarely replies to any of his friends' wall posts.

Answer
Well, you could still try to talk to him in person. Since you guys have two things in common now, you at least have a topic of conversation. If you could just start by saying hi to him in person, you guys will start to get to know each other better. Maybe have one of your friends talk to him with you. You can do it. Best of luck.

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