About Estelle Expertise I am open to all sorts of questions about crushes - how to deal with them, how to find out whether he/she likes you, how to best handle the situation at hand. I will also try my best to help you analyze your case and see how likely he/she will answer your prayers!
WILL REJECT ALL QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX OR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!
STATE AGE & GENDER IN YOUR QUESTION PLEASE.
Experience I have gone through quite a few crushes myself. Now that I am well and off in college, I feel like I can give some advice to peers or those younger than me. My friends often comes to me for advice on this subject matter as well. I have been able to guide both myself and my friends into great relationships. I am also a psychology major with a lot of interest in this topic. I am very eager to help those who have any questions.
Education/Credentials College major in Psychology.
Expert: Estelle Date: 6/30/2008 Subject: Cant stop thinking about her!!
Question QUESTION: Hi, my name is ray im 17, and my crush is 15, she's a really busy person, and im not so i have alot of time to think(about her), and its killing me. I dont know what to do, like i wanna find out if she likes me and so much other stuff but i dont want to sound like im obsessed with her.Im going really crazy over not being able to tlk to her that much, she asked for my # and i gave it to her, do you have any adivce for what i could do?
ANSWER: Hi Ray,
If she's busy- what is she doing? Clubs or extracurricular? You can join some of the activities she does, and that way you can get to talk to her/get to know her better as well.
The main reason you are thinking about her ALL the time is because you don't have anything to do. So find some activities that may interest you or get a job etc. Occupy yourself so you don't seem so available all the time- therefore she is going to start to value the time she sees you and talk to you.
You can also give her a call, drop her a line here and there, suggest something you can do together. Let's start by being friends first- since you didn't tell me any obvious signs of her affections for you. Once you are good friends it's much easier to start from there.
Keep me posted & feel free to ask for followups!
Best wishes,
Estelle.
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QUESTION: well, she hurt her leg, they think she has like lime dieseas or somthing =(, she doesnt live near me and i dont have my permit yet =(, everytime i do somthing i always think about her and then i just sit here and wait to tlk to her. as for a job im workin on Joining the Marine Corp. she wanted me to come over and swim with her, she wants me to write her when i get to boot camp, and she wants me to spend time with her (i think), i just idk, i just need a clear i like you too from her, lol.
ANSWER: Hi Ray,
it sounds like you are on the right road! if she wants you to go swimming with her, why don't you take up on that offer? maybe when its the weekend, you can get a ride from someone or take the public transportation?
you can always just visit her randomly, im sure she would like that. work on getting your permit then, that ought to occupy your time for a bit. after getting your permit, get your license!
Best wishes,
Estelle.
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QUESTION: lol..ok, thats the thing, i would but im shy =(. and i hate it, and i havent had a relationship for awhile, and im afraid im gonna get hurt, i used to cutt and stuff because of love, and i dont want to end up doing that shit again, even though i have pretty good selfcontrol.
Answer Hi Ray,
No pain no gain! You are just going to have to step out of your shyness if you ever want to know if she likes you. She already asked you to visit her- I don't see what else she can possibly do to get you to hang out with her. If you don't take up on the offer she might think you aren't interested in being her friend or anything more than that.
Another thing- you can't be afraid of getting hurt all the time. You are going to have to get over that sooner or later if you ever hope of finding a girl. It's all risky business, but the greater the risk the greater the reward!
