AboutEstelle Expertise I am open to all sorts of questions about crushes - how to deal with them, how to find out whether he/she likes you, how to best handle the situation at hand. I will also try my best to help you analyze your case and see how likely he/she will answer your prayers!
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Experience I have gone through quite a few crushes myself. Now that I am well and off in college, I feel like I can give some advice to peers or those younger than me. My friends often comes to me for advice on this subject matter as well. I have been able to guide both myself and my friends into great relationships. I am also a psychology major with a lot of interest in this topic. I am very eager to help those who have any questions.
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Expert: Estelle Date: 6/28/2008 Subject: getting her to notice me
Question i feel a bit younger for this one but i'm really lost and i have no idea what to do.
i'm a 17 year old boy, and i am in a summer school class in college right now. there is this one girl in the class that i have a crush on, she's 16 nice smart and not to be blunt but she is gorgeous. i've already established myself as the guy in class that will make everything into a joke, and make smartalec comments all the time (which probably will not help me) so my problem isnt that i'm not confident enough to go talk to her. if she was ever alone i'd have already gone up to her and asked her out. my problem is i'm not confident enough to go up to her when she is with her cousin (and i think her cousin's bf) and talk to her when i dont know if she even knows i exist, and i dont know if she is single. i've tried the thing where i make eye contact with her and smile and see what she does, but i dont know if i actually am making eye contact. every time she looks in my general direction i smile and then she looks away. which either means that she is shy towards me and is scared to keep looking at me, OR it means that she was looking at something else and didnt notice me.
so my question is how do i make sure that she notices me in a positive way. i'm trying not to be such a smartalec in class, so i dont look like as much of an immature kid... even though she is younger then me. but i want to make sure that she notices me in a positive way. i dont think i am especially good looking.. i'm not horrible looking but i'm nothing special. and if i get a slight hint that she is interested a little i have no problem with the confidence of going up to her. but i just dont know how to get her to notice me so i can find out if she is interested at all.
any advice?
Answer Hi Dan,
I'm pretty sure she does know your existence, but may not be interested in you yet. So as nerve wrecking as it may be, you HAVE to go talk to her on a casual basis and pick up some easy conversation, not necessarily asking her out right away. When you go to class, maybe arrive a little earlier and go sit by her and say something like "hey, I'm Dan." Maybe stick your hand out for a handshake (some girls like that), and she will likely respond with her name, and you guys can start talking. If her cousin is there, you can say hi to her too, so it looks like you are friendly with everyone.
Once you are becoming friends, you can find out her interests and suggest some get together (because OBVIOUSLY you enjoy the same things she does). After that, I'm sure you know what to do :)
Good luck! Let me know how it goes and feel free to ask for followups!
