AboutEstelle Expertise I am open to all sorts of questions about crushes - how to deal with them, how to find out whether he/she likes you, how to best handle the situation at hand. I will also try my best to help you analyze your case and see how likely he/she will answer your prayers!
WILL REJECT ALL QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX OR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!
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Experience I have gone through quite a few crushes myself. Now that I am well and off in college, I feel like I can give some advice to peers or those younger than me. My friends often comes to me for advice on this subject matter as well. I have been able to guide both myself and my friends into great relationships. I am also a psychology major with a lot of interest in this topic. I am very eager to help those who have any questions.
Education/Credentials College major in Psychology.
Expert: Estelle Date: 6/29/2008 Subject: what should i do?
Question Hi! My name's Lenny [female] im 17 and uh here it goes:
Lately i've been going to the pool a lot and noticed that the lifeguard was a hottie! So after a couple glances and flirty smiles we ended up talking a bit [not too much detail] and [with a couple more visits] he gave me his number. The problem is that im a bit nervous and dont know what to say so i didnt call him that afternoon. I saw him at the pool the next day, we didnt get a chance to talk but he still gave me those flirty looks. He is a bit shy and he recently came from Russia so my question is.... Should i make the first move? and if so what do you recommend i do? [i still haven't called him since I'm a bit nervous and don't know what to say]
Answer Hi Lenny,
It's fine for you to make the first move, especially if he's shy. He might be in too much shock that you called to even process why you called- so no worries there. If you don't know what to talk about, maybe suggest an activity both of you can do together. For example, if he mentioned that he wanted to go watch a particular movie, you can call and say something like "hey, I was just by the theater, and I remembered that you wanted to watch _____, wanna do that tomorrow?"
Seems like he is interested, since you have been flirting with each other. So go for it!
