About Amarie Expertise I can help with deciphering your feelings for a crush into easy to understand terms. I can
also help in telling which step is the best to take next with your crush. I understand,
probably better than most, just how confusing crushes can be. I have a real desire to help
people, especially when it comes to their love lives. My major is Psychology with a passion for marital and relationship counseling.
Experience Psychology major, founder of a peer counseling group
Education/Credentials Psychology major at UVA
Past/Present Clients clients through peer counseling are almost always anonymous.
Expert: Amarie Date: 7/21/2008 Subject: i like this girl, but I just get so nervous
Question First off i called this girl about a power outage in my city. she said that she
had no idea what happened. she then asked me if i wanted to hang out with
her. I then said something like sure, how about tomorrow, she then said
something like i dont know, i'll call you. She never called and i called her
once and then waited 3 days then i called her again and asked if she wanted
to hang out. she said sure, what do you want to do. I said doesn't matter to
me, it's up to you. She said it didn't matter to her. I then said i dont know i
called you because i was bored. she said call me when you've thought of
something. and i said already then. And we both laughed and said goodbye
then I got really busy and I had to go up north. I left a message saying
something like I had to go up north, be back tuesday, if you still want to hang
out with me call me tuesday. She never called me then two weeks went by and
the girl called and
said we should hang out. I said I couldn't do anything that day and i said how
about saturday or sunday. She then said, "You call me" I said okay. It's now
going on a week in 2 days since i've talked to her. I'm just really nervous
about if she doesn't like me like i like her, what would we do, that kind of
stuff.
Additional Details
She asked for my phone number on the last day of school, then I asked her
for hers. It took me 8 days to finally call her when i got her cell phone #
We've never hung out before outside of school
I've known her for about 3 years (we never really talked much until this year)
I'm 18, going to be a senior this year.
She also asked me out in 9th and i rejected her because i was nervous to go
out with her. not scared of her just scared of how terrible of a boyfriend i
would've been. When ever i think about calling her i just get really nervous
and procrastinate it. I don't think i'm afraid of the rejection to be honest i
don't know what i'm afraid of. I just don't understand why she would want to
go out with a guy like me when there are many other better guys she can
choose from.
Answer I'm a strong advocate of dinner and a movie for a first date, especially if you're nervous. Go see the movie first and then go to dinner (that way, if things get awkward at dinner/you run out of things to say, you can always talk about the movie).
A lot of girls like it when the guy takes charge in the beginning (I know I do!) because it shows her that you care enough to take time to plan things for her (probably why she said call me when you've thought of something).
I think its time that you take the chance and ignore your fears and step outside of your comfort zone and get to know her. She is obviously interested or she never would've asked for your phone number. And she picked you because there is something about you that is different from all the "better" guys... something that has really caught her eye. There is no need to fear rejection right now, its just a single date.
You may it off with her, you may not but don't worry about that and just focus on enjoying your date with her.
