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Experience I have gone through quite a few crushes myself. Now that I am well and off in college, I feel like I can give some advice to peers or those younger than me. My friends often comes to me for advice on this subject matter as well. I have been able to guide both myself and my friends into great relationships. I am also a psychology major with a lot of interest in this topic. I am very eager to help those who have any questions.
Education/Credentials College major in Psychology.
Expert: Estelle Date: 7/21/2008 Subject: i like this girl but i just can't...
Question QUESTION: (18, male)
First off i called this girl about a power outage in my city. she said that she
had no idea what happened. she then asked me if i wanted to hang out with
her. I then said something like sure, how about tomorrow, she then said
something like i dont know, i'll call you. She never called and i called her
once and then waited 3 days then i called her again and asked if she wanted
to hang out. she said sure, what do you want to do. I said doesn't matter to
me, it's up to you. She said it didn't matter to her. I then said i dont know i
called you because i was bored. she said call me when you've thought of
something. and i said already then. And we both laughed and said goodbye
then I got really busy and I had to go up north. I left a message saying
something like I had to go up north, be back tuesday, if you still want to hang
out with me call me tuesday. She never called me then two weeks went by and
the girl called and
said we should hang out. I said I couldn't do anything that day and i said how
about saturday or sunday. She then said, "You call me" I said okay. It's now
going on a week in 2 days since i've talked to her. I'm just really nervous
about if she doesn't like me like i like her, what would we do, that kind of
stuff.
Additional Details
She asked for my phone number on the last day of school, then I asked her
for hers. It took me 8 days to finally call her when i got her cell phone #
We've never hung out before outside of school
I've known her for about 3 years (we never really talked much until this year)
I'm 18, going to be a senior this year.
She also asked me out in 9th and i rejected her because i was nervous to go
out with her. not scared of her just scared of how terrible of a boyfriend i
would've been. When ever i think about calling her i just get really nervous
and procrastinate it. I don't think i'm afraid of the rejection to be honest i
don't know what i'm afraid of. I just don't understand why she would want to
go out with a guy like me when there are many other better guys she can
choose from.
ANSWER: Hi David,
You need to be confident about yourself, this girl obviously is interested! Don't be afraid of how terrible a boyfriend you can be if you haven't even become one!
Think of something to do before you call her. If you call without a definite plan or at least a suggestion, girls might think you are just calling them randomly and might not be genuinely interested. Ask her to the movies, or to the park or something where you can do something fun together. Or if you live close by just call her up to go get some ice cream. ANYTHING.
Best wishes,
Estelle.
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QUESTION: Should I still ask her what she wants to do first or should i just say what we're
going to do? And on the details i gave you said that this girl is obviously
interested but why would she ask me to hang out with her. Then I call her
the next day and she doesn't pick up or calls me back.
Answer Hi David,
I'm not sure why she doesn't call you back, but you shouldn't worry too much about that since she wants to hang out with you. Give her a call with a plan in mind. Ask her if there's anything in particular that she wants to do, if she says no, tell her what you thought of and ask her if she wants to do that.
