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Expert: Duncan Date: 7/10/2008 Subject: Is this just my mind playing tricks on me?? I have this teacher...
Question A teacher this year, that taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so
I'd always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know
each other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was
treating me different, I started to realize that sometimes he would flirt with
me, but he really never did anything that made me feel weird or
uncomfortable but after awhile, he started doing things, like making fun of
little things I would do in class, or he would say, 'I love you, I just want you to
know that.', or you will always have a special place in my heart. and when he
saw me before graduation, he told me I looked beautiful, and said that this
year has been a year he won't forget, because he feels that he has become a
better person, teacher, everything because I opened his eyes to giving people
an opportunity to succeed.The year was full of moments like that.
Now, I am starting to question how I feel about him, It's like he slowly
seduced me all year? I just don't know if these 'feelings' between us are real? I
graduated so I am no longer a student at school and I just don't know why all
of a sudden, I find myself feeling this way. Its like as long as I was a student
at the same school that he was my teacher I would never have even looked at
him like that, but now, Its like things have changed, and I don't know what to
think about the situation. He never bluntly asked me out or anything, but he
did say at the end of the year that he did like me, and he hoped that any guy
who dates me realizes how lucky they are.
I will be 19 next February, and he will be 25 this August. I know all of this
must sound pretty stupid, but I just wanted to see what others thought,
because sometimes people get caught up and don't see things clearly, and I
am starting to wonder if this is just my mind playing tricks on me, or if maybe
something is there. I do know that teacher/Student relationships are usually
frowned upon, so thats why I felt so unclear as to what I should do next. Do I
test the waters with him, or just forget him all together? Does any of this,
even sound like he really has feelings for me?? Its sort of like, my heart tells
me one thing, but the reality of the way people think makes me feel like I
have to think otherwise.
Thanks for the Help.
Answer Hi Marissa,
I know it can be confusing. I don't know what the laws are about dating for your state, but I think you should just use common sense. If you think he's a good guy and you really like him, go for it. At least tell a close friend what you want to do and ask for their advice. Good luck!
