About Amarie Expertise I can help with deciphering your feelings for a crush into easy to understand terms. I can
also help in telling which step is the best to take next with your crush. I understand,
probably better than most, just how confusing crushes can be. I have a real desire to help
people, especially when it comes to their love lives. My major is Psychology with a passion for marital and relationship counseling.
Experience Psychology major, founder of a peer counseling group
Education/Credentials Psychology major at UVA
Past/Present Clients clients through peer counseling are almost always anonymous.
Expert: Amarie Date: 7/22/2008 Subject: shy guy crush and a lot of other stuff
Question Hi, well this may be long and i will probably go on for a bit so sorry :)
Sorry if i tell you a story instead of a question which i most likely will do, i tend to go on :S
I like this guy in my class. You could say he is a loner but he does have friends that he sits and talks with but at lunchtimes he just walks around kicking his footy to himself (im from australia by the way). So he is really quiet but i dont really know him, like i talk to him on msn/aim whatever but he doesnt talk much, i am guessing this is because he is shy and i know he has never had a real girlfriend before, and i have never had a boyfirend. Now i am not totally obsessed with this guy and want him to marry me and all that i just like him more than a friend but not obsessive crush lol. He has the most nicest blue eyes and he isnt really that bad looking, i dont see what is so bad about him, like ive told 2 of my friends (who thank god hasnt told anyone yet!) and they say he is not "hot" lol, not that i care that he isnt the hottest person ever. He has a nice personality and seems sweet but is shy, never had a girlfriend, is a twin (non-identical) and is kinda a loner. His brother is more of an outgoing type and always attempts to flirt with girls as us girls think lol. Like today for example we had to watch a movie for a subject and in this room where there are like steps covered in carpet to sit on. Me and my friend sat like in the middle, while the guy i like sat in front of us to the left a bit, now his brother sat a bit away from us but next to us and starting "flirting" with these 2 other girls. You know the worst thing?!??! My friend i was sitting with whispered to me "do you still like ___________?" and i said no but i DO still like him, well i think do. Do you think he heard us? Well you wouldnt know lol but what do you think would be going through his mind if he did here her, because he is not the type to go straight up and ask people. Everytime i see him i feel nervous and in class i always look for him and kinda sneak peek at him when other people arent looking. I dont know where i want this to go but we have an upcoming dance thing and yeah. Not necessarily the guy i like, but does it really matter if you go with a guy or not? What if some guy i dont really want to go with as me? How do you reject them?? That is soo mean lol! I mean i would love to go out on a date with a guy i like but think i am "inexperienced", never kissed/hugged/touched a guy lol! Also what i sup with the touch barrier thing, how are you supposed to provoke that? All my friends would fully tease me and say "aww mel has a boyfriend" and "kiss him, hug him", "aww thats so cute melanie and ______". And yes they are my real friends i spose just happy for me. I am so sorry for rambling on and pretty much telling you my life story so yeah sorry but please can you help me and give me your opinion!??!
Thankyou
Answer The first thing I suggest is that you take a deep breath!!! lol
If you like this guy, flirt as much as you can with him. Because he is shy, he's going to need a bigger confidence boost than other guys would (normally a little flirting would do). Go out of your way to talk to him and really get to know him. And when the time is right, then bring up the fact that you like him.
And as for turning guys down, just be nice about it. Rejection doesn't have to be terrible for them. Just let them know that you aren't really interested but you appreciate the offer.
Let me know if I can help any more. I'm currently on vacation at a beach but I'm trying my best to be able to keep up with all the questions.
Sincerely,
Amarie
