About Amarie Expertise I can help with deciphering your feelings for a crush into easy to understand terms. I can
also help in telling which step is the best to take next with your crush. I understand,
probably better than most, just how confusing crushes can be. I have a real desire to help
people, especially when it comes to their love lives. My major is Psychology with a passion for marital and relationship counseling.
Experience Psychology major, founder of a peer counseling group
Education/Credentials Psychology major at UVA
Past/Present Clients clients through peer counseling are almost always anonymous.
Question Me and my bf have been together for 8 months and he is perfect. And we were so in love. He is my first "serious" relationship. But lately Ive been starting to question myself do I really love him. He annoys the heck out of me. Its like everything he does annoys me. And to top it all off I like his friend Trent. He is more like me. He loves to do the same things as me, and he is fun to be around. Also my twin sister likes Trent, and she is single. She is shy, and Trent is. I dont know if he likes her? Gosh... And if I break up with my bf I dont want to hurt him, and I love his family and friends. I will be alone. I really hate this. Please help me!!
Answer Dear Faye,
I can relate perfectly to what you're going through. And you know what I did about the problem? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I deluded myself into thinking that I really did love him. I even got to the point that I actually had myself believing that we were in love. We made each other miserable for 2 out of the 3 years we were together and had even began planning our marriage. Luckily, we both realized before we tied the knot that we didn't love each other.
The thing that really drove me to stay with him was my fear of being alone. I had isolated myself from all of my friends and family. I spent every waking moment with him or thinking about him or talking to him. I had no idea how I would be able to start over... but I did.
I left him and ended up becoming myself again. I reestablished all my old friendships and actually ended up being happier than before. I found a great guy (that I had feelings when dating my ex) and we started a wonderful relationship.
I encourage you to try and do what you think will be best. In my case, staying with the guy was not the right choice. I regret staying with him for as long as I did. But only you really knows what goes on in your relationship and you are the one who will have to live with your decision.
I wish you the best of luck.
Please don't hesitate to ask for more advice.
Sincerely,
Amarie
