AboutEstelle Expertise I am open to all sorts of questions about crushes - how to deal with them, how to find out whether he/she likes you, how to best handle the situation at hand. I will also try my best to help you analyze your case and see how likely he/she will answer your prayers!
WILL REJECT ALL QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX OR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!
STATE AGE & GENDER IN YOUR QUESTION PLEASE.
Experience I have gone through quite a few crushes myself. Now that I am well and off in college, I feel like I can give some advice to peers or those younger than me. My friends often comes to me for advice on this subject matter as well. I have been able to guide both myself and my friends into great relationships. I am also a psychology major with a lot of interest in this topic. I am very eager to help those who have any questions.
Education/Credentials College major in Psychology.
Expert: Estelle Date: 7/18/2008 Subject: What do i do?
Question QUESTION: I'm 15 years old, and i just went on a 6 day camp with a youth movement. On that camp i got to know this girl. I knew of her before the camp, but during the camp i got to know her more... The only problem is, over the course of the whole camp, she and her friends were spending more time with the year 10s and 11s then with us, as there were only 4 boys from out year level. (year 9). I really like her, and want to have a relationship with her. My friends that go to her school tell me she only goes for older guys, and i am the same age as her, 15. How do i approach this dilemma? I do not want to lose the friendship that was just recently formed, unless a stronger relationship occurs. What do i do? Thanks, Alon
ANSWER: Hi Alon,
Since you don't think she likes you as of right now, what you can do is continue to be her friend and see if it goes anywhere. You can drop subtle hints here and there that you might like her and that guys her age aren't so bad either. There's nothing you can do to make her like you. Just realize that if she really doesn't there are still other girls!
Best wishes,
Estelle.
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QUESTION: What do you mean by subtle hints?
I'm not very good at these things...
Thanks again :)
Answer Hi Alon,
I can't really give you a set of hints for you to use because I'm not there when you are trying to use them. It really depends on what you are talking about at the moment. For example, if she comes to talk about how older guys are better and mature, you can say something like "hey, I'm not so bad either!" You have to practice the hint dropping yourself. Try to put out these hints without being very obvious.
