Expert: LC - 10/16/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hello,

I'm a 16 year old guy and extremely shy. There's this girl beside my locker who i've known, just casually, since grade 10 and she asked me sometimes why i'm so quiet..
Now, when we're both at our lockers, she's pretty much always surrounded by friends. Sometimes she'll give me a friendly tap on the shoulder and ask me how i'm doing, that sort of thing. But I literally can't keep up anything beyond that point.
Question is: does it seem like she has interest in me and what can I do to make myself more approachable?

Thank you

ANSWER: Heey,
You know it is not sure if she has interest in you since you never talk to her. And it really sucks that she asks you why you are so quite because usually girls don't like shy guys. You should show her how talkative you can be make her face go in a shape like :O because you start the conversation and you have to talk all the time. Like when she comes to her locker go like "hey, wassup?" or something that she knows that you are confident and cool. Always be yourself but really try not to be so shy. Pretend she is like somebody from your family or a friend that you really trust. Act like you would with your family or a friend that you really trust. Make her feel that she can actually talk to you without you not saying anything. Just really try to open to her so she also sees the sensitive guy. So really my biggest advice is that one day, you should really make her like you are not what she is thinking. A never should actually never start a conversation with a guy because a guy always has to take the lead. And once you get closer then maybe ask her if she wants to hang out with you sometime and get her number and so on. It will work out if you just talk to her. Ask her about life, or her test results..or something. But remember to always be yourself!
Hope this helped you!
If you need anything more then just please contact me, i would be glad to help you.
Lizzie

---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------

QUESTION: Thanks for your advice, i'll keep that in mind. My only question in regards to that is this girl almost always is surrounded by her friends. I can't interrupt their conversation right?
I also have questions about two other girls.

I have a deep interest in one girl in my math class. Trouble is we sit on opposite sides of the room and math doesn't require group work. I see her occasionally in the library. If she's sitting by herself, should I "make a move" on her, even though we've never talked and she might not even know i'm in her math class?



Then this other girl, i've been in a class with her over the past two years. I know she has a boyfriend, but a lot of times when we walk past each other in the hall she'll catch my eye and smile at me. Sometimes when she walks past me in class she'll tap my books to get my attention. I don't know though, what her level of interest in me is.  

Answer
Hey,
No don't interrupt them but like just maybe say like "oh hey" and she will turn and start talking to you while her friends keep talking. But don't interrupt them because then they will all think you are weird and rude.

When you see her in the library just go like "hey, you mind if i sit with you?" and she will say "sure, have a sit" or something and then you should go like "hey, you are in my math class, right" and so on. Just keep the conversation going. And remember- don't be shy. Also, give her some compliments and stuff so she finds you sweet. Make her laugh and then maybe ask her if you guys can hang out sometime again and she will probably give your number. But before you ask her on a date make sure that you guys have been hanging out for some time now so that she gets to know you better and then ask her out. Hope that helped :)

Okay, stay away from that girl!
If her boyfriend catches her doing that to you or maybe catching you talking to her or something.
Then you will get the blame and he will be really mad at you and i don't know if he is maybe a football player or something so you might stay away from him.
My biggest advice, is to ignore her and really stay out of her way!
Also if she breaks up with her boyfriend and then wants to be with you, then just seriously say that you should take it slowly because her boyfriend can still get mad because he will think that she broke up because of you.

My advice is to take the girl in your math class.

I hope i could help you :)
If you need anything more- contact me! i would be always happy to help you!
Lizzie