AboutNeil Expertise I am a male high school student who has gone through depression. You can trust me. Feel free to express yourself. Do not hold back.
*Note: Depressed adults should seek more professional advice.
Experience I am a 17 year old male. I have gone through depression. Fortunately, I have overcome the pain and suffering and realized the beauty of life.
Education/Credentials I am currently in 12th grade in high school.
Expert: Neil Date: 5/4/2008 Subject: Cousins hurt me psychologically - HELP
Question 4 years ago i visited my family in America and saw 2 female cousins. Back then i was 14 and was an ugly duckling, now i'm 18 male. The thing is I REALLY do not want to see them - because they damaged me psychologically. I used to be small (5ft6),skinny,ugly,lanky & had ugly acne and my cousins always told me this. They used to tell me i was unphotogenic, that i looked ill & horrible. One girl told me 'a secret' that a girl liked me BUT SHE told dat girl i was ugly which put her off......
However 4 years later, i'm 6ft 1,work out and have a nice toned body and i look MUCH better - they might complement me cos everyone has lately but it will just make me angry at them again....
Why did they put me through that? Are they shallow or stuck up? i didn't deserve to be put through that and it took me a long time to get over.... I will see them next week but i don't want to!
HELP ME !
Answer Hi Dani,
First, I would like to apologize for not responding sooner. I never got the initial email indicating that there was a question pending. Just now, I got the reminder.
First off, you need to be careful how you let the words of others affect you. People like you can damage your body greatly with someone's remarks. Bluntly put, they are jerks. Accept it and move on. You don't have to talk to them or show an interest in being them. If verbally harass you, launch a retort back and then give them the cold shoulder. But do not accept their insults.
They didn't know you would react this way. They thought you would just brush off the insults and they could just go on criticizing you with long-term consequences.
I glad to hear that you worked out. This helps a lot with depression and has apparently not only changed the way people view you, but also (more importantly) the way you view yourself.
If you can't avoid meeting with your cousins, you need to tolerate it. But don't let yourself be walked over by them.
