AboutJurriaan Plesman Expertise I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition.
I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search.
I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”.
I am also the editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems.
Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at:
Degrees & Certifications:
BA (Psychology) Sydney University and Post Grad Dipl Clin Nutr
Web page:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Experience Psychotherapist
Organizations The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia
Publications Book: GETTING OFF THE HOOK
Various articles in the Hypoglycemic Healh Association of Australia Newsletters
Education/Credentials BA (Psych), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr
Expert: Jurriaan Plesman Date: 5/4/2008 Subject: Cousins hurt me psychologically - HELP
Question 4 years ago i visited my family in America and saw 2 female cousins. Back then i was 14 and was an ugly duckling, now i'm 18 male. The thing is I REALLY do not want to see them - because they damaged me psychologically. I used to be small (5ft6),skinny,ugly,lanky & had ugly acne and my cousins always told me this. They used to tell me i was unphotogenic, that i looked ill & horrible. One girl told me 'a secret' that a girl liked me BUT SHE told dat girl i was ugly which put her off......
However 4 years later, i'm 6ft 1,work out and have a nice toned body and i look MUCH better - they might complement me cos everyone has lately but it will just make me angry at them again....
Why did they put me through that? Are they shallow or stuck up? i didn't deserve to be put through that and it took me a long time to get over.... I will see them next week but i don't want to!
HELP ME !
Answer Hi Dani,
You may find this difficult to deal with because you seem to agree with your cousins that you are ugly, hence you have no defences. If you did not have a low self-esteem you could not care less what people think of you. You can overcome this by doing some self-therapy.
or studying my book Getting off the hook, starting at page 36. It is on the internet.
Also study the defence strategies in Assertiveness Training Program
By studying and training your mind as explained, you will have a different view of yourself and be more confident.
Have fun doing the course.
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Jurriaan Plesman
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search
Skype: jurplesman
