About Kimberly Expertise Hi, I have suffered through years of depression and the many disorders that
come with it. It is a very scary experience and hard at times to get through
the day. But I have now gotten to the other side of the pain and found hope
and courage and life. I want to be a person you can feel comfortable talking
to, and in talking with me that you can feel at ease knowing that I have
been there and I do understand. I want to be a friend and listen and I will
do my very best to ease the feelings you feel and help you in your journey
to a better happier life. You are not alone and I would love to be there to
help you fight.
Experience My greatest accomplishment is knowing that I have been there and today, I'm here to help others in their healing. The biggest accomplishment lies in those who write for help in so doing they are taking a huge step in their healing!
I am currently a student in Psychology, and have been certified in Crisis prevention since 2001.
Expert: Kimberly Date: 5/9/2008 Subject: How can I help her?
Question Long story short, there's this girl who I'm falling hopelessly in love with, and she's doing the same for me.
However, she's had clinical depression since she was seven, and lately she's been having some rough times. Her medication isn't working either.
I'd love to be there for her, to hold her and listen to her... but she lives five and a half thousand miles away.
I get up every day at five thirty am my time to talk to her, and I try to help her out. She says that lately, whenever she smiles, it's mostly because she thought of me. That I'm her world. That I keep her sane and yet drive her crazy at the same time. That I make her forget there are reasons to be unhappy. And that purely by sticking with her and listening to her, I'm helping.
And yet, I feel so absolutely useless. They say that a good friend or boyfriend would be there for her, physically. I can't do that. And when she's unhappy, it makes me unhappy.
If I could visit her more often, I would. But I'm a University student, and have next to no money. And generally, anything I can save is going to be used to fly out whenever I can to see her.
I hate the fact that she's going through such a rough time, and I can't be there to take her places or do things with her to take her mind off things. How else can I help her get through this?
Answer James,
Honestly you’re doing enough. You are waking up early to talk with her and you’ve got to trust that when she says that you are helping and that you make her smile that you are indeed doing all you can. You can not take away her depression or the reasons that she struggles, so you care and love her through that and it’s all that anyone needs do not underestimate the power of your love.
She needs to be in counseling and needs to discuss her medication with her doctor where he or she can adjust it and or start her on something else.
But, please trust that you’re doing a lot and it is enough. When I was struggling it was the love of my friend that saved me. And none of them could take it away. You are doing what you can, and it really helps.
