AboutNeil Expertise I am a male high school student who has gone through depression. You can trust me. Feel free to express yourself. Do not hold back.
*Note: Depressed adults should seek more professional advice.
Experience I am a 17 year old male. I have gone through depression. Fortunately, I have overcome the pain and suffering and realized the beauty of life.
Education/Credentials I am currently in 12th grade in high school.
Expert: Neil Date: 6/23/2008 Subject: depression because of my girlfriend
Question hello sir !i am akshay gupta presently a student who has passed class twelth.....me and my girlfriend are together for around 4 and a half years......all these years everything was just fine but then came the time we she told me to call her once a week and that is thursday.......i cant live without her sir and i cant even hate her for what she's doing to me .....i really love but she says me to call once a week .......she also made me promises but never fulfilled those ......i have been in a position that i dont talk to people i dont feel hungry......i walk around .....past 1 month i became a chain smoker for around 1 week .......wen ever i call her except on thursday i get answers like she's sleeping .......she is one year younger to me .......whole these months i have passed just crying ......she says she needs this year ......for studying ......i am not able to survive without ......i have told her if she could call me for just 30 seconds a day but she dint .........i am really depressed what to do plz tell me what to do????thank u
Answer Sorry, I was just looking over my answer, after I replied to you, and I realized I forgot to mention the most important thing: your smoking addiction. The only change made in my follow-up answer is the addition of this paragraph. Do NOT let depression make you smoke. Nicotine is one of the two strongest long term addictions. There is still some hope. Nicotine addiction is stronger in long term than short term. This means, more so than any other drug, that quitting now will be the easiest. You have to quit now and start seeking help from groups and physicians. Please adhere to this advice. This may be the only warning you ever get for the worst mistake of your life.
Hey Akshay,
You need to give your girlfriend some room. She needs to deal with other things in her life right now, and it would be best for both of you if you look for a hobby or something to keep you from constantly thinking about her. Also, the more you seem to desire her, the less she will want you. Wait for her to call you and occasionally call her. Its kind of like big game fishing, if you reel her in to hard your line, or connection with her, might break. But if you give her too much room, you might lose her. Bring her in slowly and know when to give her room and when to take an opportunity to spend more time with her. It would help a lot if you hang around a large group of distant friends rather than a few close ones. This way, any emotionally painful acts one of your friends may commit, it won't effect your much. You can find this kind of group at some activity, hobby, or volunteer work that you are passionate about. Naturally, you'll find people with similar interests.
There are a couple simple things you can do for your depression.
1) Exercise. In my opinion, this is the best self-cure (it would be ideal if you met with a professional medical adviser) to depression. This might be an opportunity for you guys to exercise together. But if she says no, don't be persistent.
2)Sometimes sad music induces depression. Time for a change in music?
3) See this video: http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-be-happy-2 (it might give you some perspective).
