Dealing with Depression/mind


I am spending a nice life, But still some minor problems are creating messy in my happiness. They are:

1) Sometimes , for no reason I use to feel jealous.
For example: if I am with a person and that person talk to another person. In this case, I feel so bad and jealous. I want that, if a person is with me, then that person should be with me always. That person should be mine always.
I don't want my peoples (those who are with me) should be others friends too.
I know that my thoughts are ridiculous and that can't be possible, that a person should be my friend only. But what should I do my thoughts are uncontrollable.

2) My second problem is that I can't accept new people and sudden change in my life and in my daily routine.
For example: if someone comes suddenly in my home and that person say that he/she will be in my home for next 3 or 4 days.
In this case I will be so disturbed by the sudden presence of that person.
I like people come in my home and stay there for long but I want they should inform me early, so then I can set my mind for that.

3) My third problem is dealing with different minds.
I can't deal with a different mind
For example: if I am sitting in a room with 4 to 5 different persons and  they all are talking, if someone talks about something which I  don't like or disagree about that thing, then I feel so bad and my mood swings completely and I began to dislike that person.
Accepting new and different persons and sudden changes of life and daily routine is disturbing me a lot.
Please help me!
I will be thankful to you!

Hello Ali,
Sorry for the late reply.
The root of  your possessiveness  is your own insecurity and self doubt. You are not confident about yourself  and are always afraid of losing your relationships. You have to trust your friends and realize that  they are with you because they like you . If they spend time with others that does not mean that you are less important to them . Also your possessiveness can be detrimental to your relationships since nobody like to feel controlled and tied up.
Every mind works differently , thinks differently and may not have the same opinion about things as yours. A  person may have a different view than yours about one subject but he/she might share a same view as yours about something else. It is not justifiable to like or dislike someone on the basis of one instance .
If someone visits you unannounced, it can be inconvenient for you . You can politely request your   relatives  to inform beforehand when they visit you next time .
Enjoy life.

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