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Dealing with Depression/Questions Answered by Expert Reed (John Rieger)
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Grudges | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: I will try to explain this as short as possible. I went through a lot of cruelty when I was a kid, ... A: What you have gone through is similar to what I have gone through. Different experiences, but the ... | |
| ruminating | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: i was depressed a while back for a couple of months but i dont think i fully solved the prob now ... A: The word depression can not make you depressed, anymore than the work happy can make you feel ... | |
| dont understand | 1/7/2012 |
| Q: Hey there, iv been depressed for over two years and tried many things to over come it. A couple of ... A: There is always some underlying reason for the change, you just haven’t looked deep enough.. If it ... | |
| I want a refund of my money soon | 3/13/2011 |
| Q: My husband wanted to buy me a car. we were looking around for a good one and we eventually short ... A: When I said >>> You learned how to deny yourself from your parents, especially your mother <<< I ... | |
| I want a refund of my money soon | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: My husband wanted to buy me a car. we were looking around for a good one and we eventually short ... A: How much would you pay to learn the most important lesson in life? How much would you pay for ... | |
| Depressed Boyfriend in long distance relationship | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: military guy. Now out of it and seeking for a job in the "real" world. He has been going through ... A: You are love starved and have no clue what love is, and will do anything to get what you think is ... | |
| um...yeah | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: um im a 16 year old girl who cuts. i really dont know why i do it or why i even started. ive ... A: You know why you cut, you are just in denial of expressing it, as admitting it brings up all your ... | |
| Pretending to be Other People | 3/5/2011 |
| Q: I don't know how to best articulate this. Firstly, I am a 19 year old American college student ... A: What seems obvious is that you can’t separate TV and movie reality from your own. I feel that you ... | |
| Possible BFRB, and depression | 3/5/2011 |
| Q: (Please read this message. I need some one to explain why I am how I am.) I've struggled with ... A: While you may be displaying the so-called medical symptoms of BFRB and Trichilliomania, that doesn’t ... | |
| Pretending to be Other People | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: I don't know how to best articulate this. Firstly, I am a 19 year old American college student ... A: You mention that >>>> My mom has several other children with different men<<<< And then you say >>> ... | |
| Genetic Disorder | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I dont know, you are the right person to share this,if not please forward to the cocerned. We have ... A: To answer your question.. “so what is the point of such powder, why they are producing it.” The ... | |
| Genetic Disorder | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I dont know, you are the right person to share this,if not please forward to the cocerned. We have ... A: I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your child. Propimex1 ... | |
| sufferinf from obssessive compulsive disorder(ocd) | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: i am bhushan patil from india, i am suffering from ocd from 6 months, i wanna ask 3 questions 1.is ... A: OCD is not hereditary, but if one of your parents is an empath and is suffering from it, you (if you ... | |
| Being suddenly dumped possibly due to depression? | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: John, I spoke to you two weeks ago. We met and did the gift exchange last week as we bought gifts ... A: Well you are getting to be an expert at what doesn’t work, exchanging presents, lighting Chinese ... | |
| I can't stop feeling sorry for myself. | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: Often, I get the feeling that life has it out for me. Of everyone in the whole family, I had it the ... A: Part of the dilemma with being an Empath is that one doesn’t know what to do with what they are ... | |
| ADHD with high Anxiety | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I have just been diagnosed with ADHD and Depression. I have been on antidepressants for 11 years ... A: Not to berate you, but hasn’t it dawned on you that if the pills that you’ve been taking for the ... | |
| Being suddenly dumped possibly due to depression? | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I met a girl through an internet dating site last September after texting for a couple of weeks (she ... A: Okay, that makes sense now. Yes, she is depressed because she hasn’t dealt with her father’s loss, ... | |
| Being suddenly dumped possibly due to depression? | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I met a girl through an internet dating site last September after texting for a couple of weeks (she ... A: I’m confused. You say that >>>>> I met her family for the weekend and both were very happy.<<<< and ... | |
| re | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I am very interested in your natural approach to making yourself better. Can you tell me how to do ... A: I can best answer your questions by giving you a link to my website and my free eBooks that you can ... | |
| I don't understand life anymore | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I'll try and keep this as brief as possible. I suffer badly from depression and have done since my ... A: Reading your email felt like I was reading a parallel life style. While the experiences were ... | |
| Dead on the Inside | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I am 18 years old. I have been to a few therapy sessions about a year ago because of my depression, ... A: While you can focus on the issues with the girl, aside from what I said before, there are still ... | |
| Dead on the Inside | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I am 18 years old. I have been to a few therapy sessions about a year ago because of my depression, ... A: I’m going to be honest with you and tell you what I feel is going on, and not what you think is ... | |
| Help with Depression, etc. | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: Live in boyfriend that has delusions...asked for help after 7 years for depression and anxiety. He ... A: If you were coming to me with your problems and issues, then I could help you help yourself, but ... | |
| Mental State | 7/10/2010 |
| Q: Reed I dont know if this is depression or just normal feelings a guy gets as he ages. Maybe you can ... A: Yes, you are depressed and no amount of pills is going to help you, in fact, they are part of the ... | |
| Girlfriend | 4/23/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4 years and she is always depressed. In the past she has ... A: Your girlfriend knows exactly what is bothering her, but .. There are several things happening. 1) ... | |
| Relationship Depression | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: My name is Kane. I've been in a relationship with a wonderful young woman for about 4 months. We ... A: Crying is one thing, but getting to the heart of the issue and releasing all the unexpressed ... | |
| I think I'm depressed | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: my name is Daria. I think I'm depressed. I want to know if I am without going to see a doctor. I ... A: Being 12 years old, I’m not sure that you are allowed to ask questions on this site, BUT, you ... | |
| Getting irritated over simple things | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: I'll type in my background conditions so that you'd get a clear picture of things. I love a guy ... A: First off, you need to sit down and have a good talk with your self. You say that: you like to ... | |
| Betrayal and Depression | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: How do I help a friend suffering from depression caused by betrayal? She dated a man for over 3 ... A: This may sound cold hearted and lacking compassion, but let me say that while you state…. ... | |
| 47 yrd. old sister with depression | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: My oldest sister has battled severe depression all her life. She tried to commit suicide about six ... A: Your sister telling her/your mother….. “that after reaching that point once she doesn't think it to ... | |
| Is the doctor wrong? | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: I hope this isn't too long. I've never really lived a happy life. I've got a lot of shit that ... A: Questioner: Chantelle Yes, your doctor is wrong. You are not mad, you are depressed, and who ... | |
| depression and life | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: I am having trouble as usual getting my life out of depression. I have had it over and over for 10 ... A: While you may think that you have been depressed for 10 years, I assure you it has been a lot longer ... | |
| my gf suffers depressen and canceled the relationship | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: Rieger, I'm in love with a girl since a half year. We were so much in love however she had a hard ... A: Obviously you are missing what is really going on, so I will lay it out for you. Although your ... | |
| Boyfriend Depressed | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. We are alike in so many ways and ... A: You base your mutual CONDITIONAL love for each other on the good times you had when he is depression ... | |
| my gf suffers depressen and canceled the relationship | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: Rieger, I'm in love with a girl since a half year. We were so much in love however she had a hard ... A: You can’t help anyone that doesn’t want to be helped. You can’t make anyone talk ... | |
| chronic depression | 3/14/2010 |
| Q: Sir, I am verymuch tired of this depression iwill directly tell you the question ,when i do ... A: I already gave you a link to my free eBooks http://shenreed.com/ebook1.html that will help you ... | |
| chronic depression | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Sir, I am verymuch tired of this depression iwill directly tell you the question ,when i do ... A: Why are you trying to be perfect and what is PERFECT anyway? Why are you trying to please others? ... | |
| I don't know what to do | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 18 and am currently a freshman in college. I have been dealing with depression pretty much all ... A: Like you stated, this problem didn’t just start when you went to college, but is one that you ... | |
| Ending These Nervous Habits! | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I've always been a nervous person, dealing with TONS of stress since day ONE! I've bitten my nails ... A: First off, let me correct a misleading medical term. You do not have a nervous habit or condition, ... | |
| Daughters depression | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: Can you please tell me the signs of manic depression? Being a patient of anxiety induced depression, ... A: If you want a list of the signs of a manic depressant, ... | |
| My mind is bogged down | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old University Student who has had to struggle quite a bit. Back in high school, I ... A: There are a lot of things going on and while you say…"Don't give up on your dreams"?” ... | |
| Feeling Nothing | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: Wonder what is wrong with me? My fiance of 8 yrs recently left me so I have been dating multiple men ... A: That explains a lot! The recent losses in your life and also the fact that you are an RN taking care ... | |
| Feeling Nothing | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: Wonder what is wrong with me? My fiance of 8 yrs recently left me so I have been dating multiple men ... A: I’m confused? Are you saying that you engaged for 8 years.. and if so.. why so long? I feel ... | |
| My Girlfriend has depression and wants a break | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: Hey. My name is Mike and i have been dating my girlfriend for 11 months, but one morning i woke up ... A: There are several issues going on here. Firstly you need to wake up to the fact that your ... | |
| crying without cause | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: I am searching for an answer to my crying. I seem to cry at the oddest times. Sometimes it can be up ... A: Nothing happens without a reason and while you may think that your depression that you had years ago ... | |
| depression | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: i wanted to know if i could ask you some questions about depression, as i dont have money for a ... A: While you may believe that your problems started in high school, I assure you that is not the case ... | |
| Do I have depression or a social phobia? | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: For as long as I can remember, even as a toddler, I've always been very shy. My mother told me that ... A: While you may have karmic ties to being shy, you were not born shy. That is to say that something ... | |
| Depressed And Coming Undone...Quickly | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: I’m a cutter-to put it in the easiest terms- and have been for around three or four years. I ... A: You are an empathic person by that I mean that you pick up on the feelings and emotions of people ... | |
| Boyfriend Left for college | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend left for college in the fall he came home every weekend i noticed a change in him the ... A: Your boyfriend telling you that he suffers from anxiety is like him saying that there is weather. ... | |
| depression | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I have pernicious anemiz which has a side component of depression. I have been fighting it off for ... A: While the medical community (your doctor) may say that you “have pernicious anemia which has a ... | |
| Depression over dream and world view? | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: When I was 16, I dreamed that I was in love with someone. I woke up feeling emotionally devastated ... A: I feel that what you’re touching is your lost hopes, dreams and desires, as well as lost ... | |
| Depression over dream and world view? | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: When I was 16, I dreamed that I was in love with someone. I woke up feeling emotionally devastated ... A: There are a lot of things going on including a possible psychic attack, which is the love dream that ... | |
| Wellbutrin SR vs. Wellbutrin XL | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I have recently been started on Wellbutrin SR, 150 mg twice daily. I have always been a "take my ... A: Hey Ryan If you read my bio you would know that I’m not a medial doctor or a psychiatrist, ... | |
| Depression? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: -) I'm not sure what I'm going through, if it's depression but it's been going on for quite a ... A: Yes, you are depressed as you are now becoming aware that you are, and have been, “living a ... | |
| Third Wheel | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, never had a hug or a decent conversation with a woman. ... A: You are welcome, It’s a hard pill to swallow admitting to..... and exposing your denials. ... | |
| How to avoid return of depression and anxiety | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 28 years old and 4 years ago I experienced anxiety and (mild)depression. Everything started when ... A: As you explain your story, I see that your issues is that you are addicted to money and to the life ... | |
| Third Wheel | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, never had a hug or a decent conversation with a woman. ... A: First of all.. lets cut the crap and denial... Near the end of your email you say, >>> “Once ... | |
| Depression | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: Are there research about child depression due to amputation of a body member? I've tried to find ... A: Hey Alex, I did a quick Google search for >>>> child amputee depression <<<< ... | |
| Headache and depress | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: I am really concern about this and I really need help. From the past few months this is happening ... A: Firstly let me say that I am no doctor as defined by the medical profession. If you want to know ... | |
| Still grieving | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: almost two years ago I lost a very close friend of mine. He was living in America and we had been ... A: Childhood trauma is responsible for, and related to, all the issues we have in our lives. When you ... | |
| Still grieving | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: almost two years ago I lost a very close friend of mine. He was living in America and we had been ... A: There are two main issues going on, and also a lot of little ones… The first is that you have ... | |
| dysthymia in a young male | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 23 yr old male who has been suffering silently from depression for the past several years.I've ... A: Well you have a choice to make... You can either go on living the lie which is causing you all the ... | |
| Sudden feeling of being lost. | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: Lately I have been feeling withdrawn from the one person I care about most, my Girlfriend. I have my ... A: Well your theory is right... you just didn’t go far enough. That being... >>> “The ... | |
| i hear innervoices wich make me feel guilty | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I always feel i have a a big problem and that try to hide it from the others.So i feel ... A: I’ve recently published my book called, “Journeys from the Heart Centre” - ... | |
| Im struggling | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: I have been depressed for the last 2 years im only 16 but dont ever appreciate my life. In 2007 i ... A: You sure have a lot going on in your life and none of it pleasant. As I read your question I could ... | |
| depression | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: Been receiving conventional mental help for 20+ years. Still am very depressed feel like there is ... A: Conventional medical help only treats the symptoms, not the cause. And no, contrary to popular ... | |
| Self made depression | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I am usually a pretty happy person, but two days ago I had a bizarre experience which changed me. I ... A: What I suggest you do is to find the link and the CAUSE for this fear. This is not something that ... | |
| Mental Depression | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 26 years old female and married for past 1 & half year. Just 2 days before my marriage my ... A: Well you definitely have some issues related to your husband and in-laws. There is nothing wrong ... | |
| Self Esteem? | 1/7/2009 |
| Q: I am a young woman (28) and aspiring actress and am having a problem with self worth. I honestly ... A: You have issues of having to be PERFECT... You believe that who and what you are is not “good ... | |
| Not a quick fix? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jade and im 17 years old. I was just wondering if maybe if you have the time, could we ... A: Yes, I’m free to chat or text with you... Presently I’m using Skype ... | |
| cutting/abuse/depression | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: My father yells at me and threats me on a daily basis. He says things like, "shut the F**k up or ill ... A: Where is your mother in all this, and why aren’t you living with her? You need to get out of ... | |
| cutting | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: i had a miscarriage in November and since then i have cut my index finger twice. i just start crying ... A: While there are a lot of things going on, I’m going to begin with the obvious and the not so ... | |
| Question. | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: Well what if it is al made up.Something tells me that some of it didn't happen.But a bigger part of ... A: Hitler was a Christian....... does that make him OK? Maybe you didn't have “proof”.. ... | |
| Question. | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: Well what if it is al made up.Something tells me that some of it didn't happen.But a bigger part of ... A: What you were doing with him is what you were doing in grade one with the gym teacher... Same stuff, ... | |
| Question. | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: Well what if it is al made up.Something tells me that some of it didn't happen.But a bigger part of ... A: I was only able to read maybe half of your Looooooong post.... no paragraphs, etc, was a hard read, ... | |
| My sexuality? | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm obsessed with breasts.I have a favorite teacher and I sometimes ... A: OK, I believe you are 13, and I assume you need to be 13 to post to allexperts. From what you ... | |
| My sexuality? | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm obsessed with breasts.I have a favorite teacher and I sometimes ... A: Where to begin? 1) I have doubts that you are 13 as your language is not typical of a 13 year old. ... | |
| best friend | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: um ok well im 17 and my question to you is that if im really close with a girl but not girl friend ... A: First.. there are two things going on.. 1) Your friend has a problem and needs someone to ... | |
| Finding a Path | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: Preamble: (feel free to skip this) I've always been extremely escapist, and I've never really dealt ... A: Hey Paul, I just so happen to have the book that I feel you are looking for.. I have a website ... | |
| Burned Out | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: For awhile, I would keep telling myself that I am fine and will get over it but as more things start ... A: First off, you can lie to me, but don’t lie to yourself... I’m going to copy your words ... | |
| Need help | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I know a girl. Sometimes she has severe pain in head and legs. For a while now she has resorted to ... A: There is a lot going on, so I’m going to get right to the point. 1) You can’t really ... | |
| 18 yo dealing with depression or BP | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I simply don't know what to do with myself anymore, as I only seem to get more and more depressed ... A: Your problem is not so much what is happening NOW... but what happened to you as a child... Things ... | |
| Depressed and unhealthy mom | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: In the past few years I've seen the slow deterioration of my mother's health, physically, mentally ... A: I don’t have a “Yes, this will do it” answer for you as it ultimately comes down ... | |
| Depression/Anxiety | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: I’ve always been a stressful person with money and had a big temper. My current job is fairly ... A: I don't have time or the desire to try to long wordy paragraphs... Break it down into something that ... | |
| Saving a long Marriage | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 28 years - and dated 3 years before that. I believe we have 31 years of ... A: I’m going to be totally honest with you. While your wife has issues, (self-sacrifice, duty, ... | |
| depression | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: my friend is so depressed she said she cant sleep and cant be bothered doing anything,she just sits ... A: There is not to much you can really do for her, if she doesn’t want to help herself.. what I ... | |
| depression | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: im 15 and ive been depressed since grade 3 or 4 and i just dont know wat to do, like i feel like ... A: You need to heal what was done to you when you were young. By that I mean that you have to allow ... | |
| depression | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: im 15 and ive been depressed since grade 3 or 4 and i just dont know wat to do, like i feel like ... A: So what happened in grade 3 that made you depressed.. as this is what needs to be healed. Doing ... | |
| depression | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: Well my problem is that I was living with my girlfriend for about 2 years, everything was perfect. ... A: Your girlfriend is not the real issue..although she is showing you where you have a pain and an ... | |
| Depressed | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I am not sure where to begin, other than the fact that I am feeling very down. It could be a number ... A: First off you can lie to me, but don’t lie to yourself.. In your first sentence you say >>>>> ... | |
| paranoid/depressed/ anxiety | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: i am 21 and have been suffering from depression for several years and i am recieving fluxotine. ... A: Doctors and their so-called wonder drugs, as you are experiencing, only mask the problem, they ... | |
| I'm a negative person | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: I am a very negative person. Very! I always have some sort of criticism on almost anything. I am 26 ... A: From one so-called negative person to another, let me say that you are NOT a negative person... ... | |
| Need some advice | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: I am a 31 year old woman. Married for 6 years next month. This is my second marriage and I love my ... A: As I finished reading your post I got the feeling that the reason you hate your son is that ... | |
| help | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I really need help. I am 20 year of age, and since the age of 8 or so, i started masturbation, i ... A: I have few questions for you, that you need to look at. 1) What made you become interested in sex ... | |
| Kind of depressed | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: I am a college student and I just failed a class off of something ****** stupid. I had 2 organic lab ... A: Hey Jason, Of course everything happens for a reason, as there are no coincidences.. As I see it, ... | |
| Cousins hurt me psychologically - HELP | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: 4 years ago i visited my family in America and saw 2 female cousins. Back then i was 14 and was an ... A: While you may think you are “over it” ..... you aren’t. You are just fooling ... | |
| Depression and my surroundings | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: My life has been one big long bad mood-at least I have been mostly depressed for the past ten years ... A: No it’s not easy and there is no “quick fix”.... While you may have been depressed ... | |
| I think im depressed. | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: I am a 20 year's old and belive that I am depressed. Talking about it, even online is hard for me, ... A: You already know the reason that you are depressed as you said it yourself...." ive always "acted" ... | |
| depression of sorts | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: Iwould like to as a question that at first might seema bit odd....why do I feel as if I want to ... A: Healing is possible but it's no "quick fix." Speaking of quick fixes, you mentioned going to the pub ... | |
| depression of sorts | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: Iwould like to as a question that at first might seema bit odd....why do I feel as if I want to ... A: My first feeling/thought in reading your question was that you are being activated by your ... | |
| wrist cutting | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: me and some friends are really into this whole wrist cutting thing but our little group are the only ... A: You are going around in circles, and again you don't give me a straight answer... I'm not picking ... | |
| wrist cutting | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: me and some friends are really into this whole wrist cutting thing but our little group are the only ... A: You never answered my question. Let me state it another way so that there is no misunderstanding. ... | |
| Depression | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: My problem is somewhat complicated, I think. I was a lively person with many friends and one who ... A: You said... "But the fear of not being able to satisfy my future".... You don't have a problem ... | |
| Depression | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: My problem is somewhat complicated, I think. I was a lively person with many friends and one who ... A: I'm confused by what you mean when you say... "I noticed a problem and that was my lack of sexual ... | |
| My partner gets depressive, frustrated and angry | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: After six years my partner and I have come to another major bump in the road where i wonder if i ... A: Wow! there is a lot going on. For starters, I'm going to break this down into two main areas and ... | |
| which one | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: Low self esteem or depression? i have low self esteem i hate being seen i stay in the house because ... A: Before I can even begin to help you, you need to help yourself. This is going to sound harsh, but ... | |
| my sister | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me I suffered from panic disorder and agoraphobia since i was 21 year old , ... A: Well you have a choice.. you aren't going to like what you are about to read, so stop right now.... ... | |
| my sister | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I am hoping you can help me I suffered from panic disorder and agoraphobia since i was 21 year old , ... A: . I felt that. It's interesting that just yesterday I had a another healing insight and it relates ... | |
| anxiety? | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: ok basically i do have a great life, im 27, single, great job, house etc no money worriesand a good ... A: You got it when you said... "i don't just want to get a girlfriend just for sake of it, cringe, but ... | |
| anxiety? | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: ok basically i do have a great life, im 27, single, great job, house etc no money worriesand a good ... A: First off, lets do a quick reality check! Your life is not great... because you feel like crap all ... | |
| He's pushing me away | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: I've only been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months, but they have been the most wonderful two ... A: Sounds to me like you are not the best friends you make yourselves out to be or you wouldn't be ... | |
| Depression | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: I am 32 and unemployed. Since last few years I am very depressed and whatever I do proves to be a ... A: I can't help you "forget" your old incidents or tell you how to overcome or over-power the ... | |
| i dont know if i can be helped..... | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: Reed, First thank you so much for taking the time to read this it might be a little long so i am ... A: Yes, you are messed up. If you are going to come out of this you are going to have to be totally ... | |
| Me | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: I am a 16 yr old boy i live in the uk. I jsut want to say ihave been depressed for few years. That ... A: Gays or lesbians have an issue of mental, emotional and/or sexual abuse that is rooted in their ... | |
| How do u offer help to a friend with depression with offending them? | 8/17/2007 |
| Q: I have a married friend who I have heard suffers from depression on and off. I care alot about him, ... A: You are not going to like what I'm going to say, but I don't "play games" so if you don't want to ... | |
| depression and suppression of the truth | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: I seem to have clinical depression (self diagnose) dose this ever get cured can i ever kick the meds ... A: You weren't honest with me from the start and I simply called you on it.. It's not my problem that ... | |
| depression | 8/14/2007 |
| Q: I seem to have clinical depression (self diagnose) dose this ever get cured can i ever kick the meds ... A: You may say that you are sincere, but that doesn't make it the truth... How can you have (self ... | |
| i dont feel anything | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: Its like i dont feel emotion at all not happyness or the felling of having fun humor anger empathy. ... A: Well if you know that you've been living with depression, than you also have to be aware of the who, ... | |
| physical side effects | 8/8/2007 |
| Q: i have been battling depression for about a month now. i looked up plenty remedies, but i know i ... A: Lets get two things straight right from the start... 1) You haven't been battling depression for ... | |
| depression and anti depressents | 8/4/2007 |
| Q: Over the last couple of months I have been overly emotional and have a hard time being myself and ... A: Like I said in my bio... I don't follow the modern "quick-fix" medical approach to treating the ... | |
| Pleasee advice | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I am 28 yr single virgin physically but not mentally, i am getting addicted to CFNM site ... A: Your question didn't hurt or offend me... If your question had been about that porn website... then ... | |
| Pleasee advice | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I am 28 yr single virgin physically but not mentally, i am getting addicted to CFNM site ... A: There was no need to add the porn link as it wasn't relative to your question... and I didn't buy ... | |
| am I suffering from depression | 4/7/2007 |
| Q: I am so confused about life anymore. I had confinace in my life until the age of 26, when my first ... A: It sounds like your life is falling apart... and that's good in that you will be given the ... | |
| my marriage after depression | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: i have been married for 3 1/2 yrs, im 27, my husband 28. i have a ton of depression in my family ... A: Healing ones past is not simple or easy, but it can be done... The key is becoming aware of your ... | |
| my marriage after depression | 4/1/2007 |
| Q: i have been married for 3 1/2 yrs, im 27, my husband 28. i have a ton of depression in my family ... A: You are not going to like what I going to say... so you have a choice... delete this email now.. or ... | |
| Guten Abend,Hans. | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: Guten Abend ,Hans! First, thank you for all your attention! Rewording the quote as you ... A: Guten Abend, Claudia, "What is wanted is not the will to believe but the wish to find out, which is ... | |
| Yes,me again,hello John | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: First I went through the main parts of your web-site´s contents the other day,because you had ... A: I have healed a lot since I've began my journey.. but there is still more to heal, on many levels... ... | |
| Hi John,again me | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: Oh dear,I am smiling here now but with a touch of frustration too: I never meant "multiple ... A: I was aware that English is not your primary language... but you still speak it better that I would ... | |
| Hi again ,John! | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: I still don´t know how to solve my problem,the "how-to connect the pieces" hasn´t changed, ... A: Well this is and interesting thread to say the least... As I read your post I was thinking/feeling ... | |
| I have read you now,and hello again, | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: Greeting you ! I might undeceive in my honesty now,here,I´m sorry John. (Oh how human we are all ... A: Well I must say that this e-mail is totally opposite your first one... as in this one, I feel a ... | |
| not sure | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: I really don´t know what the exact "question" is or might be. I have been reading so many things ... A: As I read your last paragraph, tears came to my eyes... You got it!!! And yes it is complicated... ... | |
| I don't know what to do anymore | 3/24/2007 |
| Q: and hopefully reply to this. I think I may be depressed. After a lot of hard thinking, I realized ... A: There is a lot going on, but for now I'm just going to focus on a key phrase that you said... "I ... | |
| i need help with my depression! | 3/13/2007 |
| Q: how can i get over my depression? what if i feel like killing myself? What should i do? A: Simple question.. No simple answer. Depression is general word used to describe something that is ... | |
| I think my boyfriend's depressed | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: I've been seeing my boyfriend for almost a year. He's a musician and in the summer he decided to ... A: You say that you "feel like I'm partly responsible for his current crisis" but you don't give any ... | |
| Partner Depression | 11/10/2006 |
| Q: I wonder if you can help me in any way. My partner has been suffering from depression on and off ... A: Your girl friends depression goes back to her childhood in that she has issues of abandonment, loss ... | |
| can you please help me?? | 11/4/2006 |
| Q: Can u please help me? I have a serious problem related 2 ma life ..can u help? i am doind ma engg ... A: As long as you are wanting to go in the direction you are, there is nothing that I or anyone can ... | |
| Depressed Dad | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: I hope you might be able to give me some advice. I am a healthy male aged 33. I am happily married ... A: Two things that come to mind as I read your question were. 1)One thing that you've missed is that ... | |
| smoking as a stress reliever? | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old college student, and while I do not smoke myself, I have a lot of friends who ... A: Smoking is a means of covering up the emotions that they feel they can't express or deal with.. ... | |
| Suffering from long time depression | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: I am 22 year old boy. I have been suffred from depression since more than 4 years. When i was 15 ... A: Well you have a lot going on but I feel there are two main issues, school and sex. Have you ... | |
| I need help | 8/17/2006 |
| Q: I thought i was useless person already, no value,too much different abuse, i was already emotionally ... A: You say "with all scars all over my heart, nobody can touch me cuz i m so scared and hurt, and i can ... | |
| i think i have a mental problem and i hate it | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: i tried to do your exercise, i didnt feel i achieved it with the success i would have hoped, i tried ... A: Give yourself a (((BIG HUG))) as even ONE tear is enough, as that means the emotions are starting to ... | |
| I need help | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: I was doing jounal and reading a lot these days, feel better... I realized i was putting myself in ... A: Sex is meant to be an expression of unconditional love. Problem is that what we think is ... | |
| Can depression cause this? | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: The other day my obgyn was concerned that I've been ignoring symptoms. I told her the reason was ... A: Denial and the suppression of emotions experienced during a traumatic experience or prolonged ... | |
| i think i have a mental problem and i hate it | 8/13/2006 |
| Q: what use to make me cry was when i thought about why my mum left, fighting with my dad, my best ... A: Whenever we have a traumatic experience we fragment, that is, we break off the part of us that is ... | |
| i think i have a mental problem and i hate it | 8/12/2006 |
| Q: sorry, it dan as in danielle. thankyou for answering my question. ive never had anyone say it that ... A: ) I had a feeling that you were feminine, but my mind over-rode it as I thought that you were a guy ... | |
| i think i have a mental problem and i hate it | 8/11/2006 |
| Q: i dont know what my problem is and i cant admit it to myself or bring myself to actually see someone ... A: While it may have become apparent to you a few months ago, this didn't start then, it started way ... | |
| I need help | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: I can not open the link i think cuz of i not living in usa... I started to write a little, it ... A: The first link I sent you opened for me, but I sent you a slightly different one in your other post ... | |
| I need help | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: I will do that, even if it is painful to relive and write... but I can not open the link? is it ... A: Yes that is the link...it opened for me... Here is another way to get to it ... | |
| I need help | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: yes, i started to write journal a few days ago, i tried earlier this year, but too clounded of the ... A: Seeing that you were abused as a child, why not try to write about the abuse you suffered at the ... | |
| I need help | 8/9/2006 |
| Q: ... I desire to change...I know it is so slow, and too much pain..but i have no other way if i want ... A: I can't tell you who you are, as that is something that you are going to have find out for yourself. ... | |
| I need help | 8/8/2006 |
| Q: I m 37 years old ,from dyfunctional family , lots of trauma, and now i finally got this depression, ... A: You were in a dysfunction family and you also created one. This process took 37 years and you aren't ... | |
| talking too much | 7/22/2006 |
| Q: I need your help with a big problem that I have. I talk way too much and say every thing. That has ... A: There are two basic questions that you need to look at and while they seem to contradict each other, ... | |
| depression | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: I'm a 26 year old married teacher, and I am constantly fighting off massive bouts of depression. ... A: Well you said it all and you also know what the problem is, it's just that you can't see the tree ... | |
| fighting instruction | 7/12/2006 |
| Q: once you have exhausted your natural capacity to fight adverse feelings in a depressive cycle, like ... A: You can fight, run, give up, or you can surrender. By surrender, I mean surrender to love, ... | |
| HELP ME! | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: God! Where should I start! Well first of all, I guess my problem is not so uniqe, but still, it’s a ... A: Yes, you certainly have a lot going on. So where to start? I'm going to make several brief points to ... | |
| Different mental pb. | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: I am 18 years old. I get the feeling from inside of how to do the basic things of life such as how ... A: If it all started 2 years ago, then there's no point trying to look for things in the present ... | |
| Depression/anxiety from a poss virus | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: I take your point on the "doctor" adage. I think doctors by way of our system treat symptoms and ... A: Seeing a psychologist or therapist will only if help both (you and them) have the intent to not only ... | |
| Depression/anxiety from a poss virus | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: I will start keeping a journal and see if it highlights anything. Many thanks again for the help. ... A: You are welcome. BTW, I am not a so-called "Doctor" in that I don't have a university or "other" ... | |
| Depression and related issue | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: well reed actualyy she was married to some person but their married life was not happy. I suspect ... A: I don't feel that the pills that she took two years ago while trying to commit suicide are to blame ... | |
| Depression/anxiety from a poss virus | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: I apprciate you taking the time. But although i can accept your comments I have no real idea how to ... A: The best advice that I can give you, to get you going, and to make you aware of what is going on in ... | |
| Depression/anxiety from a poss virus | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: Your comments make a lot of sense. Howver I am not consciously trying to repress anything that maybe ... A: Numbing yourself with tranquilizers when you were 27, so that you don't remember what is stressing ... | |
| Depression and related issue | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: 2 years back my girlfriend 60 sleeping pills to kill herself. fortunately she was recovered and now ... A: Thirty four words doesn't tell me much. I'm sorry but are you asking me a question about YOUR ... | |
| Depression/anxiety from a poss virus | 7/2/2006 |
| Q: I have been having symptoms of a virus-;ole infection, for about two months, headaches, sweats, ... A: Well first off you have two things going on and while they appear to be separate, they are related. ... | |
| Very sad... | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: I am not sure if this is your area of expertise, but I will try to explain what I am feeling. I am ... A: While I, in part, agree with you, there is however, more to the story. While you are focused on ... | |
| help kicking depression to the curb | 6/12/2006 |
| Q: I am 24 and have been dealing with persistant depression since I was 15 after my mother died from ... A: Sorry but I can't help you there as I've long since gotten away from listening to "feel good" ... | |
| I no longer care anymore... | 5/6/2006 |
| Q: old. I've been a devoted follower of the Lord for 10yrs. and He's the best thing that has ever ... A: I'm not confused, but I know you are. If you have been a devote follower of the Lord for the past 10 ... | |
| will i have babys | 4/18/2006 |
| Q: i get it 1 month and then nothing for 4 months or 3 . i do think alot and because of tht i dont eat ... A: You say you have been feeing down the past seven months but you didn't say why? You also say that ... | |
| Re: | 4/11/2006 |
| Q: I know that you can't help. It's ok, no problem baby. You see how handle my problem. How I fight ... A: Simon, I'm not respomsible for what YOU think, feel or do anymore than you are responsible for what ... | |
| Re: | 4/9/2006 |
| Q: I'm sorry, but the question is too long and involved to give it the considered answer it deserves. ... A: I've already told you my answer in my first reply to your same question. You like to talk but, you ... | |
| Help | 4/8/2006 |
| Q: Why are you studying? I want to learnt driving car then I want to learnt computer lesson. Are you ... A: You say," I am kind of guy don't give a dam. That's the time year 2005 I change myself to the beast ... | |
| Help | 4/8/2006 |
| Q: the social works, job agencies & my relative to help me, no one wants to help me. No one understands ... A: Well first off you are confused and trying to do two different and opposite things at the same time. ... | |
| depression | 3/29/2006 |
| Q: hey i was wondering if you could give me some reasons for why teens experience depression and some ... A: Hey Josh, There are as many reasons why teens experience depression and they all stem from some ... | |
| I am 19. I find it very difficult... | 3/27/2006 |
| Q: I am 19. I find it very difficult to stay focussed on things. For example, I love music. There is no ... A: It's interesting that you ask me this question as I'm going through similar issues in writing my ... | |
| Consultation | 3/25/2006 |
| Q: " I have the following symptoms. Please help me. I am in need of urgent help • Sudden day dreams ... A: You ahve a lot going on but I feel that what you are describing is related. The waking dreams are ... | |
| Medicine as a means of treating depression? | 3/22/2006 |
| Q: We may know all the causes of depression, but is medicine the best way to treat it? Will taking ... A: If we modern medicine really knew the cause of depression, as they claim, then there wouldn't be any ... | |
| Why? | 3/9/2006 |
| Q: I'm really fed up. I mean really mad as hell right now. I turn 29 years old on Sunday and I've never ... A: OK, there's a lot here and what I'm going to do is point out the key words or phrases and then lump ... | |
| Need your help | 6/24/2005 |
| Q: I really need your help, first i tell about myself, im 24 male live in india. Im ... A: Sorry for the delay but my computer died and I'm now using the one at the library. You are right ... | |
| Environmental causes of depression | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: Could you tell me if the weather (I am not talking about "seasonal affective disorder)specifically ... A: It's not the present weather or storms that can cause one to become depressed, but rather, it is ... | |
| constantly depressed | 6/5/2005 |
| Q: my name is Morgan and I can't remember a time in my life when I've been truly happy. I have always ... A: The reason you have never truly been happy in this life experience is because what you have been ... | |
| Trapped in a dense "fog" | 1/9/2004 |
| Q: My wife suffers from something that would traditionally be called a sleep disorder. After sleeping ... A: Sleep is the form of escape that your wife discovered as a child. Others use alcohol, smoking, ... | |
| need help dealing with accident | 8/12/2003 |
| Q: My husband and I were in a bad accident March 29. My 5 year old stepson was killed instantly. my 9 ... A: There are no coincidences and your step-son chose his transition for whatever reason he had and also ... | |
Dealing with Depression
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I do not follow traditional methods of therapy that treat the outer symptoms or give the illusion of a cure with a bandage approach in order to make one "feel good" by denying the real issues, the inner causes. I have eleven intensive years of personal experience in many "NEW AGE" areas that have lead me to discover new ways and methods of REAL emotional healing and in turn also healing our mental and physical bodies. I work with healing ALL emotions, the mental blocks holding them in place and the physical manifestations they represent. I use the knowledge and insights I have gained through either personal experience or my experience in working with others on their healing journey. I also use my intuition and other abilities to assist others to touch and begin to heal their real issues. If you have intent to HEAL your emotions and to take responsibility for your personal well being then I may be able to assist you. If you are looking for a quick fix, don`t ask me. Reed
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