About Sylvia Bergthold Expertise I can answer questions dealing with roommate situations including compatability, leases, placing roommate wanted ads, what you have to offer to a roommate, sharing of utilities and other services, interviewing techniques and questions, some legal aspects of housesharing, clearance information, etc.
Experience I have had roommates in my home for over 32 years and am the author of:
"SORRY, THE BOA HAS GOTTA GO!" A Roommate Survival Guide
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i live in a college dorm with a roommate, but i hope you can give
insight into my problem anyways.
my roommate comes in around 4am-6am most days of the week
after partying all night. this is not a problem because i sleep
deeply and do not rouse very easily.
what causes problem is the fact that she comes back to the
room after her morning classes and falls asleep around noon,
and sleeps for most of the afternoon, when i am trying to get
work done in the room. and by God, she SNORES the whole time,
almost as bad as a lawnmower, to the point that instead of
studying i'm thinking about what objects to throw at her to get
her to stop snoring.
i have a lot of books and the library's far away, and i think since
it's my room i should be able to study in it. but i also don't want
to interfere in my roommate's lifestyle and tell her to come
home early and to sleep at regular hours. but i really can't seem
to tolerate her terrible snoring. what should i do?
Julia
Answer Hi Julia
Well I see colleges are still pairing the wrong people together, that hasn't changed over the years. I really really wish they would read my Roommate Survival Guide to get some pointers...
Your roommate is a night owl and you are a morning person. There in lies the BIG problem and it is bigger than her loud snoring. You are at college to study and she is there to party....simple as that.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Have your roommate use one of those strange little devices that you put on your nose for snoring. I understand they work quite well. INSIST she wear it.
2. I agree that since it is your room you should be able to study in it. School dorm rooms are made up with a bed and a DESK....hello, that is for studying isn't it? HER lifestyle is interferring with COLLEGE, okay? You are paying big bucks to get an education and if you can't study, why bother?....you might as well flush your bucks down the toilet.
3. Have the school assign you another roommate that is there to go to school, not to party. There usually is at least one dorm just for partiers....have your roommate transfer to that one.
4. Get one of those book carriers on wheels and study in the library instead of your noisy room
That is all I can come up with at this time. You might also talk to the school counselors regarding this problem. You need to roommate with someone who is compatible ...has basically the same regards for school and studying you do. It is not that difficult...honest.
Good luck
Sincerely
Sylvia Bergthold
www.aroommatesurvivalguide.com
