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About Sylvia Bergthold
Expertise
I can answer questions dealing with roommate situations including compatability, leases, placing roommate wanted ads, what you have to offer to a roommate, sharing of utilities and other services, interviewing techniques and questions, some legal aspects of housesharing, clearance information, etc.

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I have had roommates in my home for over 32 years and am the author of:
"SORRY, THE BOA HAS GOTTA GO!" A Roommate Survival Guide

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The Los Angeles Times, The HB-FV Independent, The Arizona Tribune, Lansing Michigan Rental Guide, Roommate Locator Newsletter, The Plain Dealer,, Las Vegas Sun, Apartment Lifestyles Magazine, Instyle Magazine, The Whiz.com, Cosmopolitan, Under 25, The Portsmouth Herald

 
   

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Topic: Dealing with Roommates



Expert: Sylvia Bergthold
Date: 12/20/2006
Subject: major roomate problems

Question
The apartment you speak of is in actual a townhome being rented. In the agreement it says that the townhome may be changed/ updated in any way the renter's sees it just as long as everything is put back how it was when the lease is up. Also I had talked to my landlord 1 month prior to moving out and he understood what was going on in the townhome. Then  1 month later cleaned up the room and put a lock on the door. Few weeks after that is when I went to get the last of my mail and my room was broken into with someone else's stuff in there. I then bought a camera and personally took the landlord into the townhome to show him the poor conditions and damage done to the townhome from my roommate. The unwanted guest were loungeing in the townhome while the landlord was making his inspection so he physically saw them..... now should i still try to sue her?? The landlord even said he would make a note of what was happening.... I tried to get my name off the lease as well.. but in order to do that my roommate needed to be financially able to pay for the place as well as sign her name on an agreement to take my name off the lease and she wouldn't. I told her to put her boyfriends name on the lease.. she wouldn't do it though...
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So it all started off that my roommate and I signed a one year lease agreement together. I moved out 2 months before the lease was up because of my roommates poor decision-making and her uncleanliness. She would basically party every night of the week and leaving the place a complete dump(leaving me with no sleep,stress, and a mess to pick up after her). Also now she has boyfriends that stay their every night(basically living there now) without my consent and not part of the agreement. Before I left I had cleaned out the bedroom I had occupied and put a lock on the door so no one would be allowed in there. I go back to the townhome about 3-4 weeks after I moved out to find the "boyfriends" still occupying the home, uncleanliness to the home, and damage brought upon the house including my room(basically my room was broken into and is being occupied by someone else). My question is what legal actions can I put upon my roommate and can I sue her for anything including the rent I still pay at the home(even when they basically took over my space of the home)...????
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Hi Natalie

You should have gone to the apartment manager/landlord and told him what was going on.  Handling the situation as you did could get you in trouble.

First: you put a lock on your bedroom door. Unless you gave a key to the landlord, this was probably forbidden by the lease agreement. ALL landlords HAVE to have access to everyroom in every apartment due to Fire Codes.

Second: you should have told the landlord you were moving because of all the "activity" that is going on in your apartment, including the "overnight" guests. Also given him a WRITTEN 30 day notice you were moving out stating the above reasons. You DID NOT sign up for this in your lease agreement. It was just originally you and your roommate.

Third:  you probably should have stopped paying rent and utilities. The reason is you now had NO CONTROL over what was happening in the apartment because you were no longer there.

Fourth:  You should have had your name removed off the lease when you decided to move out. NOW you are also responsible for any damages to the place due to your roommate and her "friends".  You are an equal signer on the the lease therefore that makes you equally responsible. And no you cannot assume the landlord will know WHO caused the damage and when.  It will be your word against your roommates.

Fifth: The landlord will generally go after the roommate that is still occupying the place for the entire rent. He is NOT going to go chasing all over town to collect from you.  I understand WHY you did this however. You didn't want your roommate to get evicted for non-payment of rent because your name would also appear on the eviction notice. That would send your credit rating into the toilet.

Sixth: You can TRY suing your roommate in court but I wouldn't hold out too much hope.  She is a number one A Flake and trying to collect a court ordered judgement (assuming you win the case), is another whole problem. You would probably have to have her wages garnished to get your money (very very slowly) if at all. My advice here is to bite the bullet, suffer your losses and go on with your life (without your roommate of course).

As I see this whole scenario Natalie, it is apparent that you were totally incompatible with each other for various reasons.  Also you did NOT write out a separate roommate agreement outlining what rules you wanted to live by. That is a very necessary step when sharing your living environment.  

Hope this helped you some.

Sincerely
Sylvia Bergthold
www.aroommatesurvivalguide.com


Answer
Hi again Natalie

Well it sounds like you did absolutely everything possible to legally get out of this arrangement, including talking to the landlord.  At least you made him aware of what is going on which is good.  And let's hope he will write up a letter for you to take to the courts.

And yes, in your case, I think I would go ahead and sue your roommate. Like I previously said, you might not get anywhere in court but you can give it a try.

Of course your roommate wouldn't sign anything to get you off the lease....she is getting a free ride in this deal.

Good Luck to you.

Sincerely
Sylvia Bergthold
www.aroommatesurvivalguide.com


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