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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Stress management | 1/21/2012 | James Middleton |
| Q: Hey James, Before we get started I don't have any stress issues and I'm perfectly healthy. ... A: You are not alone, many keen students have difficulties very similar to yourself. One of the things ... | ||
| stress | 12/19/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: What you are describing is more common than you think. So at least you know you are not alone. It ... | ||
| Crazy Thoughts | 11/11/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: Yes, sadly the doctors do work against time. I would suggest that you go back to see her again, and ... | ||
| Difficult Supervisor | 11/2/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I'm a U.S. citizen on working holiday in New Zealand. I've been here for seven months now, and have ... A: There's nothing worse than bad, and bullying managers - I am sorry you are in this situation. ... | ||
| Stress and exhaustion | 10/21/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I have had a lot of stress in my life lately, including a stressful job as a live-in caregiver for ... A: You do have a very stressful job. It sounds like your stress may be causing the tiredness in the ... | ||
| Crazy Thoughts | 10/18/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: When you see the psychologist, tell them what you have been experiencing. Give as much information ... | ||
| Crazy Thoughts | 10/16/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: It sounds like you would get a great deal of help from a CBT therapist - (Cognitive Behavioural ... | ||
| Crazy Thoughts | 10/16/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: You are asking interesting questions that indicate a growing spiritual awareness. The first thing ... | ||
| Post Surgical Depression. | 10/14/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I recently underwent arthroscopic surgery for femoroacetabular impingement syndrome. In the weeks ... A: It seems that your ex-wife needed to confirm to you a side of you that you may have taken for ... | ||
| My Dad | 10/9/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I am a 45 year old woman. My dad (who is in his 70s) has been a functional alcoholic my entire life. ... A: Your dad is an alcoholic. Alcoholics can go on and off drinking. Even stop for a year or two or ... | ||
| Post Surgical Depression. | 10/4/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I recently underwent arthroscopic surgery for femoroacetabular impingement syndrome. In the weeks ... A: I am not an expert on clinical depression or any other medical matters, but I would like to explain ... | ||
| Dealing with Thoughts | 9/20/2011 | Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I hope that I'm addressing this question to the right person. I find that I have trouble keeping up ... A: It is a good thing to have a lot of things going on in your head - but when they are stressful that ... | ||
| STRESS | 8/13/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: my doc related my breathing problem with stress...However i never feel stressed out, unless there is ... A: If you don't feel stressed out then it may not be stress you are experiencing. Are you finding your ... | ||
| What can I say to GP if I'm simply tired? | 7/27/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I have this question. Recently I found that after a hard day's work, I can feel tired at home and ... A: It might be worth telling your GP that you feel tired after the end of the day. It could be a sign ... | ||
| My Mother and Grandmother Stress Me Out | 7/13/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I would like to preface this question with saying that I love my mother and grandmother dearly and ... A: Firstly I promise I will not say "talk to them" because that is clearly not a solution. The ... | ||
| Stress and Agression | 6/18/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I keep having huge fights with my mother; which usually end up in physical fighting between the two ... A: You are so right - hating your mother is not a solution. I once read somewhere that hating someone ... | ||
| Girlfriend Depression/Anger being caused by Stress | 6/4/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: my name is Chris I'm kinda at my wits end for helping my girlfriend's depression at the moment we ... A: You do find yourself between a rock and a hard place here because if you help her so does not ... | ||
| Constantly stressed about parents health | 5/17/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I have a lot of anxiety surrounding healh issues. My own yes, but lately more so about my mom and ... A: This is a challenging situation that happened for a reason. In a sense you are fortunate in that ... | ||
| panic attacks and difficult breathing | 5/11/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: I think you need to stop worrying about the reason for not being able to expand your chest. ... | ||
| DEPRESSION AND PANIC ATTACKS | 5/11/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: It has been found that for help with these kinds of breathing difficulties, mindfulness of breathing ... | ||
| panic attacks and difficult breathing | 5/6/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: There are two things you need to do: Of course the first thing is deep breathing. Twice a day, go ... | ||
| DEPRESSION AND PANIC ATTACKS | 5/6/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: Often Anti depressants and tablets for anxiety can cause the symptoms you describe. I would ... | ||
| Paranoid? | 4/26/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: Recently (although they have stopped now) my parents were arguing every weekend/week for 3 weeks I ... A: Anytime parents argue, children can often feel to blame for the rows. These situations are always ... | ||
| I'm stressed | 4/26/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: You recently posted a question to Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. in category Dealing with Stress: Hi ... A: I'm sure Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. will also provide some helpful advice. From what you describe, ... | ||
| Busy and stressful time in my life | 3/8/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I was wondering if you could give me some tips on how to deal with the big stresses in my life right ... A: You are right in putting your friendship aside. Either the friendship has served its purpose, or ... | ||
| Family drama with brother | 2/14/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: Recently, I had a falling out with my sis-in-law. I was informed of her possible infidelity and ... A: The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath. Then focus on your own issues and get the ... | ||
| stressed out boyfriend | 2/8/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: My boyfriend and have been dating for almost a year. The first 8 months of our relationship were ... A: My apologies for the delayed response - computer systems sometimes have glitches ;-) It feels to me ... | ||
| stressed out | 1/24/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I am 23 year old Indian girl. Being Indian, in our society, it is only accepted that children, ... A: i understand your dilemma. There seems to be some amount of guilt involved in both the options ... | ||
| stressed out | 1/24/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I am 23 year old Indian girl. Being Indian, in our society, it is only accepted that children, ... A: These kinds of issues are more common than we would think, and the nature of your background culture ... | ||
| scattered mind | 1/7/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I've been having quite a bit of trouble and I was wondering if you could help. Currently I prefer ... A: The sign of a scattered mind, and inability to focus is almost always a result of excess stress. If ... | ||
| Sensitivity | 1/4/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: Middleton, I get stressed out easily when I let something bother me. For instance, friends who ... A: as you have raised an interesting point. If your friends are male, then it is more than likely that ... | ||
| Sensitivity | 1/4/2011 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: Smit, I get stressed out easily when I let something bother me. For instance, friends who ... A: You answered your question in the first sentence when you said "when I let something bother me". ... | ||
| Stressed Out Boyfriend | 1/2/2011 | James Middleton |
| Q: I am writing to you because my boyfriend doesn't believe in getting help and I am trying desperately ... A: You could suggest indirectly that you had a friend in a similar situation, who was helped a great ... | ||
| Surprise pregnancy | 12/31/2010 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I am 41 years old and have been married for almost 25 years. My husband and I have three daughters. ... A: Emily has set a real challenge for you ;-) For 17 years she was used to being the "baby" and that ... | ||
| Stress & Anxiety | 12/7/2010 | James Middleton |
| Q: I am 18 years old and I have been on here many times trying to get help with all my problems in ... A: Of course you don't really need therapy. It just so happens to be the fastest most efficient way of ... | ||
| Stress & Anxiety | 12/6/2010 | James Middleton |
| Q: I am 18 years old and I have been on here many times trying to get help with all my problems in ... A: Many people have similar problems and are helped a great deal by the judicious visiting of a good ... | ||
| Losing it | 11/25/2010 | James Middleton |
| Q: James I am a transit bus driver in a busy growing Canadian city. I can deal with the stressful ... A: Sorry for the delay in responding. If you love the "driving" part of the job, maybe it's time to ... | ||
| Fears and self doubts | 11/20/2010 | James Middleton |
| Q: First off, thank you for what you are doing to help others here. I am a lady in my early 50's. I ... A: With this lifelong problem your best answer would be to find a professional hypnotherapist who can ... | ||
| Overprotective mother | 11/7/2010 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: My name is Dianny (I actually live in the United States - New York) and I have a question about my ... A: My apologies - for some reason this system never delivered your question to me on time. It sounds ... | ||
| should i share or not? | 11/5/2010 | Elsabe Smit |
| Q: I am a muslim. It has been almost 7yr since i got married.i have children too.My husband is very ... A: I would suggest that you invite your friends for a relaxed visit. Then you can mention how much it ... | ||
Dealing with Stress
Answers by Expert:
Elsabe Smit
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
Stress is the result of an inner conflict or a conflict between you and the world around you. I deal with relationships (marriage, divorce, teams in business), parenting, money issues, bereavement, conflict, and major life events (serious illness, redundancy).
Experience
Trained as psychologist, NLP master practitioner, highly intuitive. Uses a unique and holistic approach that focuses on removing physical and emotional pain.
Publications
Published various academic textbooks as author, co-author and editor.
Education/Credentials
Master's Degree in Industrial psychology, Master's Degree in Business Administration
Past/Present Clients
Businesses with change management, conflict management, communication and teamwork.
Individuals with divorce, relationship issues, career crises, personal growth, money issues, mid-life crises.
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