AboutJames Middleton Expertise I am happy answering questions about handling stress and panic attacks, overwork and similar problems.
Experience I am a practicing hypnotherapist of 18 years experience and a qualified Occupational Therapist in community mental health.
Organizations belong to Council for Professions Supplementary to Medicine, Member of the National Register of Advanced Hypnotherapists, Full member of ANLP.
Publications UK Journal of Association for Neurolinguistic Processing.
Education/Credentials Dip Cot, Certificate in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy, Certificate in Co-counselling, Reiki 1, Reiki 2, and Reiki Masters. Practitioner of NLP
Awards and Honors WARP Freefall Coach for the British Parachute Association.
Question QUESTION: hi please can you help me i think im going mad or going to loose it. i have a 18 year old daughter who is really stressing me out to the point i cant take no more, i feel scared and confused and like im going to explode, but she dont care what can i do im scared incase i have to go to hospital
ANSWER: Hi Sandra,
You need to have a talk with your GP and see if they can offer any parenting support or advice for you. You should ask as well if they have a dedicated counsellor who can help you cope with these feelings.
If you are able to see a counsellor or therapist for a month or more, then this will really help.
Find some time for things that make you feel better, maybe a long bath, walk in the park, chat with a good friend, or watching a favourite TV program.
See if you can find a good relaxation or self hypnosis CD that you can use on a daily basis - this should help too.
I hope this is helpful, let me know if you need anything else.
Warm regards,
James
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QUESTION: im so sorry to bother u again , my daughter is 18, is this still classed as a teenager, as she is moody constantly this is whats stressing me, could it be her age adolecence? hormonal?
am i alone or do other people have the same problems like me with teenagers
ANSWER: Hi Sandra,
This is difficult to know without seeing you both together.
It would be a good idea to insist she go with you to the GP's and explain how things are between you, and what your experience of your daughter is.
It could also be possible that there is another underlying reason your daughter is being so moody - perhaps using drugs or alcohol, or simply as you say, hormonal.
Lots of others have similar difficulties to you. You don't mention it - but are you a single parent? Often, when these troubles occur - it's because of the hard time children can have coming to terms with just growing up without what they feel is the right support.
I hope this is helfpul, let me know if you need anything else.
Warm regards,
James
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QUESTION: James i know for a fact she is not on drugs or drink or smoke.i am married, the thing is james i try to dicsipline her i.e where u going what u doing ect like still my baby.and she says im nagging her. maybe the stress i have im taking hers on and not letting go of her because i love her and worry about her but im always Qeaustioning her? maybe i should just let her live her life and maybe she will learn ? i dont know i feel i need some advice on what i might be doing wrong
Answer Hi Sandra,
I don't think you are doing anything wrong - apart from feeling over concerned for her safety.
The trouble is, children end up thinking we are interfering with their chance to grow up, be an adult, and make their own decisions. They can end up feeling belittled and childish.
I would think some counselling help from your GP will help you come to terms with your daughter growing up, and finally leaving home.
