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Long story short friends I thought cared about me and respected me hurt me for no reason and I tried asking them what I did wrong when all I did was support and respect them, they didn't answer me at all-only blocked me and anyone else who is their friend in common and is trying to ask them what I did wrong-they block too.
Some info : One of them-a man who was like an older brother to me-was always kind and respectful.

But he told me to add his gf and out of respect for the guy, I did, and she was nice to me as well for a bit, and we got along well and she said she adored me and loved me to death-especially when I reported her abusive friend who punched her in the face and bruised her eye. But I sent her tons of poems and notes to help her cheer up and I made tons of videos to her for respect.

And last week, she unfriended me for NO reason in all honesty and before she did she wrote the following on my wall : Hi N bye, b**ch mwaaaahahaha xxxx
And I was absolutely SHOCKED. Someone who I thought cared for me and respected me did that to me.

And when I questioned my 'brother' he blocked me too and gave NO answer. I get that he loves this woman, but what the heck did I do wrong?! Are these people mentally ill?

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Hi

It sounds like you were used by these people because you made them feel good about themselves.

Now they no longer need you and they don't know how to tell you that.

I would say thank them for having accepted the gift of your friendship, because you are a good friend and it is their loss.

Then move on and accept the other lovely people who want to be friends with you.

Kind regards
Elsabe

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Elsabe Smit

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Stress is the result of an inner conflict or a conflict between you and the world around you. I deal with relationships (marriage, divorce, teams in business), parenting, money issues, bereavement, conflict, and major life events (serious illness, redundancy).

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Trained as psychologist, NLP master practitioner, highly intuitive. Uses a unique and holistic approach that focuses on removing physical and emotional pain.

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Published various academic textbooks as author, co-author and editor.

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Master's Degree in Industrial psychology, Master's Degree in Business Administration

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Businesses with change management, conflict management, communication and teamwork. Individuals with divorce, relationship issues, career crises, personal growth, money issues, mid-life crises.

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