Dealing with Stress/Future Fears !

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Greetings !
Hoping all is well.
Lately I have been under a great deal of stress.  These past several years have been economically and socially challenging for me and I also constantly worry about my future.  I'm at total standstill with extremely limited resources -- both economically and socially -- and my mind goes through several repetitive fears. I try to relax the best way I can.........lately I've seen a bit of an improvement to the point where I'm often quite listless.......I also fear that past mistakes and nasty people from the past may come back to haunt me.
What is the best way I can learn to cope and deal with this stress at this point ?
Thanks !

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Hi Albert

There are a few things you can do to get rid of these fears.

The first thing is to breathe deeply in and out a few times every day.  When we get stressed, we forget to breathe deeply enough, and as a result our bodies are deprived of oxygen.  That adds to the stress.  Find a quiet place, and spend five minutes just breathing.  Breathe in all the goodness that you want in your life, and breathe out all the toxins and burdens that you don't want in your life.  Don't worry about any thoughts that might plague you while you do this.  Acknowledge the thoughts, but then give them a biscuit and tell them you will deal with them later because you are too busy breathing now.

The next thing is ti spend time day-dreaming and focusing on what you want for yourself.  Don't be shy when doing this.  Dream as big as you can, and if a part of your dream then becomes real, you will still be pleased.

Also make a list every day of the things you are grateful for.  Ensure that you add at least five things every day to your list.

Finally, make a list of the people you don't want back in your life, and the things you don't want to repeat.  Then, for each person and situation separately, make a list of the things you learned from that person or situation about yourself.  Focus on the lessons that has made you wiser and stronger, and do this until you can thank every person for their contribution to your life.  Once you have done that, those people will not need to come back into your life, and you will not need them back either.

You are going to be a different person with wonderful prospects for the future within the next few weeks if you do all of the above.

Does this help?

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Stress is the result of an inner conflict or a conflict between you and the world around you. I deal with relationships (marriage, divorce, teams in business), parenting, money issues, bereavement, conflict, and major life events (serious illness, redundancy).

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Trained as psychologist, NLP master practitioner, highly intuitive. Uses a unique and holistic approach that focuses on removing physical and emotional pain.

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Published various academic textbooks as author, co-author and editor.

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Master's Degree in Industrial psychology, Master's Degree in Business Administration

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Businesses with change management, conflict management, communication and teamwork. Individuals with divorce, relationship issues, career crises, personal growth, money issues, mid-life crises.

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