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Dealing with Stress/Questions Answered by Expert James Middleton
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Stress management | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: Hey James, Before we get started I don't have any stress issues and I'm perfectly healthy. ... A: You are not alone, many keen students have difficulties very similar to yourself. One of the things ... | |
| stress | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: What you are describing is more common than you think. So at least you know you are not alone. It ... | |
| Difficult Supervisor | 11/2/2011 |
| Q: I'm a U.S. citizen on working holiday in New Zealand. I've been here for seven months now, and have ... A: There's nothing worse than bad, and bullying managers - I am sorry you are in this situation. ... | |
| Crazy Thoughts | 10/16/2011 |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right category for you on which i am about to ask. I am a 23 year old ... A: It sounds like you would get a great deal of help from a CBT therapist - (Cognitive Behavioural ... | |
| STRESS | 8/13/2011 |
| Q: my doc related my breathing problem with stress...However i never feel stressed out, unless there is ... A: If you don't feel stressed out then it may not be stress you are experiencing. Are you finding your ... | |
| What can I say to GP if I'm simply tired? | 7/27/2011 |
| Q: I have this question. Recently I found that after a hard day's work, I can feel tired at home and ... A: It might be worth telling your GP that you feel tired after the end of the day. It could be a sign ... | |
| DEPRESSION AND PANIC ATTACKS | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: It has been found that for help with these kinds of breathing difficulties, mindfulness of breathing ... | |
| DEPRESSION AND PANIC ATTACKS | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: I have problems of panic attacks and depression from ten years. i visited a psychiatrist who ... A: Often Anti depressants and tablets for anxiety can cause the symptoms you describe. I would ... | |
| Paranoid? | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: Recently (although they have stopped now) my parents were arguing every weekend/week for 3 weeks I ... A: Anytime parents argue, children can often feel to blame for the rows. These situations are always ... | |
| I'm stressed | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: You recently posted a question to Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. in category Dealing with Stress: Hi ... A: I'm sure Patricia A. Schafer, Ph.D. will also provide some helpful advice. From what you describe, ... | |
| stressed out | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: I am 23 year old Indian girl. Being Indian, in our society, it is only accepted that children, ... A: These kinds of issues are more common than we would think, and the nature of your background culture ... | |
| scattered mind | 1/7/2011 |
| Q: I've been having quite a bit of trouble and I was wondering if you could help. Currently I prefer ... A: The sign of a scattered mind, and inability to focus is almost always a result of excess stress. If ... | |
| Sensitivity | 1/4/2011 |
| Q: Middleton, I get stressed out easily when I let something bother me. For instance, friends who ... A: as you have raised an interesting point. If your friends are male, then it is more than likely that ... | |
| Stressed Out Boyfriend | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I am writing to you because my boyfriend doesn't believe in getting help and I am trying desperately ... A: You could suggest indirectly that you had a friend in a similar situation, who was helped a great ... | |
| Stress & Anxiety | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 18 years old and I have been on here many times trying to get help with all my problems in ... A: Of course you don't really need therapy. It just so happens to be the fastest most efficient way of ... | |
| Stress & Anxiety | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 18 years old and I have been on here many times trying to get help with all my problems in ... A: Many people have similar problems and are helped a great deal by the judicious visiting of a good ... | |
| Losing it | 11/25/2010 |
| Q: James I am a transit bus driver in a busy growing Canadian city. I can deal with the stressful ... A: Sorry for the delay in responding. If you love the "driving" part of the job, maybe it's time to ... | |
| Fears and self doubts | 11/20/2010 |
| Q: First off, thank you for what you are doing to help others here. I am a lady in my early 50's. I ... A: With this lifelong problem your best answer would be to find a professional hypnotherapist who can ... | |
| studies... | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: I am going through a "psychological" problem these days... its funny and serious at the same time. ... A: What you need to do is reduce or remove the emotional attachments to this tutor. One of the fastest ... | |
| Suggestions please? | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: Any suggestions you could offer would be appreciated. I am a 51 year old male. I have a fairly ... A: How about offering to answer questions at allexperts rather than asking them? Do you have a ... | |
| Dealing with stress at work | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice to help me deal with some of the stress in my life. I'm 24 and getting married in ... A: Stacy, The best solution in these kinds of situations is to remove yourself from the environment ... | |
| something stuck in throat | 6/26/2010 |
| Q: after eating I get a feeling of something stuck in throat. I will stick my finger down my throat and ... A: The first thing you must do is have a full medical check by your medical doctor to ensure that there ... | |
| panic attacks | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I write to you concerning my subject. I have been suffering with this for years, almost every night. ... A: The symptoms you describe might very well be related to a very specific medical problem called sleep ... | |
| New relationship - anxiety episodes | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: I've just started going out with someone new for the first time in 2 years, and unfortunately I'm ... A: A Cognitive Behavioural Therapist would do the job, but being in my field, I would still favour ... | |
| designing and stress | 3/13/2010 |
| Q: I'm 30 and I am an architect without a diploma (I didn't finish my studies) and I am having problems ... A: It might be time to seek professional help for this. Unfortunately - you have connected design work ... | |
| hocd | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: i recently over their past few months went through a horrible time. i first got scared when i found ... A: It seems like it's time to seek professional help. See if you can find a good hypnotherapist or ... | |
| moving depression | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: Middleton My husband and I and our 2 boys aged 7 and 14 bought a house and moved to the suburbs this ... A: Do you know if your situation is permanent? Is there any chance of reselling and finding a place to ... | |
| hi! | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: My routine is very stress full often i suffer from panic attacks whenever i am tensed about my ... A: It seems like you have reached the stage where you need some professional help with this problem. ... | |
| new relationship, old friend. | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: I am 26... and have been friends with a man for many years.. i always had strong feelings for him, ... A: From what you describe it seems like you need more CBT. Your anxiety appears to be the end result ... | |
| emotional eating | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: my name is Natasha im 18 and right now im having a really tough time not sure whats bothering ... A: Sorry for the troubles you are having. You seem to have reached the stage where you really need ... | |
| Constant stomach problem | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I am 16 years old, and I have has what I think to be is stress-related stomach problems similar ... A: With this level of distress at your age, you need to try and fix this as soon as you can. If you ... | |
| panic disorder | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: i get Shortness of breath,Heart palpitations or a racing heart,Chest pain or discomfort,Choking ... A: A hypnotherapist or counsellor would be helpful. Some people say that Cognitive behaviour treatment ... | |
| panic disorder | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: i get Shortness of breath,Heart palpitations or a racing heart,Chest pain or discomfort,Choking ... A: Heart attacks at 19 years old are pretty rare. However suffering from panic attacks for prolonged ... | |
| Negative Thoughts: A Natural Defense Mechanism? | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: . My situation is quite difficult to put into words, but I'l try my best to explain: Many a ... A: It's not something we all do all the time, but we do this kind of thinking from time to time. It ... | |
| Stressful thoughts | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been dealing with infertility for a couple of years now. We are going to have ... A: I wouldn't be too bothered about what they think. What is important is how you feel about it. After ... | |
| Stress and then more Stress | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: My stress levels seem to have been increasing a lot lately. Unfortunately, a lot of harsh realities ... A: Unfortunately - the more stressed you are, the less likely you are to be able to conceive naturally. ... | |
| sweating cuz im nervous | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: hey im a 17yr old kid and i sweat SO BAD like NOTHING works for me and once i start thinkig IM GONNA ... A: Yup, there are some products which are really good for this. Specifically Self hypnosis programs. ... | |
| stress/panick/anxiety | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: i have a 18 year old daughter who is really stressing me out to the point i cant take no more, i ... A: I don't think you are doing anything wrong - apart from feeling over concerned for her safety. The ... | |
| stress/panick/anxiety | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: i have a 18 year old daughter who is really stressing me out to the point i cant take no more, i ... A: This is difficult to know without seeing you both together. It would be a good idea to insist she ... | |
| stress/panick/anxiety | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: i have a 18 year old daughter who is really stressing me out to the point i cant take no more, i ... A: You need to have a talk with your GP and see if they can offer any parenting support or advice for ... | |
| Please help me | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old mother of one, with 'issues'. I have attained a low self esteem over the last ... A: I am glad you found the answer helpful. There are many good programs on the net, or you may like to ... | |
| Please help me | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old mother of one, with 'issues'. I have attained a low self esteem over the last ... A: This whole episode has been a big blow to you. It seems that you are having a great deal of trouble ... | |
| Changing my perceptions | 6/13/2009 |
| Q: I have an anxiety disorder and an OCD related to health issues. I have a tendency to see nearly ... A: The fastest and easiest way would be to take up some high risk activities - like rock climbing, ... | |
| mental stress | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: "sir, Iam 6 feet 3 inches tall guy and my age is 22 yrs. Both my father and grandfather are 5'8. ... A: You need some stress managing tools. Self hypnosis programs will help a great deal. If you can, ... | |
| Work anxiety | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: James, First, thank you for being here to help with these issues! It is much appreciated. My ... A: Perhaps this is a message - that it's time to look for a new job. If you find going to work ... | |
| Nasal Surgery | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend had nasal surgery in December to correct a deviated septum which would make it hard for ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend has become seriously stressed about this operation - and the result is ... | |
| Why anxiety/irrational fears all of a sudden? | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old otherwise healthy male. I will just tell you a bit about it and when it started ... A: It's very unlikely that some of the panic/anxiety will become a learned behaviour for you. This can ... | |
| = / | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: Im 13 years old and i just had to witness my dad trying to kill himself.. I cant eat and ive been ... A: Sorry that you have had this experience. You need to find someone to talk to about this, either a ... | |
| Why anxiety/irrational fears all of a sudden? | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old otherwise healthy male. I will just tell you a bit about it and when it started ... A: What you are experiencing in view of the life events you have recently had is perfectly normal. We ... | |
| stress and ulcers | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been under incredible stress for some time now at work and for the past 2 years have been ... A: Sorry to hear of the troubles you are having. There has been considerable research to indicate that ... | |
| unable or unwilling to attend funerals | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I am a 35 y/o bi-racial woman whose family have had problems in the past getting along.My father ... A: I am sorry to hear that you are having worries. I think that you have not ever really got over the ... | |
| stress | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: what are the common factors that create stress in a child who is 13 years old? A: I am not an expert on stress and children, but I would imagine the same stresses would apply as with ... | |
| Alternative Methods of Stress Reduction | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: I am interested in alternative methods of stress reduction. I suffer from occasional panic attacks ... A: One of the best methods of stress reduction is the judicious use of self hypnosis tapes. There are ... | |
| anxiety | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: im not real sure but i have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety and panic attacks, but the meds ... A: Part of the problem with anxiety medication and antidepressant medication is that through long term ... | |
| underage stress | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 11 years old and have a quite busy life,so I hope you can help me because if I continue like ... A: You can always tell if you are overdoing things if your system is responding in the ways you ... | |
| State of Mind | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm 25. I'm due to have a circumcision soon, which is stressing me out a bit I think. I don't want ... A: Add a collection of streessors, and this is often the temporary result. I think you will find, once ... | |
| to stressed | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I work full time. We just bought a forclosed home that needs alot of up dating weve been living in ... A: You need to find some time for yourself. If your children are out for school time, then relax in ... | |
| Problem with colleague | 10/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been at a new job for about four months now. When I first got here, there was this guy named ... A: You are quite right to be skeptical, if you can visit a hypnotherapist privately for individual ... | |
| Nausea | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: I'm a concerned parent of a 13 year old. She is a 4.0 student and has an active lifestyle. She is ... A: You are right to be concerned now - if you see no improvement in 7 days - then take her to your ... | |
| Problem with colleague | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been at a new job for about four months now. When I first got here, there was this guy named ... A: Seems like you could do with some help in building more fluent assertiveness skills, although ... | |
| Depression after surgery | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: Help I am annoying my family and myself.I think it's post op depression but I am scared.I get very ... A: Clearly you are not well enough to return to work. You need to talk to your medical practitioner ... | |
| Constant stress anxiety | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: for the last 4 years i have had a feeling in my neck, tongue and jaw muscles. It is difficult to ... A: Unfortunately what no one ever tells people who take antidepressants and anxiety medication for ... | |
| Anxiety Attacks Nausea | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old male with no medical problems. I am currently working in a job where i do not ... A: The easiest thing to do would be to change jobs - and find one where you do want to be. This is ... | |
| Dealing with stress, literally! | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: I became a blackjack dealer about 8 months ago and I have noticed that when I'm dealing I tend to ... A: What you really need to do is learn some strategies and techniques for instant stress control. One ... | |
| Being Away.. | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: Me and my wife have been married since Feb of 07. I'm in the military and have already made it ... A: It seems like you've been OK while you have been away, but now you're finding it difficult with the ... | |
| stress | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been under a great deal of stress lately, and I'm finding that when I feel stressed the most, I ... A: There are lots of really good sites which will give you top advice with this issue, this one below ... | |
| help | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: hey i am anika and im 16 years old. i think i worry too much about everything. like 2 years ago i ... A: Hey Anika, These sorts of worries are perfectly normal at your age. Most of the time we are able ... | |
| Sucking Away Stress | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I'm an 18 year old girl and well, I have a weird way of dealing with and managing stress. Whenever ... A: There may very well be a collection of chemicals and nutrients that are in your boyfriends cum which ... | |
| itching and stress related? | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: Does Stress cause your body to itch all over externally? A: Stress can cause all sorts of unusual symptoms and can include the one you describe. If you think ... | |
| Post breast aug. surgery depression/ anxiety | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I had breast enlargement surgery 3 and a half months ago. I was very sensitive, emotional and ... A: I am sorry to hear you have been having problems post surgery. I think in the first instance you ... | |
| Need some help! | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: Sometimes when I realize I have done something wrong (though it might not be very important) or I ... A: This is normal performance/public speaking anxiety and is incredibly easy to treat. Either find a ... | |
| somatization disorder | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: I came upon this disorder Somatization Disorder and felt that it fit me more than other diagnoses. ... A: Have you seen a doctor to examine these physical symptoms? Because if you have not, then that would ... | |
| over work, stress, anxiety, depression & new symptom | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: Middleton, I have been struggling for about 1 year in a new job with a tremendous amount of stress. ... A: Sounds like you definitely need to lose the job - no company should treat people the way this one ... | |
| stress | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: I had headaches for about a month and went to the doctors who put me on Mobic, Singulair, and ... A: What might help is trying to work out how the headaches came about in the first place. If you can ... | |
| Anxiety problems, depression, sexual issues, paranoia | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: anxiety,paranoia since i turned 17. I had my first panic attack when i was 17 and since then I've ... A: Whatever sex problems you had before taking antidepressants will be worse now you are taking them. ... | |
| Anxiety problems, depression, sexual issues, paranoia | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: anxiety,paranoia since i turned 17. I had my first panic attack when i was 17 and since then I've ... A: Antidepressants are notorious for messing up your sex drive and messing with your performance, ... | |
| altered sense of smell and stress | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: over the past 3 months i have been going through a stressful period in which my sister, to whom i ... A: During times of deep distress, the body and mind are prone to undergo a variety of changes. ... | |
| job related stress and depression | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: My Friend who had completed his Masters in Computer Applications, was earlier Jobless for about 3 ... A: My email is james@hypnosis.demon.co.uk Warm regards, James Hi Gopalakrishnan, If he is not ... | |
| help | 7/26/2008 |
| Q: im 17 years old and i will be going back to school in a month. i also will be starting my job on ... A: From how you describe things, along with the dieting and exercise, it seems as if you are ... | |
| Stress? | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 15 (and a half) year old girl. I have always been very sensitive and emotional. If i start ... A: Well, maybe you still blame yourself in some way for your parents breakup - and these feelings still ... | |
| Stress? | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 15 (and a half) year old girl. I have always been very sensitive and emotional. If i start ... A: It sounds as though the split up with your parents is causing you more trouble than you thought. ... | |
| 6 year old stress's me out | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriends 6 year old stresses me out, but sometimes for no apparent reason. But its so bad that ... A: You have to ask yourself what's changed in the last year or so to make things so much more difficult ... | |
| Need an outlet | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: I am a 56 year old grandmother, living with a widowed daughter. Her husband died when the little one ... A: There is nothing more difficult than a recalcitrant youth, and I don't envy your role. You need to ... | |
| I'm afraid of people | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: I'm Mirette, a 15-year-old girl from Egypt. I almost always feel inferior fat and ugly, even though ... A: You have very sucessfully used your old picture of yourself as your motivator to help you lose ... | |
| anxiety, depression, intrusive thinking, hocd | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: I've always thought myself to a heterosexual and until recently have only thought of girls while ... A: Under stress and pressure, your feelings are much more common than you would think. A fair ... | |
| Anxiety | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: I was diagnosed with depression about 6 years ago. Since then I've changed meds multiple times. ... A: You have been stable for a while, so it would seem that this recent episode has been sparked off by ... | |
| Shingles | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: My wife suffers from shingles. She's 57 years old. So far it’s been 8 weeks. What causes it… ... A: My speciality is stress, and there is some indication that a lowered immune response can trigger an ... | |
| low self esteem / paranoid | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: ive low self esteem and I think its making me paranoid. Im ok with my friends normally , but im ... A: What you are experiencing is pretty common, but rarely gets as severe as you seem to be ... | |
| living with a paranoid husband | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: After 10 years of living together 24/7, my husband had to go to another country for a couple of ... A: Living with such a man must be very difficult. Describing his difficulties as hypoglycemic or ... | |
| question | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: im 15, and although im young, i think im in serious need for stress pills like Benzodiazepines.i've ... A: Taking tablets like Benzodiazepines may help you in the short term but it is well proven that over ... | |
| Stressing out. | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: Im 15 and i've been dealing with stress for a long time about everything. Is it that unhealthy to ... A: It is difficult when you have stresses with important work like school work that needs doing. What ... | |
| sudden and unusual shocks | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been going through lots of mental stress since one year.Recently i have started feelin very ... A: This kind of energy release is perfectly normal - and is simply the muscles releasing their stored ... | |
| Anxiety problems, depression, sexual issues, paranoia | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: anxiety,paranoia since i turned 17. I had my first panic attack when i was 17 and since then I've ... A: I couldn't agree more with this webpage - in fact I answered a very similar question to yours a few ... | |
| Anxiety problems, depression, sexual issues, paranoia | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: anxiety,paranoia since i turned 17. I had my first panic attack when i was 17 and since then I've ... A: Sorry for the problems you are having. It sounds like you will benefit a lot from your counselling ... | |
| Stress-fighting energizing natural remedies? | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: How are you? Thanks for helping out on this site :) Just wondering if you can give me some pointers ... A: One of the best boosters and energzers I have found over the years is Reiki hands on healing. You ... | |
| heart rate and stree | 4/27/2008 |
| Q: i was wondering if you can answer this.. i have an at rest heart rate of 110-115 with no answer as ... A: If you have had all the appropriate health and cardiac workups and no doctor can find anything wrong ... | |
| how to get rid of this problem? | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: My name is sree.I don't know whether this is the right place to post quest or not.My problem is when ... A: It seems as if this tension is overcoming your ability to control it. The best tool for helping ... | |
| "air hunger" | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been to doctors and have had bloodwork, lung test, and even heart tests that show nothing, ... A: I doubt whether travel in a plane will have much difference to how your symptoms behave. These ... | |
| my ex girlfriend | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: i just wont to know why my ex don't wont me to be happy and find a another girl friend i can love ... A: Sometimes when relationships end, one or both people actually don't want the relationship to end. ... | |
| fear early in a relationships | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: when im in a relationship i find myself moving things to fast and trying to hard, but the real ... A: Congratulations on your new relationship. These feelings you are experiencing are fairly common and ... | |
| stressful thoughts | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I 'm Abhishek.i'm 21 years of age.i've been very sensitive emotionally and a kind of a negative ... A: What you seem to be describing is a lack of confidence in yourself and your appearance. When you ... | |
| im doing a research paper need a lil help | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: Do you think that there is a difference between the ways Straight women and Gay or lesbian women ... A: I know of no studies which show that stress effects straight women any diffently from gay or lesbian ... | |
| stress, big time | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: This is my mom's profile ( ooops) OK, HI and i appreciate grownup-ups like you are willing to help ... A: and at your age, you would be far better off talking to one of your parents, brother, sister or ... | |
| stressed and depressed | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: how are you.As it is related to stress I will try to be as clear as possible.I am 27 male from ... A: If you can find a good self hypnosis tape to use on a daily basis, there are many on the net or you ... | |
| Stressed & experiencing a rush type dizziness & slight equilibrium problem | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: For too many months I have had much stress and anxiety (full time single dad, Teenager challenges, ... A: If you havn't yet tried HPP Ericksonian hypnosis programs, then they are always worth a try. Very ... | |
| Anxiety | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: I,am 25 years old and have been dealing with general anxiety and panic attacks for about 2 years ... A: Strangely enough, I have been asked a very similar question quite recently. What you are ... | |
| Stress related chest pain | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: almost 2 years ago my husband and I were running a new business. The bank manager just took ... A: I'm sorry for your bad fortune, and it seems like your husband has really taken it "to heart". In ... | |
| Post Surgery Depression and Anxiety | 12/29/2007 |
| Q: my name is Leah and i am 17 years old. i recently ( about 7 weeks ago) had major surgery to correct ... A: and I am sorry you are struggling at the moment. Any serious surgery like yours, will create all ... | |
| stomach disturbs sleep | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: stomach disturbs sleep 1 I have problems with sleeping. These problems started with a series of ... A: I can recommend that you find a good therapist, either a counsellor or hypnotherapist, who is ... | |
| stomach disturbs sleep | 12/20/2007 |
| Q: stomach disturbs sleep 1 I have problems with sleeping. These problems started with a series of ... A: And therein lies part of the problem. For years you seem to have analysed, and overanalysed these ... | |
| stress | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: Respected sir, My father is 58 years old. Since he could not advance in career life and could not ... A: Unfortunately there seems little you can do. If he is unwilling to change how he behaves, then his ... | |
| Anxiety being gay and a little more | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: I'm from Venezuela I came back to my country after 3 years of living in Uk whit my boyfriend I never ... A: Naturally, coming back to your land of home, and its religious zeal, will cause you to rethink you ... | |
| stressed out husband | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: Can you please advise "us" here on the topic of stress. My husband recently changed careers, July ... A: Someone who takes pills to stay awake, and pills to go to sleep on a regular basis is asking for ... | |
| Social Phobia and Planning a Wedding | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been diagnosed with Social Phobia and it has definitely been a hardship in my life. I ... A: Yes, what you need is some excellent therapy. Either hypnotherapy, counselling or similar. It is ... | |
| Stress and strange smell | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: For the past 5 months, I've been going through severe stress, heart palpitations and anxiety as well ... A: Hi levels of stress and anxiety cause all sorts of physical problems including perceptual changes - ... | |
| fight shakes | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: Hey there. When I am in a situation that involves the remotest prospect of physical confrontation, ... A: These feelings are common to most people in situations of physical confrontation. It is actually a ... | |
| Depression or stress or what? | 9/6/2007 |
| Q: I am Ahmer age 32, male, from last 1 year i have following feelings like. 1. sad feelings with no ... A: It certainly sounds like you have depression, and from what you say it seems like these feelings are ... | |
| restlessness on the first week of school | 9/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently a junior at a high school and want to raise my GPA as high as I can. I'm taking AP ... A: It would appear that you have just returned to your studies, and the thought of all the work you ... | |
| looking deep into my mind | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: ok so i really dont have any stress. i dont get stressed alot but i would like to be able to sit ... A: I have 3 complimentary courses delivered by e-mail you may not know about. The first one is an ... | |
| Paranoia or Anxiety I'm not sure? | 7/28/2007 |
| Q: whenever I'm at home I always feel paranoid or have anxiety about people coming to my door, to see ... A: Has some dramatic/traumatic event occured with you in the last 6 months? Almost always these kind ... | |
| Stress on Medical issues | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I am a 66-year-old male who is facing some urology issues. My problem is I am stressed out worrying ... A: There are a couple of things you can do, talk to your medical practitioner - explain your anxieties ... | |
| stress... | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I've got a fair share of stuff weighing on me right now. Deadlines, family crap, friend issues... ... A: Clearly you are not coping well with where you are right now. Maybe you have too much to do, or ... | |
| Boobs && Weight | 7/7/2007 |
| Q: My names Emma and im 15 years old. My problem is my boobs, they am sooo small they look like mole ... A: This time in life - puberty is really a terrible time because everything is still growing. We are ... | |
| I asked Pat for advice | 6/9/2007 |
| Q: Since Pat is on vacation, I wonder if you could gelp me with a follow-up. Question In April I had a ... A: It seems as though worrying about being pregnant really is a big issue for you. As Pat suggests, ... | |
| related to my past | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: sir, i had 4 years relation my boyfrnd..smhw we got involved smtimes ..i never wanted that but i ... A: Mahi, It seems as though you need someone to talk to about this. Do you have a friend or relative ... | |
| Sex/relationship related stress | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 20 year old male, and I've found that when i've started serious relationships - my sexual ... A: What you are probably experiencing is a form of performance anxiety - played out in your head with a ... | |
| thank you | 2/1/2007 |
| Q: I had went to a phychiatrist and she had sed it was a hase of new sexual feelings you get when you ... A: When someone wonders about being gay - it sometimes means they are not sure that they are, or are ... | |
| Relationship Anxiety | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: 45 year old male having sometimes extreme anxiety (mostly constant arm pain & burning sensation ... A: It seems like you have reached a time where you really want to fix this problem. From what you have ... | |
| help? :( | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: I am writing to ask you a question. My name is Kara I am 16 years old. I am a victim of hurricaine ... A: Feelings like this are very common after disasters. You need to tell someone how you feel, either ... | |
| oral fixation problems? | 11/26/2006 |
| Q: Hey, I'm not sure who to ask about this, because my problem is kind of weird. :( I'm kind of ... A: Your problem is unusual but not so strange. If you don´t want to be seen with a pacifier, how about ... | |
| sexual anxiety | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: I'm a 17 year old healthy male and I've been having a lot of trouble staying relaxed before sex ... A: This problem is EXTREMELY common with young men such as yourself. My suggestion would be to ... | |
| How Can I Stop Regretting | 11/13/2006 |
| Q: How can I stop regretting things of the past its driving me bonkers?Its not helping me get sleep im ... A: The best way to work with past regrets is to talk over the issues with a good friend or counsellor. ... | |
| smoking in youth as a means to relieve stress | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old college student, and while I do not smoke myself, I have a lot of friends who ... A: Personally I think it is a mixture of both, wanting to fit in, and the perceived stress relief that ... | |
| relaitonship, anxiety | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: i will take you up on the follow up question. I have been under hypnosis as of last week, ... A: It is normal to have a homosexual paranoia if one of your relatives is gay. How can you not be ... | |
| Could Post Surgical Depression be Part of It? | 9/30/2006 |
| Q: After vomiting for 4 months and losing 30 pounds, I tried very hard to find a doctor to help me ... A: As you say, this has become the last straw in your beleagured health episodes and is now becoming ... | |
| sex performance anxiety | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: Ok, this will all seem obvious why i'm having problems, but i need confirmation and strategies on ... A: You are describing as you say, classic performance anxiety related to having sex. My guess is that ... | |
| Dealing with stress caused by infant | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: I like to think of myself as a "well put together" individual, but lately I feel like I am falling ... A: Sorry for the delay in responding, i have been away on holiday. First you have to remember that ... | |
| Stress Management | 5/18/2006 |
| Q: Middleton: I am a college student in Philadelphia, and I am writing an article on ways to reduce ... A: and giving me the opportunity to assist you in your article. My guess is that the standard tips to ... | |
| overworked | 2/15/2006 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old mother of 2. I have been married for 4 years and have 2 beautiful children, a 15 ... A: It seems as though you have to take charge of some of your time. The only place I can see if you ... | |
| What are my rights and entitlements please? | 12/18/2005 |
| Q: I originate from the U.K. and moved to live in Holland in March 1998. I registered with a friend ... A: I appreciate you're writing to me, but I'm not really the person who might best be able to help you. ... | |
| A terrible fear of driving a car | 8/5/2005 |
| Q: I have had a terrible fear of driving a car since I was 16years old. I forced myself to take the car ... A: It seems as though you are suffering acute anxiety about car driving. There are two things I would ... | |
| hey | 7/6/2005 |
| Q: i get alot of chess pain my doctor say thats its stress how do i deal with it i'm so stressed about ... A: Learning to destress - takes practice and time - relieving some of your stress will really help . ... | |
| Sleep problems | 1/14/2005 |
| Q: I have real problems 'switching off' at night and falling asleep. My heart seems to race and I ... A: Learning to switch off - takes practice and time - relieving some of your stress will really help . ... | |
| Confrontations in the workplace | 1/9/2005 |
| Q: I'm getting panic attacks. A former co-worker (who was employed for 7 yrs) was re-hired as ... A: and I am sorry for the difficulties you are having. Your question really raises two issues. 1. ... | |
| STRESS | 12/24/2004 |
| Q: Hey I have stress issues, I'm 29 and my ex girlfriend of 3yrs gave me tremendous stress because of ... A: It sounds like you are still struggling to manage your stress more easily. There are several steps ... | |
| Hyperventilation and Weight Loss | 9/25/2004 |
| Q: I am a 19/m 6"2 college student with no illness. During the day I hyperventilate subtely (tingling ... A: I would think the hyperventilation will have little effect on how your weightloss affects your ... | |
| sign of a contract | 4/23/2004 |
| Q: after signing a contract how many days do you have to wave the agreement ? is it three days?thanks ... A: It's really kind of you to write and ask a question, unfortunately I am a stress expert, and not a ... | |
| homework? | 11/28/2003 |
| Q: Middleton, I am a 55 year old women. The question I submitted to you was hardly homework of an ... A: geriatric anxietyDear James, My 86 year old Mum, who is generally in excellent health except for ... | |
| possible operation worry | 6/10/2003 |
| Q: unfortunately just this lately over the last few weeks or so I have developed a nasty abcess on my ... A: Steve, Thanks for the long and clear explanation of the difficulties, it must have taken you quite ... | |
| My Partner is tired! | 4/6/2001 |
| Q: My partner has had extreme stress for 15 years. Now that I am around, and can help him 'take his ... A: Janet, Yes indeed, it's highly likely. Often when we slow down, after prolonged effort and stress, ... | |
| stress/depression | 2/28/2001 |
| Q: I'm not sure where to start this. I guess I should start from when this started. I'm 17 now. When I ... A: Ashley, Thank you for a very comprehensive outline of your difficulties. There are several steps ... | |
| Stress of studying a new course | 1/5/2001 |
| Q: I am about to start a course in February 2001. usually i do not study well and find it difficult to ... A: Congratulations on the new course. Be relaxed and realise you learned to walk, speak, ride a ... | |
Dealing with Stress
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James Middleton
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Expertise
I am happy answering questions about handling stress and panic attacks, overwork and similar problems.
Experience
I am a practicing hypnotherapist of 22 years experience and a qualified Occupational Therapist in community mental health.
Publications
UK Journal of Association for Neurolinguistic Processing.
Education/Credentials
Dip Cot, Certificate in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy, Certificate in Co-counselling, Reiki 1, Reiki 2, and Reiki Masters. Practitioner of NLP
Awards and Honors
WARP Freefall Coach for the British Parachute Association.
Past/Present Clients
Ericksonian Hypnotherapy blog
http://creativechangesjm.wordpress.com/
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