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Expert: S. Kessler Date: 5/14/2008 Subject: Financial Harassment and Blackmail
Question My sister was recently granted a divorce. She was named primary domicilliary parent and her ex is granted every other week visitation. They have to wait 70 days in order to proceed with the child support issue. Having said this, she sold her portion of their home to him.They are from New Orleans and had received an SBA loan to fix the home. When she signed the papers selling the home to him it stated that he would assume all of the SBA loan since he is left with the home. The paper were signed and notarized. In an attempt to continue to assume control over her, he has threatened to go after her for payment of the SBA loan if she buys a house that he does not find convenient for him(he would like her to buy in one neighborhood, she is buying in another). Can he do this? I thought that if they are divorced and he now owns the house they lived in and agreed to assume all responsibilities, how can he dictate what neighborhood she buys a house in and how can he go after her for funds that are pertaining to their old home which he signed agreeing to take full ownership of? She is a single mother and completely stressed out considering she is to close on the new home in 2 days. Please advise.
Answer Hi Lilly~
I don't see how he can do this to her. If they papers are officially signed and notarized then he has no say so in where or when she buys her new home. He's just trying to bully her into a decision another attempt to control and influence her. She has no obligation to buy where or when he wants her to. Her ties were severed with him through the divorce, and she has the paperwork to prove it. The only thing she has to abide by are the terms of the visitation and whatever involves the children. He's just angry, mad, jealous and bitter that she's divorced him and moving on with her life to finally be happy. So my answer would be, no, in short, he can't do this to her. She shouldn't worry about him nor give him any control in what she says or does now that they aren't legally married. If her name isn't on the home anymore, on the dead, the loan papers, etc, then she has no more obligation or ties to him when it comes to the home. He can't even tell her where to buy her home, etc. That's not his place nor his right, period. Ignore him, and if he wants to try to sue her (for whatever ignorant and stupid reason he can come up with), tell her that she'll see him in court then, and let a court settle it. He can't harass and intimidate her like that.
