AboutLee Brochstein Expertise All questions related to divorce and custody. I am a life experiencologist as well as pursuing a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. I also own and run My Parenting Portal, a website devoted to help Parents become powerful in raising their children in all kinds of circumstances.
Experience Divorced twice, been in court several times, currently getting a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, have a parenting website, http://www.myparentingportal.com
Education/Credentials BA in Art History, Currently working towards Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy
Expert: Lee Brochstein Date: 5/16/2008 Subject: moving out of state w/ kids
Question I am ready to file for divorce, but have one question holding me back. I need to know if its better to "separate", move out of state, establish residency, then file. Or, file, then move. I have told him I want to go home, he has ignored my requests. I want him to come with us & be a part of my sons' lives. In no way do I wish to take them from him. My concern is though that he can keep my sons & I here. I have nothing here & want to go home to my family.
Answer Michelle: There is no right answer. The judge will not allow you to move with your children and uproot them from school and friends and their father. Then you have the issue of the father finding another job in a new town. If you move now, the judge can order you to move back, as you basically left with the children, and it can get ugly. It is always best to separate first, and try to reason some more with your husband. If he won't listen to reason, plead it to the judge, and you may win, you never know, but don't leave with them, it will only cause you major problems.
