AboutPastor Kimberly Lemler Expertise I am an Ordained Minister, Bible Teacher, Life Coach and Pastoral Counselor. I have a radio program called God's Healing Power where I teach on various topics, and I also write for 2 columns. Self Help CD's are available on our website. Counseling services are also available.
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Experience I can be reached for counseling services through our website, GodsHealingPower.org.
Education/Credentials Degree in Education. Ordained Minister. Victory Bible Institute. Working on a PhD.
Question I don't know what to do. I have a 9 year old daughter with my ex husband I divorced 6 years ago. I have been through emotional hell with a decree I signed with an attorney who really did not work in my behalf. His attorney is one of top lawyers who in order to modify the decree will cost me a 15k downpayment.
The manipulation and pain comes from this decree. I have moved 5 times due to cost of living, and him wanting her in the high tax district school he lives in. I have lost 5 jobs due to his high volume phone calls to my jobs regarding our daughter sometimes including underlying threats, such as taking her to a country that is not part of the HAAG agreement. (It was in the decree and not noted to me), calling all my girlfriends who are no longer because he has money and basically offer some quid quo pro in lieu of dirty info on me. Constantly threatening me he has a much more powerful attorney and more money than I can afford and will take my daughter from me. I signed a pre-nup that, again, no advice from my attorney, allowed him to keep all my stuff from before the marriage. Stuff that is from my childhood still in his house. I was assaulted by him, called the police, and when he was arrested he started calling ex-friends to do depos on me for he was afraid it would affect his record. He hired the biggest criminal defense attorney and let me know I would lose my daughter and all else if I did not sign the dismissal. I have gotten sick and depressed and now he has an under age asian girl living in his house for which he did not tell me about, and when asked about it, I essentially was threatened again about him taking custody. His money has given him the upper hand. And when I try to bring to front how this has caused our daughter need for help, he referred to the decree in that I cannot take her for counseling without his consent. My daughter is suffering emotionally, the school who he makes frequent endowments to, pretty much have told me its not there business. I feel like I am losing it. My heart is broke for I can't help my daughter, and I have given up on myself. Because of his fortune, and attorney, all the advocacy groups do not want to spend time helping wiht modification. He hates me. I have asked him to forgive me for any hurt and what I can do to stop it. His response it, don't worry, our daughter is not in the will and I will never see a dime and he does not have to get along with me. Now, I have given up on people, help, or believing things will get better.
Phew.
Try that one
Answer Hi Jacqueline,
Unfortunately, this is what can happen when money is the ruling factor. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Are you a Christian? Sometimes the only way to battle through is with the help of the Lord... His Word gives us over 5000 promises when we are living for Him...
If there is some way to turn him for living with a minor, I would do it. He would be considered a child molester and the court would find no possible way for him to take your child away if this is proven. Find yourself another attorney who will help you. There has to be someone competent to guide you through this...
Seek out the help of a local pastor, Jacqueline. I think this is going to be your best resource. Take your daughter with you and get counseling from the pastor. Is there anything in your decree stating that your daughter can't talk with a pastor? I will pray that you get the help that you need as soon as possible... Be sure to keep detailed records of EVERY conversation and times when your daughter is with him. You may need all of this info later...
