AboutKindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger Expertise I can answer general questions regarding separation, property, and some custody questions. I cannot answer legal questions or specific questions pertaining to individual states and counties. I can offer support through the pending time, as well as offering assistance and ideas as you move on as a single individual. I can tell you how to avoid repeat pitfalls and help you learn to leave old baggage out of new relationships. I can help you work through the contemplative time of "what if" and "if only." I am able to offer advice in dealing with unnecessary guilt, undeserved judgment, and share insight as to discerning between concerned friends, family and coworkers and nosey gossips.
Experience I have been divorced more than once and am now married to my soulmate. We are living the exact life we both wanted to build 30 years ago, long before we ever met. Well actually it's better than I had dared hope.
Question Hello, I have a bit of a problem and a lot of confusion. Here's my problem: I got married in March 2007 and was 6 months pregnant. My child was born in June 2007. Well, the following day that my child was born and while I was still in the hospital, my husband called me on the phone and "broke up with me", he said he didn't want anything to do with me or the child. I had already submitted the paperwork for the birth certificate at the hospital.
Anyhow, my husband picked us up from the hospital on release day, dropped us off at home and left with all his belongings. Didn't see him again until 1 month later, when he came by to see how we were doing. After that, never saw him again. He has not helped at all with my now 2 yrs. old baby. He doesn't visit, he has never paid child support and according to him, he will never do any of these things.
I want to get a divorce, but I am not seeking child support since I believe that I can support my child by myself and this is in our best interest. I want to have a "name change" for my son so he doesn't carry his father last name any more, only mine. Is that possible? My next question is: What are my rights? and under what grounds should I seek the divorce?? I don't know where the father is, don't know where to look for him, I have his moms information but she lives in Mexico. I live in California. What can I do?
Answer Dear Rosa,
I am so sorry for what you have gone through emotionally. I would like to suggest just a couple of things, however; before you simply let him off "scott free" of responsibility. First, his name is on the birth certificate, so leave that as it is. Most states will not remove a parent without adoption or something, so . . . Seek an attorney, file for divorce, and do whatever the attorney recommends regarding child support. I, personally, think you should ask for child support. Changing the child's name is a separate issue from the divorce, anyway, so that can't be included. Now, as to severing paternal rights, I suggest you simply wait. At some point there may be a man that you can trust that falls in love with you and wants to be your son's father. That would be the time to consider name change and severing the biological father's parental rights. Discuss all this with your attorney and consider his advice carefully. Your attorney will have ideas as to how to accomplish the divorce. The state of California has plenty of ideas as to how to locate dead beat fathers.
I wish you well and hope much health and happiness for you and your son.
Kind Regards,
KD Liz
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