About Rebecca Expertise Life happens, If your mind is in a mix up I can help you sort your worries and organize your life priorities systematically. Giving you Non-judgemental answers providing you with a honest answer,I also assist in locating information that may guide you in the right direction. Helping you obtain your goals before, during and after divorce. Physical and mental abuse is an area I am also familiar with, helping you with details and steps to get you the support you need.
Experience 25 yrs of experience with physical and mental abusers and their cycles.
Assist with the preparations of divorce documents and procedures.
Child development; non-healthy relationships and the affects they have on children.
Education/Credentials Advisor and mentor for at risk families
Accreditation/Certification,Child developement
Personal Experience
Question My ex-spouse has contacted my employer (anonymously)and subordinates with some information about me that has caused a lot of turmoil at my place of employment. He has informed them that I am seeing a person at work (which is true yet I have never confirmed that with anyone at work). While there is no policy against it, my superiors feel it would not be in the best interest and would be poor judgement stating that they expect high standard in their working relationships. I am not doing anything illegal and am by no means harming anyone in my family let alone my ex-spouse. It has caused a great deal of strain and stress at my workplace and with me personally. Our divorce was very amicable and I have been on some what "friendly" terms with my ex. We do have two children together, however both young adults (one 17 almost 18). I am just beside myself that he has caused so much trouble for me and all with the sole intent to cause problems for me and to put my job at potential risk. I do not know what to do and am very very hurt by his actions. P.S. I have not done anything while married nor after to cause him to be this vindictive.
Answer Hello Di,
You might think about filing a order of protection/workplace harassment. When you file, be specific as to what you want him not to do, and be ready to prove it, a judge will want to see proof. The protection orders are very specific, for example, He may not call your place of employment, contact by third party, etc. Have statements written out by others that know of his intentions. You can file and a judge approve it then papers need to be served to him, but know that he can also contest it, meaning that he can fight your order and if he is successful in his plea that he is not harassing you, the judge will throw it out. That is why I say, gather proof. I'm sorry that you have to deal with such.
Rebecca
