AboutPhilip Belove, Ed.D. Expertise Divorce is the beginning of a life review process. For many people, it`is the first intentional decision they make about their lives. The transition into the next stage of life is difficult at first, but it gets easier. The questions I can help you with: What happened? How do I take care of our children? How do I get over my anger? How do I plan a future for myself?
Experience I am Philip Belove, psychologist and coach. My specialty is helping people do their midlife transformation work, a psychological project that creates a foundation for happy and satisfying second half of life.
Midlife Work, because it involves so much careful attention to inner truth, is notoriously stressful on marriages and on dating relationships.
The challenges of the midlife project are echoed in the typical questions asked me as a dating-at-midlife expert:
?Learning to reconcile what you say with what you do. This challenge is echoed in questions like: Why does he say this when he does that? What is really happening?
?Learning to create your own dreams instead of being the victim of someone else's. This challenged is echoed in questions like these: How do I say that I don't want to xyz? I've been lying about some things and what should I do now?
?Learning to live a life that suits you. This challenge produces questions like Is what I'm doing normal? What if my kids think I'm crazy? How can I say that this is starting to bother me?
A person doing Midlife Transformation Work needs to develop 1) A Working Vision, 2) Skills and Strategies to realize that vision, and 3) External sources of support for the project. My role for people is to be part of the support system. I help people clarify their visions, develop the strategies and skills they need, and I help them review their progress.
Education/Credentials M.A. Counseling Psychology
Ed.D. Counsulting Psychology (Family Therapy)
Question My ex and I was signed the agreement during the mediation that both of us we going to have evaluation by physychologist. The judge was order us to pay the evaluator with in 10 days which I wasn't able to pay but I called them and they said I can make my payment during my visit in the office. But we cancelled it because my ex and come up the agreement both agree. But the agreement was changed when it back to me I did not informed to my lawyer about this because I know he will and also he did not do things for me. My ex said he will file contempt to court I don't know what is this. He said I am going to jail for not paying for the evaluator. Is it true?
Answer I doubt it but I don't know. I'm not a lawyer. You've asked for a legal opinion and I can't give it.
The last time I had a case like this, the guy brought so many legal actions that the court told him he had no more right to bring actions in this matter. It was amazing.
Your ex will do anything to remain a nuisance in your life. I say, acknowledge that to yourself and then decide how you want to h andle it. Do not expect him to change ever.
P
