About Rebecca Expertise Life happens, If your mind is in a mix up I can help you sort your worries and organize your life priorities systematically. Giving you Non-judgemental answers providing you with a honest answer,I also assist in locating information that may guide you in the right direction. Helping you obtain your goals before, during and after divorce. Physical and mental abuse is an area I am also familiar with, helping you with details and steps to get you the support you need.
Experience 25 yrs of experience with physical and mental abusers and their cycles.
Assist with the preparations of divorce documents and procedures.
Child development; non-healthy relationships and the affects they have on children.
Education/Credentials Advisor and mentor for at risk families
Accreditation/Certification,Child developement
Personal Experience
Question I've been divorced for about two years and have a boy who just turned 3 last May. I have been told that his dad, my ex has just got into another marriage.
My sosn visits his dad twice a week, have been having anger tuntrams and
efusing to go with his dad months ago then I found out about his step mom or to be..I have no clue....he's been loving to go to his dad surprisingly lately...I do not know when to talk to him about the divorce, shall I wait for his questions or I should initiate that?? since my son's used to ask me to go along with him and his dad on their visits but has stopped along while ago...am fraid I won't do this right and hurt him more
Answer Dear Sara,
You son obviously knows that his father is not living with you because visiting his father twice a week is normal(I presume). At three years of age a child does not yet understand the dynamics of a divorce. His tantrums could be the cause of a typical 3yr old and have nothing to do with your relationship with his father or his fathers relationship with his new wife. The communication with your ex-husband is important due to the upbringing of your child, if possible, open those lines of communication with him and if possible with the new wife. It takes a entire village to raise a child. Meaning everyone involved in his life will be of some influence to him. (good or bad) In the best interest of your child, back off on explaining divorce to him and try to keep it simple.
