Expert: Rebecca - 7/6/2009

Question
Hello Rebecca,
I believe you have provided me some helpful advice in the past regarding my ex pornography addiction & child custody.  
I reside in CA.  I hired a paralegal to assist me & I just found out my ex hired her as well.  Paralegal never mentioned it to me.  I believe it is a conflict of interest however I did research & it is not against the law what she did however it is very unprofessional & it was unethical on her behalf.  (i warned her about his manipulation & interest in women & she took advantage of the situation, were not in speaking terms)
My ex also mentioned to me everything i shared with her.  It was confidential.  I told her what evidence i had with his porn & very private info.  
I would like to get my $ back & especially confront her.  & do you know where I can report her?  Do you think it is a wise thing to do or could that hurt me in long run?  (I still owe her $170 already paid 250. Should i pay her?)I have hired a new paralegal.  Divorce itself is already so difficult to deal with now someone you are suppose to trust betrays you is worse!  ps help.  
ps. he has already responded, we have a set date for court & a parenting class.  Therefore there is nothing more to discuss with the original paralegal.

Answer
Hello Gwen,
I see you have gone forward with your life yet continue to collide with people that test your ability to trust. Take your situation, twist it and look at it from another standpoint. You said it yourself, I quote,” there is nothing more to discuss with the original paralegal."  Knowing what to hold on too and what to let go of  is an important lesson that most people are not aware of being confronted with. Granted, this paralegal might of let her business attribute take over her ethical standard, (if you may) I suggest that you stay focused on the main event here, stay strong and distribute your energy to the original case and complete the proceedings with your soon to be ex-husband.

I will do some research on the other problem you have with the paralegal and get back to you.
Until then, Please feel free to respond with an update,
Thank you
Rebecca