AboutKindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger Expertise I can answer general questions regarding separation, property, and some custody questions. I cannot answer legal questions or specific questions pertaining to individual states and counties. I can offer support through the pending time, as well as offering assistance and ideas as you move on as a single individual. I can tell you how to avoid repeat pitfalls and help you learn to leave old baggage out of new relationships. I can help you work through the contemplative time of "what if" and "if only." I am able to offer advice in dealing with unnecessary guilt, undeserved judgment, and share insight as to discerning between concerned friends, family and coworkers and nosey gossips.
Experience I have been divorced more than once and am now married to my soulmate. We are living the exact life we both wanted to build 30 years ago, long before we ever met. Well actually it's better than I had dared hope.
Question I'm a young mother of two daughters and my husband and I are going through a divorce. I filed for divorce the first time and found out a week later that I was pregnant with our second daughter so I dismissed it. We tried to work on things but couldn't. Then I refiled and we went to court and my husband told his lawyer that we had "reconciled" after our daughter was born and I had to dismiss the divorce again. I still love him, but realize it's never going to work. However, we ended up back together once again and I am still awaiting our court date. I'm so embarrassed, but I don't want to dismiss the divorce again. What should I do? I don't understand why us being together one time automatically dismisses the divorce.
Thank you
Answer Dear Julie,
State laws do vary regarding the ground rules for divorce and dismissal. Some states still have some interesting laws on the books about marriage and "overnights." If you live in a state that recognizes one night together as reconciled, then that's what you are dealing with. Since the two of you have a pattern of filing and reconciling I think you need to follow through with one or the other. If you have to dismiss this again, then make sure you don't get back together next time you file. If you really want the divorce, and the laws are such that it can be dismissed, then know the laws, and don't do what can cause a dismissal.
I'm sorry. I wish you well and hope you find happiness.
Kind Regards,
KD
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