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Good day
In the past I read that the main cause of divorce has to do with financials (money). Why is it that money / financials are the #1 cause of divorce. If one wanted to understand why and what causes money to be the #1 cause (to understand the psychology behind money being the #1 cause), can you refer me to any articles, books etc. that can help me to understand why money/financials are the #1 cause of divorce.

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Actually there are several frequent reasons for marital discord leading to divorce.

Money is one.
The others are in-laws, and sex.  Those are the top three.

Often money is a concrete way of arguing about the power to make decisions.  Money issues are usually also
issues about who is in charge, who is in control.

A good book on the psychology of money is one called "The Last Taboo."

Feel free to follow up.

Philip Alan Belove, Ed.D

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Divorce is the beginning of a life review process. For many people, it`is the first intentional decision they make about their lives. The transition into the next stage of life is difficult at first, but it gets easier. The questions I can help you with: What happened? How do I take care of our children? How do I get over my anger? How do I plan a future for myself?

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I am Philip Belove, psychologist and coach. My specialty is helping people do their midlife transformation work, a psychological project that creates a foundation for happy and satisfying second half of life.

Midlife Work, because it involves so much careful attention to inner truth, is notoriously stressful on marriages and on dating relationships.

The challenges of the midlife project are echoed in the typical questions asked me as a dating-at-midlife expert:

?Learning to reconcile what you say with what you do. This challenge is echoed in questions like: Why does he say this when he does that? What is really happening?
?Learning to create your own dreams instead of being the victim of someone else's. This challenged is echoed in questions like these: How do I say that I don't want to xyz? I've been lying about some things and what should I do now?
?Learning to live a life that suits you. This challenge produces questions like Is what I'm doing normal? What if my kids think I'm crazy? How can I say that this is starting to bother me?

A person doing Midlife Transformation Work needs to develop 1) A Working Vision, 2) Skills and Strategies to realize that vision, and 3) External sources of support for the project. My role for people is to be part of the support system. I help people clarify their visions, develop the strategies and skills they need, and I help them review their progress.


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M.A. Counseling Psychology
Ed.D. Counsulting Psychology (Family Therapy)

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