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Expert: Equality in Marriage Institute - 2/25/2006
Question My question is what would be the right thing to do. My husband and I can not make we have have tried and tried we have two children girl 6 and boy 4. My husband has a job in SC and I will have a job in Oklahoma 1000 miles apart. I want the kids during the school year and he would get them all summer and school holidays. I want to know what kind of an affect this is going to cause our kids will they grow to hate us or resent us we both have so much love for them and tehy are very loving kids and I dont want to ruin their lives. Any advise would be helpful?
Answer Dear Laurie,
There are many, many resources avaliable to you and your children during this difficult time, here are soem to get you started:
1. Children's Rights Council, gocrc.com
2. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, aaml.org- look in their publications section.
3. Brette McWhorter Sember- The Visitation Handbook
4. Use google to search for articles on children and divorce- their are many. While there is no divorce that will make all happier, you can do as best you can and educating yourself is the best place to start.
5. Consider family counseling during this time so that you can all learn ways to express your feelings to one another- aamft.org.
6. Divorce affects you, your children, your husband, your respective families and friends. How it is handled- with respect, dignity and knowledge will be tough at times but it will pay off.
7. The more you cand your spouse can decide on, without laweyrs will help the process go more smoothly and your tones with each other will be noticed by your children.
8. Their new books written on divorce and children- both young and how divorce affects them once they are older - many years after their parents have divorced. Smartmarriages.org has more info.
I hope this helps.
Also check out equalityinmarriage.org, divorcesource.com and divorcemag.com to begin educating yourself on the divorce process.
