| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Lost and Lonely | 11/11/2009 |
Q: I was with my husband for 14 years and have 2 children together. We recently separated in July of ...
A: I am sorry that you are in this stressful, sad and confusing situation. My heart goes out to you. ...
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| We have three kids and I want to fix this! | 11/8/2009 |
Q: So I'm going to try to be as real and honest about this as I can be. I have a ex. She just abruptly ...
A: I am sorry that you are feeling badly about your predicament, but in all honesty I have to say that ...
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| Contemplating Divorce | 11/5/2009 |
Q: Becky, I have been married for over 10 years and have three beautiful children. Until 8 months ...
A: No, I do not think it is good to stay married for the children -- they need to be exposed to a ...
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| divorce | 11/3/2009 |
Q: My wife has man at work she has seen for several months now and she tells me he is very kind and she ...
A: I am sorry that you are going through your marital distress. First, your wife's relationship with ...
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| About to deliver 2nd child; contemplating divorce | 10/26/2009 |
Q: Becky, I'm a 39 year old professional woman who is eight months pregnant. I've got a wonderful ...
A: I could feel the frustration you feel oozing out of every word you wrote -- and for good reason!! ...
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| divorce | 10/24/2009 |
Q: My wife has a boyfriend that is waiting on our divorce to get his. We have not filled anything yet ...
A: I am really sorry for what you are going through. I am sure it is sad, frustrating, and maddening ...
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| Getting a Divorce | 10/17/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 months and we have been separated for 3 months. He is very ...
A: I am so sorry that you are going through a bad time when this time so soon after your marriage ought ...
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| failed marriage; probable divorce | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Dr Becky, My husband of 8 years moved out 12 days ago. It wasn't after a "blow-up" or anything. We ...
A: There is no way to make a person admit to an affair. Even normally honest people will lie through ...
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| failed marriage; probable divorce | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Dr Becky, My husband of 8 years moved out 12 days ago. It wasn't after a "blow-up" or anything. We ...
A: It does sound as if your husband is breaking away, and the sad news is that he is probably not ...
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| divorce with a 2 yr old. | 10/10/2009 |
Q: Becky, I have not one nice word to say of my soon to be ex. He cheated on me for a year, emotionally ...
A: I am so sorry that you are in such pain after the end of your marriage. I understand the emotions ...
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| Adultery and alcoholism together - what do I do? | 10/8/2009 |
Q: I am a 50 yr old Male who waited until 33 to get married to what I thought was my one and only wife. ...
A: I'm not sure what you're asking about advice. Legally, I don't have much to say, as I am not a ...
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| My soon to be ex wifes boyfriend | 10/6/2009 |
Q: This question may get lengthy as this is a probably not a situation that is brought to the table in ...
A: Yes, in my opinion you did overreact. We should allow our children the space to call their parent's ...
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| deciding whether to seperate | 9/27/2009 |
Q: i have been married for almost a year. My husband is very loving and caring the only problem he will ...
A: What an awful situation, I really feel for you. Lots of things could be going on with your husband ...
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| divorce | 9/25/2009 |
Q: My wife has a friend that she says she could possibly date if we get divorced. He works with her ...
A: I think you need to worry about yourself and your own health. You can't control what your wife does, ...
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| divorce | 9/23/2009 |
Q: My wife has a friend that she says she could possibly date if we get divorced. He works with her ...
A: I really feel for you. At the very least your wife is having an emotional affair. If she was my ...
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| Should I Move On? | 9/22/2009 |
Q: com volunteer in my field, so I really appreciate your time. I have been married for just over 3 ...
A: Your situation is tough -- you believe marriage is forever, but are encountering deal-breaker sort ...
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| protection of my son from ex-husband | 9/19/2009 |
Q: I was married for a short time to a man who has turned out to be a very poor excuse for a human. We ...
A: Sorry for what you are going through. I thought long and hard about your question ... and I don't ...
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| Daughter dis-owns Dad and Sis and more | 9/14/2009 |
Q: First I want to thank you for taking your time to listen and help people like me. It's so awesome to ...
A: Raising kids and being a parent if really tough. It's hard to say what went wrong, but it sounds ...
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| divorce | 9/12/2009 |
Q: My wife recently told me she wanted a divorce but is going to meetings insure this is what she ...
A: Yes, stop giving her flowers and all of that -- those things will only anger and alienate her more ...
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| daughter having trouble | 9/12/2009 |
Q: In Jan 2009 I left my husband who was emotionally & financially abusive. I pack up my daughters and ...
A: What you are experiencing is a tough problem, and I know you must be desperate to do the right ...
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| divorce | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My wife recently told me she wanted a divorce but is going to meetings insure this is what she ...
A: You really have my sympathy for what you are going through -- the situation you are in is a tough ...
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| Ex-husband hates new boyfriend | 9/10/2009 |
Q: My husband and I were married for 13 years and have been separated for 4 years. We have a ten year ...
A: Great to hear from you, thanks for writing. Is there any reason you and your husband have not ...
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| What to do?? | 8/30/2009 |
Q: . My husband & I have been married for 9 yrs & unfortunatly its just not working between us. We've ...
A: You have sent in a very difficult and complicated situation for me to comment about, my dear. I ...
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| How to handle other parent involving child in adult issues | 8/26/2009 |
Q: Wife moved hours away, forcing husband to start divorce proceedings. Now she has apparently changed ...
A: Ruthie, You wrote: "Frankly, I fear most kids would expect their parents to sacrifice themselves ...
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| Leaving an abusive marriage | 8/24/2009 |
Q: I recently filed an order of protection against my husband of one year. In the beginning, he was ...
A: You did not bring this abuse on yourself. No one deserves to be abused, and there is no excuse for ...
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| post divorce relationship | 8/19/2009 |
Q: I am having trouble coming to terms with a situation.. my boyfriend of 9 months still has property ...
A: No, you are not being childish. I hear this problem all the time -- the ex husbands or wives who are ...
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| Trust issues... divorce? | 8/17/2009 |
Q: About a year ago I confronted my husband about strange behavior including: not coming home after ...
A: You poor dear. Life is difficult when married to an addict, and the worst thing is that they have an ...
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| How to handle other parent involving child in adult issues | 8/12/2009 |
Q: Wife moved hours away, forcing husband to start divorce proceedings. Now she has apparently changed ...
A: and I apologize for not answering you sooner. I somehow did not find your letter in my mailbox ...
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| Jealousy in my 7 year old | 8/11/2009 |
Q: I have a 7 year old from a previous marriage. I started dating my boyfriend 2 1/2 years after the ...
A: Please forgive me for not writing sooner -- I did not see it in my mailbox although I check the box ...
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| How to cope with my boyfriends soon to be ex-wife | 8/7/2009 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and we just moved in together a couple of weeks ago. I ...
A: It is amazing to me that I hear from people with issues all over the world -- and England is a long ...
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| visitation | 8/7/2009 |
Q: When my husband and I were separated and both living in Nebraska he accepted a job in Mississippi. I ...
A: I sympathize with your plight. Unfortunately, there just isn't enough information here for me to ...
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| boundaries | 8/1/2009 |
Q: Coparenting while living closeby each other presents challenges. My kids ask to play with their ...
A: OK, I have a better picture. Thanks. Divorce is annoying, and raising kids with someone you're ...
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| boundaries | 8/1/2009 |
Q: Coparenting while living closeby each other presents challenges. My kids ask to play with their ...
A: This is a tough question because unfortunately there aren't any details to help me get a clear ...
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| Confused....returns | 7/30/2009 |
Q: Well I return again. The last question being if my husband can change as radically as he has since ...
A: Leaving someone, especially when you have children, is very complicated, isn't it? Leaving is ...
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| divorce's effect on 3 1/2 mo-old great-grand daughter | 7/28/2009 |
Q: My grand-daughter is negotiating a divorce from her husband. She moved from the home this past ...
A: With that said, though, you may not like what I have to say, but please know that I get how much you ...
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| Child custody | 7/24/2009 |
Q: I am writing to you for a friend of mine who is some trouble. She has 2 daughters who she loves, ...
A: I am not a lawyer, so I can't answer questions regarding custody. However, I wanted to comment that ...
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| boyfriend's ex-wife | 7/20/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a wonderful man for about 8 months. I feel we have a great relationship and I ...
A: Unfortunately the problem you describe is a fairly common one among divorced exes. I feel badly for ...
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| divorce and step children | 7/19/2009 |
Q: I have 5 children by a prev. marriage My husband now and I have 1 child we are having money problems ...
A: Listen to yourself ... your husband is verbally and emotionally abusive, and he may even have a ...
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| divorce and step children | 7/18/2009 |
Q: I have 5 children by a prev. marriage My husband now and I have 1 child we are having money problems ...
A: I understand the stress of having children from one marriage that aren't always totally accepted and ...
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| My wife calls Her ex. | 7/15/2009 |
Q: This started in March when I saw a text message my wife recieved from her ex that was very explicit ...
A: I wish I could help you, but I don't understand your question clearly enough. It sounds like there ...
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| Confused | 7/15/2009 |
Q: On the back of the mail that I sent you on the 12/06/2009, regarding leaving my husband, I quote ...
A: Noeline, Your question is -- can a person change drastically in such a short a time, and the answer ...
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| sadness | 7/13/2009 |
Q: I've been separated for more than a year and i don't know why i still feel sad. I have a solid ...
A: You poor dear -- sounds like you are experiencing depression, and understandably so!! You have ...
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| Vacation Boundaries | 7/13/2009 |
Q: Dr. Whetstone, Am I over stepping my boundaries when I ask my Ex wife, what adults are joining she ...
A: Divorce and raising kids is tough, isn't it? You have my sympathies. In answer to your question, ...
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| Ex is mad for punishment | 7/8/2009 |
Q: How do I rationalize withmy ex that my out of control daughter needed to be punished for stealing my ...
A: Wow -- it sounds like mayhem at your house. I've raised teens as a single mom, and know how hard it ...
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| Is he just playing me? | 7/7/2009 |
Q: My husband of 8yrs marriage,15yrs together walked out 5mths ago on myself and our 2 children. Saying ...
A: Greetings down there in Australia! I am so sorry for the distress you are feeling. It DOES sound as ...
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| Step Mom | 6/29/2009 |
Q: Ive recently remarried to a wonderful woman and she has two kids 11 and 14. Now previous to our ...
A: I hate to tell you this, but I do not agree that you should insist that your daughter call your wife ...
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| Lawyer like Husband | 6/28/2009 |
Q: I'm 50 yrs old and have been married and living in Texas for 10 yrs. I'm not American and, though ...
A: Wow -- you do have problems. I don't really think I am going to be able to help that much with words ...
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| seperation???? | 6/26/2009 |
Q: When i first met my now husband, I fooled around with his so called best friend. Bluntly, it was ...
A: What a story you have. And how difficult it must be to live and try to make a life with a man who ...
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| Separation Looming? | 6/26/2009 |
Q: Becky, I have been married for 5 years, have 2 teenage stepchildren (I have no children of my own), ...
A: You sure have some enormous problems on your hands, and I empathize with you. I once was involved in ...
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| Adultry/Divorce | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I am currently married to my husband who has been having a sexual affair since March 23, 2009. After ...
A: What you are experiencing is no doubt your own hell on earth, and I am so sorry for that. It is ...
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| the childrens relationship with a soon to be ex | 6/21/2009 |
Q: My ex and I have two daughters they are now 7 and 9. Our divorce has been final for over two years, ...
A: My how divorce can weave a tangled mess ... what could be a neatly wound up ball of yarn ends up ...
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| Urgent....What do I tell my child? | 6/12/2009 |
Q: Like so many others I am in the process of leaving my husband of 17 years (no extra marital ...
A: I really feel for you during this stressful time, and appreciate that you want to do the best you ...
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| Decision to be made | 6/10/2009 |
Q: I have been in relationship with a man for almost two years now. He was married then but his ...
A: and from Canada! Dating men who are married and/or in the process of getting divorced is never ...
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| Help Needed regarding TO or NOT to Divroce | 6/9/2009 |
Q: i am very confused to decide about my current relationship. I am from Pakistan. I am married at 24 ...
A: It amazes me that on this web site I hear from people all over the world. I also know that your ...
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| Meeting her children | 6/9/2009 |
Q: I am in a very serious relationship with a women for over 6 months. I have am going through a ...
A: Like you, I would be concerned if I was in a "serious" relationship with someone for many months who ...
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| divorce, dating and my 7year old | 6/8/2009 |
Q: My divorce is almost finalized, I have been dating a wonderful man and we are eager to move on with ...
A: I thought I had answered your follow-up question earlier, so if I am answering it twice, I ...
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| divorce, dating and my 7year old | 6/8/2009 |
Q: My divorce is almost finalized, I have been dating a wonderful man and we are eager to move on with ...
A: You may not like my answer, but in the interest of your son, here goes. If you didn't want to hurt ...
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| Marriage falling apart | 6/5/2009 |
Q: My wife and I are having real problems and its getting to the point now where most of our ...
A: Wow, your question is really complicated. I am wondering if you could go to a therapist in your town ...
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| Why can't he realize the effect of the divorce on the children? | 6/4/2009 |
Q: My ex and I were together for 15 years. We have out of that relationship 2 boys, one 13 and one 4. ...
A: Divorce is not a great experience, no matter what. But divorce is defined as: "cease or break ...
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| Moving towards Divorce. | 6/4/2009 |
Q: my name is David. I am 30 yrs old and have been married for over 3yrs now in a loveless ...
A: What a sad situation for you and all involved. I really feel for you. I'm not a lawyer, but I can ...
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| Transparency after second marriage | 6/3/2009 |
Q: This is my second question to you. I can call my self a bit of a control freak and that makes it ...
A: The more context I have the more I can get the picture! In your latest contact, it sounds to me ...
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| Transparency after second marriage | 6/3/2009 |
Q: This is my second question to you. I can call my self a bit of a control freak and that makes it ...
A: Rebecca! Thanks for writing. I am curious, why do you view not knowing what happens, as far as ...
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| Confused and resentful | 6/3/2009 |
Q: My bf (hopefully, would be husband) has a 18 years old daughter from his previous marriage. The ...
A: the question of whether a relationship or a child should come first, and, how involved should a ...
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| divorce decree | 6/2/2009 |
Q: When I met my current husband he was just wrapping up a divorce, he had a 2, 3, and 4 year old child ...
A: So sorry you are faced with this difficult situation, especially when your heart is in the right ...
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| Getting rid of a long-term headache | 5/29/2009 |
Q: Doctor Becky. My boyfriend and I have been living together for over 10 years. I'm a woman in my ...
A: Celia, Celia ... I am so sorry for the situation you find yourself in. While I was reading your ...
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| New Boyfriend | 5/28/2009 |
Q: My soon to be ex wife (we have been separated for 4 months) appears to be embarking on a new ...
A: Bobby. You can't know for sure, and none of us who have been single parents can know everything ...
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| not invloving bf with my children | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I am weeks away from solidifying my divorce. During this process I met a wonderful man. Someone is ...
A: What dilemmas we face when being single moms who enjoy dating and relationships! I know, I've been ...
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| I don't know what to do and so confused.... | 5/27/2009 |
Q: I am 22 years old and my boyfriend of 2 years is 35. I never thought I would date such an older man ...
A: Well, this a problem I hear fairly frequently ... and it basically involves two former spouses who ...
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| New Boyfriend | 5/27/2009 |
Q: My soon to be ex wife (we have been separated for 4 months) appears to be embarking on a new ...
A: I wish I had more details about your situation, but still I will give your question my best shot ...
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| ex-wife harrassment | 5/26/2009 |
Q: How can i get my ex-wife to leave my new girlfriend alone. i have been divorced for 6 months now, ...
A: Boy, you ARE in a pickle, and a serious one at that. I am sorry for your distress. Divorce does ...
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| Re-Marry?? | 5/22/2009 |
Q: I was wondering how long after a divorce do you have to wait to get married and can you avoid the ...
A: Well, are you wondering about what the state law says about when you can re-marry, or are you ...
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| Is it OK to hang out with my boyfriend's young children? | 5/20/2009 |
Q: So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months which is a short time but we have been great ...
A: Basically, your boyfriend is right on. What I consider in this situation is not so much what is ...
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| "boss" issue | 5/19/2009 |
Q: One of our customers, I might as well call him a boss, was divorced about a year ago and has a 15 ...
A: I just signed up to be an expert and yours is my first question. OK ... so, when faced with any ...
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