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Divorce Issues/Questions Answered by Expert Terri Matheis
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Starting Over...AGAIN! | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: My name is Veronica and I am a 23 year old single mother of a beautiful 2 year old boy...me and his ... A: The key to your answer is in your own words..."once he started having to contribute". You gave and ... | |
| Life wasn't meant to be a nasty threesome | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I moved in with my now Fiancé about 4.5 years ago. He had been separated for about 5 years at that ... A: The problem as I see it is that you are a take-charge type of person and your fiance is passive. It ... | |
| divorce | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: in may my husband of 6 yrs and the man ive lived with for nearly 10 said he was having a nervous ... A: The car's title is in your husband's name, so I'm not sure that you have much that you can do about ... | |
| divorse question | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: Here is my case and I need your valuable advice 1) I got married to US citizen in India in Nov ... A: I am so very sorry, Ricky, but I am not a lawyer. It seems, however, that if the marriage took place ... | |
| Divorce, but not sure what else | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: Oh, my. I have a harrowing tale, but I don't want to take too long to tell it. I'll try to keep it ... A: Go with your new guy and live a life. Your ex is attempting to control you through your fear of his ... | |
| ex husband posting blogs | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I just recently finalized my divorce with my ex husband. It was a very contemptuous divorce and we ... A: Are you allowed to leave comments on his blog? In many cases, this is true. If so, simply leave a ... | |
| Transferring divorce case | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband, with whom I have a child, entered a divorce petition in Riverside County, California ... A: I'm not sure, but I think whomever files first claims residency. However, check out the alimony and ... | |
| divorce and eviction | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i are getting divorced. I currently live in our marital home. Our home was ... A: This is very tricky. You probably need to consult with a lawyer, but I would not buy into his ... | |
| divorce | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I just remarried ex-husband 6 mo ago. I have my own house in my name only. Our marriage isn't ... A: Check with a lawyer and see if you qualify for an annulment. That would be your easiest route. I ... | |
| I'm thinking of moving on...I'm afraid to start! | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I am still married to my husband. I am angry all the time and I just want it to be over. The issues ... A: Getting your degree will be a great start to becoming self-sufficient. There are counselors at ... | |
| health and alimony benefits. | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: SORRY IF THIS IS A DUPLICATE My situation--I LIVE IN CALIFORNIA.......Married 17 years no children, ... A: With regard to insurance, you will need to get your own once you are divorced; however, there is a ... | |
| Bigamy | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: my son and daughter-in-law seperated and started divorce papers back in 2005 and never completed the ... A: The marital status of parties is not terminated until a final decree is entered. An annulment can be ... | |
| back to court | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: My divorce became final four years ago. My husband hired an expensive lawyer. Two months before the ... A: I don't know the statute of limitations, but I would certainly go see a new lawyer who specializes ... | |
| Interim Division of Income | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I am in the middle of a divorce. My soon to be ex-wife is pushing for interim support. I have 3 ... A: My advice to you is to stop using her lawyer and get your own. My understanding is that you can ... | |
| Retirement | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: I have a question about retirement. My husband was divorced 20 years ago. He had been married for 12 ... A: I'm sorry but now you are taking me way out of my level of expertise. It would seem that if she ... | |
| Retirement | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: I have a question about retirement. My husband was divorced 20 years ago. He had been married for 12 ... A: I am not a lawyer; however, I found the following information which may help you understand this ... | |
| Can I move out of state during a separation? | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been separated from my husband for a couple of months. I'm the one who moved out. I couldn't ... A: Since you are afraid to bring this up with your own attorney, you already realize that this is a ... | |
| splitting wedding gifts during a divorce | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I are getting a divorce after 6 yrs of marriage. He wants to evenly split up a set of ... A: Gifts are typically kept by the one who received them. Since they were given to both of you, and I ... | |
| divorce decree | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: my question is about a decree in my divorce saying that my ex and child be within 100 mile radius ... A: I am not a lawyer, but as I know it ---she needed to get your consent to move the child to a ... | |
| itsnunu@gmail.com | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband since 1999. It'll be nine years tomorrow. We didnt go to court and ... A: I am so sorry, Suzie. Sometimes this service has hip-cups which don't allow emails to go through. ... | |
| Divorce and he's playing games | 8/16/2008 |
| Q: here it goes, I was married in 2004 he cheated and abuse me and the children so in November 23, 2005 ... A: I am not a lawyer and am unfamiliar with case law in Iowa, or wherever the divorce is taking place, ... | |
| paying depth after separation but before divorce in CA | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I'm Dutch and married to a us citizen. We got married in Las Vegas and lived in San Diego for one ... A: I'm sorry. I'm not a lawyer. You will need to get one quickly because you need to make the divorce ... | |
| My son has two "dads" and has no one really. | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I am 27 and have a two-year-old. His father went to France when he was a few months old, I entered ... A: Your son is only two years old and will not remember the older man. I think that priority should be ... | |
| Not see or heard from Children | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: I left my Childrens mother in Nov 07. She asked not to do anything until after the holidays. On the ... A: You have a right to see your children. Send a certified letter to the home and, first, explain that ... | |
| I need help | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: Is my husband coming back? It's been 2 weeks since he left and he didn't contact me at all. We've ... A: Sometimes God does for us that which we cannot do for ourselves. Let him go. And please, get some ... | |
| locks | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: if my husband changed the locks in our home and we are only separated do I have the right to enter ... A: Yes. He is forcing you to "abandon" the home which gives him a one-up postition in the distribution ... | |
| how to support him? | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: Im in love with an amazing man who is 8 years my senior (i am 22). we have been together for a year ... A: I'm going to side with your friends. Let me explain. First and foremost, his marriage should be ... | |
| x-wife problems | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship and living with my boyfriend and have been for 2 years.....His x-wife lives ... A: If there were children, I would possibly answer this in a different manner, but I totally agree with ... | |
| life insurance | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: I was awarded a $100,000 insurance policy in my divorce settlement in leau of a part of his ... A: You definitely need to contact a lawyer. Immediately. And bring a filed copy of your divorce ... | |
| adultery and it's affects. | 6/18/2008 |
| Q: Terri, I am recently divorced like a month ago to a man who I was with for 12 years. He has cheated ... A: I am SO sorry. I thought I answered this question! This is what I think. I might be wrong, but ... | |
| bitter ex-wife and angry adult stepdaughter | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I am 50, married Geo one year ago. I have a 17 year old daughter that lives with us, plus a 20 year ... A: You don't mention Geo in any of this except that he takes the passive role of not answering the ... | |
| Ex's girlfriend | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: My ex-husband and I have 2 teenage girls (14, 16). We have been divorced for 8 years. We have ... A: You have no control over what this woman says, but you can take control of the situation if you know ... | |
| Remarried before limitation date is up? | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: I've recently found out that shortly after my divorce, my ex-husband remarried prior to the 60 day ... A: I'm not certain because I am not a lawyer. Having said that, it's really not your problem. The ... | |
| The Ex-Factor | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 26-years-old and a single mother. My boyfriend is 29 and a single father. We have been dating ... A: You are going to have to ask yourself a very serious question. With this man, IF he stays with you, ... | |
| My Daughter's Divorce | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: My daughter divorced last September from an abusive/porn addicted husband of four years. There was ... A: This is a legal question which is outside of my expertise. I would suggest consulting with a ... | |
| death after divorce | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: My ex husband past away recently. We had been divorced a yr in March. This may be a dumb question ... A: Yes, you are divorced not widowed; however, depending on how long you were married and your age, you ... | |
| My boyfriend has reservations about my kids | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend confided in me last night that he feels jealous and insecure about the fact that I've ... A: I wouldn't be so rough on him. He was being honest and expressive - both great qualities. If he ... | |
| doubting relationship | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: How do you know if a girl really loves you? I am engaged about to be married in 9 weeks and my ... A: It sounds to me like you are an orthodox jew and there are many traditions/rules by which you will ... | |
| He is married to me and another woman!!at the same time! | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: My ex husband is British and working in the USA , left us (me and my 3 kids in Dubai 4 years ago ... A: This would require someone familiar with international law. I am not able to answer your question; ... | |
| Still love exhusband | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: My ex lives in NY and me in Oklahoma. We share responsibilities as far as are children are ... A: I would be very honest and tell him that you feel that you have made a mistake, that you still love ... | |
| Getting remarried and moving with kids | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: I have been divorced for 1 1/2 with me having primary custody of our two children ages 13 and 9. At ... A: interesting. I would have thought that he would have said he wanted them to live with him! I ... | |
| Getting remarried and moving with kids | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been divorced for 1 1/2 with me having primary custody of our two children ages 13 and 9. At ... A: I would never feel safe when it comes to judges and children! Sometimes, when there is nothing in ... | |
| negative comments to our 4 year old | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: I filed for divorce one year ago and during this process my husband requested an evaluation to ... A: A four year old girl needs her mother's protection from the psychological abuse that is being ... | |
| estranged daughter/stepdaughter | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: As I was reading a past question from "ty" back on 6/7/07 I could not help but notice the many ... A: I'm sorry that I took so long to answer your question! I saw it but then it disappeared from the ... | |
| Friends with ex's g/f | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: Here is my situation. I was really good friends with this couple whose son played football with ... A: Michelle, this is appears to me to be a boundary issue for you. With every encounter, we either ... | |
| Taxes and children after divorce | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I've seen the question asked... 'If we have joint custody and I am the 'custodial parent' should I ... A: Yes, I would ask the IRS for their rules if there is no mention of who gets to claim the deduction ... | |
| Taxes and children after divorce | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: I've seen the question asked... 'If we have joint custody and I am the 'custodial parent' should I ... A: You have no control over what your ex-wife does or does not do; however, you can act under the laws ... | |
| I don't know what to do first | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 9 months and I left my husband because I was unhappy with him and he hit me ... A: Oh boy. You have a complicated situation, don't you? I really wish that I could offer you some ... | |
| Divorce | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: Ive been married less than 4months and my husband is seeking a divorce already what would be the ... A: Go down to your local courthouse and tell the women in the family services division your dilemma. ... | |
| Overnight Visitation | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: I live in the KC, MO Area and my son lives with his mother in St. Louis which is 4 hours apart. My ... A: It sounds like you are a good father and I would not worry about bringing your son to KC. Children ... | |
| claiming children | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: My x husband is trying to tell me i don't need to claim any of our children and it wont make any ... A: In your divorce decree, it should have outlined who gets to claim the children as tax deductions. ... | |
| WHAT TO DO NEXT | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: MY BROTHER IN LAW IS TRYING TO GET HIS WIFE TO LEAVE THE HOUSE. I AM PRETTY SURE THAT THEY FILED ... A: If there has been an award of alimony/child support then there has also been a division of property. ... | |
| The ex wife and interference | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: I need some guidance around boundaries of an ex wife. I'm dating a father of a 12 year old daughter ... A: You didn't say specifically how long that you have dated this man nor your interest level in him; ... | |
| divorced but still friends | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: My exhusband and I recently divorced and we have done a pretty good job of remaining friends after a ... A: I'm sorry that it took so long for me to answer your question! I was out of town on business and ... | |
| Bouncing back ... | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: Terri, This question is for me, but about a close friend. My husband passed away in Feb. and in ... A: I have a saying which I would like to share with you. There is a difference between a caregiver and ... | |
| Soon to be ex wife starting trouble for me with my command | 11/23/2007 |
| Q: My soon to be ex wife is starting problems for me. I am currently Deployed to Iraq and my soon to be ... A: If you have an independent witness, that is very important to proving innocence in court as well as ... | |
| Soon to be ex wife starting trouble for me with my command | 11/23/2007 |
| Q: My soon to be ex wife is starting problems for me. I am currently Deployed to Iraq and my soon to be ... A: Yes, the offense of harassing communications is a Class A misdemeanor. You can call the police to ... | |
| divorce | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: first I'd like to know how I can become a member of your group? I live in Connecticut, my husband ... A: Go to http://www.equalityinmarriage.org/wd.html. I'm very disappointed to find out that this free ... | |
| divorce ideas ?? | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: I'm looking for CREATIVE ideas for a divorce, where both sides can consider somewhat a win-win. In ... A: You are a perfect candidate for a divorce mediator! This is a person who acts as a middle man ... | |
| My ex has a girl Friend | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: My ex and I have been divorced / separated for 5 years. We have a 9 year old son. Neither of us ... A: I know this is going to be very tough on you but it is in your best interests to meet the woman and ... | |
| 3 year old reactions to divorce | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: I am the grandmother of a 3 year old whose parents are divorcing. Her mother is living(immediately) ... A: It certainly sounds like (grand)parental alienation, which can happen when there is a bitter ... | |
| Showing your two yr old how to deal with a break up | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: In July my kids dad & I had broken up & now my two year old is acting so different. He is sometime ... A: Involve yourself with local Divorce Support Groups or see if there are "Kid in the Middle" agencies ... | |
| Separation | 9/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband won't sign divorce papers. I have never had this problem in the past. I have a 20 month ... A: Hopefully, you have a lawyer who can answer those questions for you, but it is my understanding that ... | |
| Child support/taxes | 9/20/2007 |
| Q: Their mother pays us child support everymonth.The divorce decree states she can claim the kids every ... A: I think what you are saying is that IF she should receive a tax refund, the monies would be turned ... | |
| False Daily Journal | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: You have been such a help to me with my guilt, etc. trying to separate from my husband. He still ... A: I would print off a copy of the journal and give it to your attorney so that he can advise you of ... | |
| Divorce | 8/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been divorce for little over a year . My husband left me for other women. He is 32 and she ... A: I am so sorry. I know that this has to be emotionally hard on you. Once divorced, you lose control ... | |
| Ex still part of the extended family | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: I wrote to you once before and you were so helpful and supportive. Can I trouble you again on the ... A: I want you to know that I am thinking about your situation. Obviously, your ex-husband's deceit and ... | |
| Ex still part of the extended family | 8/14/2007 |
| Q: I wrote to you once before and you were so helpful and supportive. Can I trouble you again on the ... A: Jenny, I need more information: Who did the leaving? Was your new husband in the picture before the ... | |
| Im asking on behalf of my mom | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: So my mom has told me and showed me that my dad is hiding $1040 in cash in the basement. My mom ... A: I am strongly opposed to parents bringing their children into their divorce arguments. Alienating a ... | |
| Real Estate | 7/29/2007 |
| Q: I was awarded the house and its contents. My Ex signed the house over to me and my lawyer is in the ... A: I believe that if your husband has signed a quit claim deed, you can give a copy to the title ... | |
| Divorcing an incarcerated husband | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband has recently been incarcerated and will likely be sentenced to a minimum of six years. ... A: Go to www.divorce-support-help.com and check out the on-line forms to get you started. A Power of ... | |
| Need Appeal Attorney | 7/25/2007 |
| Q: My divorce was final in May 2006. I feel my attorney did not do his best for me. I have to pay all ... A: You will need to move quickly...I don't know what the statute of limitaions are for an appeal. Ask ... | |
| ex-husband | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: I married my ex-husband when I was 19 years old. After a 10-month marriage, we divorced. I have ... A: My understanding is that you can't let go of a man who verbally/emotionally berates you, but you are ... | |
| want a divorce | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: I am a woman, 54, my husband is 57. We married at 26 and 29. He had been married before and had ... A: My heart felt so heavy as I read your letter. You may feel that you are in a black hole, but there ... | |
| moving in with fiance | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: I have been divorced for five years and have been raising my 10 and 13 year old boys as a single ... A: I sense that you feel overpowered by your ex, however, I think you are anticipating something that ... | |
| KEEPING IN CONTCT WITH CHILDREN | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I am divorced with two daughters (8 and 11). I got cell phones for them last year to make it easier ... A: I can understand that your ex-wife wants this vacation to be a "special" one-on-one time with the ... | |
| Feeling sick over divorce | 6/20/2007 |
| Q: I just filed for divorce a couple of days ago. My husband was very controlling. I was the primary ... A: If I am reading between the lines correctly.... First of all, let me validate your instincts. You ... | |
| get rid of ex-wife calling | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs. He has a daughter from a previous marriage. The ... A: Oh boy, this is where second marriages get into trouble. Regardless of whether it is a tactic or ... | |
| get rid of ex-wife calling | 5/23/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs. He has a daughter from a previous marriage. The ... A: Your welcome, Jo, but let me add one more thought after having read the circumstances around the ... | |
| get rid of ex-wife calling | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs. He has a daughter from a previous marriage. The ... A: Jo, I totally understand the difficult position that you are in. On the one hand, it would be easy ... | |
| get rid of ex-wife calling | 5/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs. He has a daughter from a previous marriage. The ... A: PAS is a huge problem and thank god, Alec Baldwin has brought the issue into the media. Since you ... | |
| Only been married 1 year | 5/10/2007 |
| Q: I only been married 1 year. However, we lived together for 5 years before that. I want to get a ... A: I am really not able to answer your question, but would advise you to see legal help. If you and ... | |
| Moving in with a boyfriend after divorce | 4/30/2007 |
| Q: I've been divorced for almost a year. I started dating someone a few months after my x-husband and ... A: Although you did not tell me how long you were separated prior to the divorce, personally I don't ... | |
| Ex-husband still part of family. | 4/16/2007 |
| Q: I have been divorced for two years. I was the one who left the marriage. I am currently in a new and ... A: Regardless of your family's reasons for maintaining such an over-the-top relationship with your ... | |
| Needing direction | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years. The last 4 years we have separated twice. I left. I am not ... A: He cannot let you go because, in his own way, he loves you and is afraid of being alone. It ... | |
| Relationship | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: I have been with the father of my children for almost 15 years. He has worked perhaps 2 of those ... A: I am worn out just reading about your situation. Every single member of the family is performing as ... | |
| Annulment | 3/9/2007 |
| Q: I went through an annulment that was finalized in January of 2006. I did not receive any papers ... A: The paperwork, if prepared by the court, is legal and binding; however, if the signature is not ... | |
| Second Marriage problem | 3/8/2007 |
| Q: First allow me to thank you in advance for your quick respond, let me ask you one more thing and I ... A: Gosh, this is complicated because now it sounds like your new wife has issues about your involvement ... | |
| affair aparent after divorce | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: A friend of mine brother became divorced ( absolute 4 days ago) has just found out that his ex wife ... A: Please have your friend go for a preliminary meeting with an appeals lawyer to see if there is ... | |
| affair aparent after divorce | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: A friend of mine brother became divorced ( absolute 4 days ago) has just found out that his ex wife ... A: Most states are "no-fault" divorces, so an affair would not make that much of a difference. ... | |
| Second Marriage problem | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: if you allow me I'd like to ask one more thing. As you comment in your anwser, my ex-wife only calls ... A: Okay, so that is why I was wondering about the frequency of the calls. Once every few months is ... | |
| Second Marriage problem | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: My wife gets really upset when my ex-wife calls to say something about our 14 year old daughter and ... A: It is really tough being a second wife. The first wife is an intrusion into the household. This is ... | |
| child support | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: no she only worked a few hours a night at a gas station and my new wife already has to pay child ... A: Well then, it looks like you have a reasonable request for a reduction in child support. Keep in ... | |
| child support | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: she is very capable of working shes just lazy,she also has another kid shes tyring to get me to pay ... A: If your income has decreased, you can request a reduction in child support. However, your new ... | |
| child support | 2/24/2007 |
| Q: how much is child suppout in al for 2 kids if i am making 10.00 a hour? A: I cannot tell you the exact amount, if any, that you would be asked to pay but I will say that child ... | |
| filing | 2/20/2007 |
| Q: I am at the beginning of a divorce. I live in Mountain Top, PA. I wanted to know if there is a ... A: It sounds like you and your husband would be perfect candidates for a mediator rather than lawyers. ... | |
| Second marriage | 2/14/2007 |
| Q: what the divorce rate for second marriages? tom A: The following article can probably answer all of your questions: Second Marriage Can Be As ... | |
| Statue of limitations of divorce and 401k plans | 2/12/2007 |
| Q: : Divorce and 401k plans Hi, if you are not the one I should be contacting PLEASE forward my email ... A: I would check with my accountant or lawyer before taking any steps. It seems to me that she is ... | |
| who Pays | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: but i can not afford a lawyer will they give me free aide.wife is filing for a divorce through a ... A: I don't know the answer to that question because I am not familiar with the agency. If you and your ... | |
| who Pays | 2/7/2007 |
| Q: wife is filing for a divorce through a legal service and says they want my pay stubs to determine ... A: In most states, the judge is the only one who can decide if you will be responsible for a portion or ... | |
| Leaving/legally | 1/24/2007 |
| Q: I have four children and my husband tells me I will never leave. He will call the police and say I ... A: You can file a restraining order against your husband without physical bruises. He is mentally, ... | |
| Divorce | 1/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been separted from my husband since April2006,no contact what so ever, He lives in one state ... A: You will want to file in the county in which you spent your married life. Since you have already ... | |
| Am I divorced? | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: I have not had any contact with my ex for 6 years. I live in Florida and he lives in California. ... A: Where were you living when you were married? It would be in that county that your divorce would, in ... | |
| am I divorced or not? | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: My lawyer - who pretty much shafted me, consistently, throughout the entire proceedings, called once ... A: I live in St. Louis County MO, so to get my court case I went to the following site ... | |
| Seperation/Divorce | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: I kicked out my mooching husband alittle more than 2 yrs ago for a variety of reasons. I moved from ... A: I'm sorry it took me so long to answer...long story! You can find out your answer by requesting a ... | |
| How do I find out.... | 1/2/2007 |
| Q: I am married but separated from my husband who resides in another state. How can I find our if my ... A: I believe the filing for divorce would need to take place in the county of your marital residence. ... | |
| Want my home back!! | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: I moved out of our home in July 2005 because my husband just refused. I tried to move on but after ... A: I would ask my lawyer about the option of moving back in. It is my understanding that the party who ... | |
| QDRO after a divorse | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: I have just been to court with my ex husband on a contempt that he did not repay me $40,000 after ... A: I have absolutely not a clue; however, one of the things which stands out to me is that he is giving ... | |
| With Mr Right but think about Mr Wrong | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: Was divorced from Mr Wrong 3 years ago. He was my 1st love and we married at 20. We were married ... A: First loves are hard to let go of, especially if they were high school sweethearts. What you have ... | |
| Moving on | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: After 5 years my fiance and I decided to call it quits. There was no big fight, no disaster...but ... A: Starting over is always scary but now with experience in your back pocket, your life will be an ... | |
| quick claim before divorce is final | 12/5/2006 |
| Q: My husband and i are in divorce proceedings, my husband refinanced the home and bought me out. I am ... A: I am not a legal expert so I cannot answer this question professionally. However, if you were ... | |
| getting over my divorce | 12/4/2006 |
| Q: Please help me! I was married for 22 years and now find myself divorced, alone, depressed and in ... A: I'm so sorry. I know when life is all work it is very difficult to imagine being happy again. But ... | |
| divorce and loss of home | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: This is complex, but I will try to be brief. My husband and I had a fight where a restraining was ... A: You need to file for divorce immediately. Until there is an order of separation, your husband may ... | |
| My husband can't handle the separation | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: I don't understand. You think it's ok for him to call me for a year listening to me hysterical on ... A: I'm sorry. Your original letter was not clear about the time span which had taken place. No, you ... | |
| My husband can't handle the separation | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: I met my husband in high school and we then dated for 9 years. He was always very moody. I never ... A: If you can, it would be helpful to put yourself in his shoes. You had an affair during a stressful ... | |
| pension/divorce | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have filed for divorce. The judge has signed off and All is done except the order ... A: Whatever was decreed in the divorce papers is what you are entitled to; however, I do not understand ... | |
| at what point am I divorced? | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: I'm in NY. All of our uncontested divorce papers have been signed by both my husband and me and ... A: You pay a lot of money for an attorney and he/she is basically your employee, so please do not ever ... | |
| Post Divorce | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: I have followed the terms of the agreement. Nothing has been done differently. As an example, we ... A: Please do not think that I was judging you. I was only sending out a warning signal! Your ... | |
| Post Divorce | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: My divorce has been finalized and has been recorded. However, my ex is now disagreeing with the ... A: Yes, your ex-husband can appeal the divorce decision if he does so in a timely manner; however, it ... | |
| Commingled Inherited Funds | 10/30/2006 |
| Q: My husband received $50,000 upon his mother's death. He had two accounts in his name that he always ... A: Well, you are correct in that the monies are now co-mingled; however, I am not familiar with ... | |
| Trouble with an ex | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: Terri! It's nice to know that I did the right thing and that this guy seems like a danger and a ... A: I don't know why he is doing it without learning more about him...but I will give you my favorite ... | |
| Trouble with an ex | 10/27/2006 |
| Q: I would first of all like to thank you for taking the time to read this- I'm very appreciative and ... A: This is really very serious and I am surprised the police took it so lightly. One only needs to ... | |
| Divorce question | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: i was married five years ago, my husband was very abusive,but I held on because I did not want to ... A: I'm sorry. I answered this question a couple of days ago, but apparently my reply did not go ... | |
| Children taking sides during divorce | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: my name is angelica and i'm 19 years old. i live with my mom and stepdad who has three children of ... A: This is so unfortunate because the dad really should be standing up to his daughters and telling ... | |
| How to file a contemp of divorce | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: Good afternoon, I am trying to find out how I can create and file a contempt document myself to ... A: There is a very simple solution to this!!! Go down to your county court house and ask at the ... | |
| Car during seperation and divorce | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: I live in Florida and my husband just recently (last week) left our place of residence. Our car had ... A: All personal property acquired during the marriage is jointly owned, so yes..the car is half yours. ... | |
| what I am entitiled to for spousal support | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: What kind of spousal support am I able to get under Wisconsin law? We were married for 28 years and ... A: I'm sorry, but I am not familiar with Wisconsin law; however, there is a less expensive route to ... | |
| druggie girlfriend | 10/5/2006 |
| Q: What should I do if I have found out that my soon to be ex husband is having an affair with a woman ... A: I'm so sorry. This is a tough one because the answer is probably not what you are going to want to ... | |
| House bought before marriage | 9/26/2006 |
| Q: The issues of divorce has come up. I want to make sure I cover all grounds so when it happens I ... A: If this were in my state, you would have to share in the proceeds from the sale of the house. Given ... | |
| divorce | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: i live in va and i'm currently living with my husband of 5 years. i learned that he's going through ... A: Get a lawyer! You are the owner of half of all assets (home, vehicles, and company). And don't ... | |
| dead beat husband and father | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: My sister is going through a nasty divorce and really needs some sincere advice. Her husband has ... A: Because he is mentally abusing her and the child, I would suggest that she go to the county court ... | |
| changing my divorce decision | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: i dont feel like my attorney had my best interest at heart he didnt really work for me and has not ... A: You could go on the internet and look up your county records of appeal cases and check out the names ... | |
| I want to leave my husband but I am finding difficult to make the decision. | 9/22/2006 |
| Q: My husband had an affair a while ago. I told him I was going to leave him but I didn't know where to ... A: Divorce IS difficult; however, if you have been miserable for a while, you have to ask yourself if ... | |
| Insurance | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: A lady told me she had it written into her divorce papers that he was to keep paying for her until ... A: I'm sorry but I don't know the answer to that one. Again, you really need to find a lawyer. Go to ... | |
| changing my divorce decision | 9/18/2006 |
| Q: I was just recently divorced, i didn't get any of the things i was aking for in the divorce ... A: Find out who the best appeal lawyer is in your area and file an appeal. Your husband may want to ... | |
| Divorce and sole custody | 9/17/2006 |
| Q: I filed for divorce and the court date is on September 25. and I put on the papers that I want sole ... A: It doesn't sound like he has any interest in an active role with his daughter. I would just ask for ... | |
| Ordered to leave your home | 9/1/2006 |
| Q: I went through a very ugly divorce afew years ago. During the time I was ordered to leave my home by ... A: Typically, the house is sold and proceeds are divided equitably, or, in some cases, the woman keeps ... | |
| Alimony | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: Terri, Hi 1st of all do you all have one of those club here in Houston,Tx? 2nd It is so hard to ... A: I'll assume your first question is in regard to the Sassy Pink Peppers and yes, we have groups ... | |
| Divorce | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: My wife and me separated beore four years because she didn't need me and started her own life. She ... A: I do not have any legal training, so I'm unable to answer that question. Your best bet is to seek ... | |
| Mid-life affair | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: It sounds like you deal with the woman's side of things but I want to ask you what are the odds of ... A: It's not that I am on a woman's side, so to speak, but it's just that I deal with women more so I ... | |
| is my dad hiding money | 6/24/2006 |
| Q: My mom, sister, and I are certain that divorce is inevitable, but my mom is very confused and feels ... A: This is not your problem!!! Your mother is capable of hiring a lawyer to take care of her and who ... | |
| fathers affair | 6/2/2006 |
| Q: what legal action can i take against a woman that has been having an affair with my dad and has ... A: I'm really sorry that this is happening in your life. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do ... | |
| I want to be able to move | 5/18/2006 |
| Q: I am currently going through a divorce. I left in December becuase I had had enough of the physical ... A: I don't know the rights in your state but I would HIGHLY advise getting a second lawyers opinion. I ... | |
| filing and expiration | 5/16/2006 |
| Q: once i file for divorce is their a certain time frame in which i have to act, such as i filed in ... A: Oh gosh, I haven't a clue. I'll assume that this was done without an attorney? In Missouri, the ... | |
| Divorce and prenup | 5/13/2006 |
| Q: I made the mistake of remarrying after my first husband died. I have been married to my second ... A: I would take my original of the prenuptial and put it in a safety deposit box AFTER making a copy of ... | |
| Filing for divorce while one parent is overseas | 5/9/2006 |
| Q: Here's my problem. I've been married for over 15 years to an alcoholic. My husband and I have been ... A: Daniell, I am so sorry, but this is way out of my scope. Hopefully, you have a lawyer and if not, ... | |
| is it over? | 4/26/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married almost 12 years. She is 30 and I am 41, we had what I thought was ... A: Have you ever read Gail Sheehy's book, "Passages"? If not, you might want to. One of the things she ... | |
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I founded a nationwide social group for divorced & separated women in 2004. The group`s name is Sassy Pink Peppers and our motto is "Laugh, Dance, Move On!" I can answer any question with regards to divorce, starting over, and moving on to a more positive life.
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I have been divorced twice, with one remarriage in between, and started a nationwide social group for divorced & separated women in 2004. The group's name is Sassy Pink Peppers and our motto is "Laugh, Dance, Move On!".
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