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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Options | 1/27/2012 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: The past 15 years have been tough living with my mother, we get along perfectly as long as she not ... A: . Hon I am so sorry it took me so long to get back to you but I thought about it and I dont ... | ||
| Abused and confused | 1/25/2012 | Tonya Genison Prince |
| Q: I'm 30 yrs old, been married to my husband for 2 years, and we've been together for 14 years. We ... A: First let me say, I am sorry that you are going through this. You are a smart, strong, beautiful ... | ||
| Verbal/Emotional Abuse | 1/11/2012 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am in need of some advice. Here is my story. I have married to my husband for 8 years. We have 2 ... A: If you fear what may happen when he does "hate" you, you also need to contact a local domestic ... | ||
| Verbal/Emotional Abuse | 1/10/2012 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am in need of some advice. Here is my story. I have married to my husband for 8 years. We have 2 ... A: What you describe is a horrible situation, but I am not sure what is your question for me. You don't ... | ||
| Help me help my Mom, Please | 12/26/2011 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: My mom is dating a guy in law enforcement and he is physical abusing her, but never leaves any ... A: Honey, I am super, super sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you and I really ... | ||
| How to heal? | 12/18/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My boyfriend and I had a very serious and generally happy relationship that ended about six weeks ... A: Your ex's healing is not your responsibility nor is it within your control. It's up to him to either ... | ||
| How to heal? | 12/17/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My boyfriend and I had a very serious and generally happy relationship that ended about six weeks ... A: I think you are asking the wrong question. Here is what I think I heard you say: * Your boyfriend ... | ||
| Cheated Emotionally, Husband becomes abusive, should I endure it because it's my fault? | 12/7/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: i'll just tell you a bit history about me and my husband. Basically he's my first everything, we ... A: First of all, I am very sorry that you are experiencing such events—I can see it has been very hard ... | ||
| Don't know what to do... | 12/1/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I've been married for 6 years and we have two small kids....2 and 5. We got married after 6 months ... A: This is very normal for women in abusive relationships. Hope is a powerful thing and its what keeps ... | ||
| first time domestic violence - is that the end of it? | 11/28/2011 | Tonya Genison Prince |
| Q: I am with a person who has recently come out of the army after 10 years. They are showing signs of ... A: I am sorry to hear about your situation. This is a difficult situation because I have so much ... | ||
| can't get over domestic abuse | 11/26/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: My ex boyfriend would emotionally and Physically abuse which caused me to miscarriage. I fimally had ... A: It sounds like you may be dealing with a form of Post Traumatic Stress. My best advice would be for ... | ||
| domestic abuse | 11/15/2011 | Dianne Schwartz |
| Q: I was wondering if it were common for a victim of domestic abuse to actually grab on to the abuser, ... A: I know you are hurting and confused right now. Yes, it is very common. It is a form of ... | ||
| Husband is getting the best lawyer possible | 11/2/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: My husband has hit or pushed me several times during the past years, but it became worse the last ... A: It sounds as though you have some good back up for your claims, however I am not able to answer your ... | ||
| abusive father | 11/2/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: i dont know i should write this question here or not. its about my father. we are 3 sister and i am ... A: Living with and trying to meet someone else's expectations can create a negative impact to your ... | ||
| Emotional Abuse and Confusion | 11/1/2011 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: I have been with my husband for ten years now. I dated him for five years before we got married in ... A: Honey, I am so sorry that I could not get right to you but I am a Flight Attendant and I was working ... | ||
| Verbally Abusive | 11/1/2011 | Tonya Genison Prince |
| Q: Me and my husband have been together for two years married for only 6 months and he has an alcohol ... A: First of all I am sorry that you are going through this experience. As you already have recognized ... | ||
| Facing domestic violence: I am on dependent visa | 10/24/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am 26 year old Indian national and got married last year. It was an arrange marriage where my ... A: Glad to hear you are smiling and feeling better about reaching out for feedback. This is really good ... | ||
| Facing domestic violence: I am on dependent visa | 10/24/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am 26 year old Indian national and got married last year. It was an arrange marriage where my ... A: I am so sorry that you are experiencing such events in your life. I don't know much about F2 visas ... | ||
| On Holiday my Boyfriend punched a wall instead of me... | 10/16/2011 | Susan Blocker |
| Q: Im writing to you because I don't know what else to do. I feel very confused... last week while on ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. I hope that this message finds you in peaceful spirits. After reading ... | ||
| Helpless | 10/16/2011 | C.N. Thomas, B.S.Psy. |
| Q: I am 28 years old. I have three kids ages 1, 3 1/2 and 5. I have been with my husband for 8 years ... A: Yesenia, Thank you for contacting me. First, it is a good thing that your husband left because ... | ||
| Expert Advice Needed | 10/14/2011 | C.N. Thomas, B.S.Psy. |
| Q: C.N. Thomas, I am a Journalism student at Northeastern University. I am writing a paper about ... A: I would be glad to help another fellow student! Today (Friday) would be just fine for you to call ... | ||
| how to get help | 9/28/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am in an abusive situation and don't know what to do. I keep getting told the police won't help ... A: It sounds like you are talking to the wrong people. You seem to have been really persistent, but I ... | ||
| abuse | 9/26/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: My daughter is 23 and has a 2 yr old. She has been in an abusive relaitonship for 7 yrs. They moved ... A: These kinds of issues are always very complicated. The thing that is almost guaranteed is that ... | ||
| lost! | 9/22/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: Am i over reacting when my husband calls me stupid or a dumbass. He says he dont mean nothing by it ... A: No, I don't believe you are over-reacting to what is being done. Even though someone doesn't mean ... | ||
| I dont know what to think? | 9/15/2011 | C.N. Thomas, B.S.Psy. |
| Q: ok i dont know where to start. i've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i ... A: SP, Thank you for contacting me. In response to your question, you have to realize your ... | ||
| marital rape | 9/14/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: My husband has had a drug problem, especially bad since his Mom passed in March 2010. He became ... A: I am so sorry that you experiencing such events in your life. Marital rape, physical abuse and drug ... | ||
| Do I have an abusive husband? | 9/14/2011 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: This is my second marriage - the 1st lasted for 4 months. The 1st man was both physically as well as ... A: Hon, Sorry to have taken so long to get back to you but it couldn't be helped. I like to ... | ||
| re: my son & my husband's bad temper | 9/7/2011 | Susan Blocker |
| Q: I need help to guide me. I don't know if what my husband is doing crosses the lines of what is ... A: I appreciate your inquiry and your conc earn for your child. YES the harsh punishment that your ... | ||
| One Time | 9/1/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: Almost 2 weeks ago my husband and I got into a horrible fight and he attacked me. We have been ... A: I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Violence is always disconcerting and disorienting. ... | ||
| i need advice | 8/30/2011 | C.N. Thomas, B.S.Psy. |
| Q: My name is Madisyn and I am 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We have been dating for about 6 months. Our ... A: As someone so young and full of life, your focus needs to be on yourself and not some boy who is ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | C.N. Thomas, B.S.Psy. |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18. Her and I were friends for about a year and a ... A: Ellenore, Thanks for taking the time to contact me. I think that right now the best thing that ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: Hon, So sorry but I have been in the hospital. I care about you but am still pretty weak. Write ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: Being concern for your partner is wonderful and shows that you really care for her. Emotional abuse ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Susan Blocker |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: I appreciate your inquiry. With regard to your question "What should I do to help her overcome ... | ||
| My girlfriend's abusive ex?! | 8/17/2011 | Dianne Schwartz |
| Q: Okay, well I’m 17, and my girlfriend Melanie is 18 (and yes, we’re lesbians. If you don’t like that, ... A: Let me explain how abusers work. They will watch and listen for anything a person doesn't like about ... | ||
| Clarity in the chaos | 8/16/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: Short version (loll): Come from home where discipline was shame based. i.e.: punishment for ... A: Sounds like you have been through a lot and believe you have a good understanding of what is going ... | ||
| Verbal Abuse | 8/8/2011 | Tonya Genison Prince |
| Q: My husband and I started out dating and for three years, we were off and on. In those three years, ... A: It is not okay to call names. You have let him know that it is hurtful to you and yet he continues ... | ||
| Mental Abuse | 8/8/2011 | Dianne Schwartz |
| Q: In a second marriage where a man is given all the love, looked after more than his first wife, why ... A: He didn't suddenly become an abuser with you, he was always that way and rest assured his first wife ... | ||
| Love, Abuse, Prison, Stds | 8/6/2011 | Sharman Castillo |
| Q: I am twenty two years old and I feel lost right now. I met Billy when I was 16 and he was 15. At 18 ... A: Hon... Sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to you but I was out of town and now I ... | ||
| I can't get over this... | 8/3/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: Cathy, My name is Deven. I'm sixteen and it's been more than a year since my abusive boyfriend and I ... A: Abuse disrupts the normal nervous system and deeply affects your emotions which cause flashbacks, ... | ||
Domestic Violence
Answers by Expert:
Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence
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Expertise
Are you feeling confused, angry, scared or hurt? Are you being yelled at, hit, threaten or told what to do? Do you worry or fear the safety of yourself, your family or pets? These are all signs of an abusive relationship, and I can help you determine if you are in an unhealthy or dangerous situation. No one deserves to live a life filled with fear, pain and abuse, and I am here to help you find ways for a better life--everyone deserves to live a life without fear and abuse. Your questions will be answered with honesty and respect. Please ask questions today to help you find better ways to live a more loving and happier life for you and your family. Let me help you!
Experience
I am a Certified Life Coach Specializing in Abuse and Domestic Violence.
Organizations
•SPARCC (Safe Place And Rape Crisis Center), Sarasota, FL
•CAT (Sarasota Violence Prevention Community Action Team)
•Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Publications
Please visit my webpage for more information and articles about abusive relationships and domestic violence at www.lifecoachcathy.com or www.DomesticViolence-Education.
Education/Credentials
•B.S. from Evergreen State College, Olympia, WA
•Core Competency Course from the Shelter for Abused Women and Children, Naples, Fl
•Life Coach Training from Changepoint Coaching & Consulting Association
•Advanced Training from The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education
•Sexual Violence Core Training from Florida Council Against Sexual Violence
•High Risk Domestic Violence Training by Lundy Bancroft and Sarasota Police Department, Fl
•Court Assistance Training from SPARCC (Safe Place and Rape Crisis Center), Sarasota, FL
Principles of Prevention by The Centers of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
Awards and Honors
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