AboutDianne Schwartz Expertise Relationship, self-love, domestic violence, personal and spiritual growth, self-examination to define the reasons we have pulled unhealthy people into our lives and how to end this destructive practice.
Experience Author of, "Whose Face is in the Mirror?" One woman's journey through the nightmare of domestic violence to true healing. Website for battered women and non-profit organization that assists victims of abuse.
Organizations Domestic violence director of The Peace at Home Program. Court approved trainer and speaker on domestic abuse.
Publications This book was reviewed by The Library Journal
Awards and Honors Book was chosen as Hay House Publishing "Book of the Year."
Expert: Dianne Schwartz Date: 1/26/2008 Subject: where do we go from here?
Question I am 24 y.o. and have been married to an Israeli for about a year now things
are usually great he makes me so happy but it has now started to be a trend
that he goes out with his friends on Fri night and I wait up for him usually
about 230 am (which i dont mind that he goes out at all) but then when he
comes home i ask can I get a hug or something he sys he doesnt want and
goes right to sleep, so I get upset that he can spend all this tie with other
people but he can't spare one minute to give me hug or talk to me or
anything. Then we start to fight he yells at me and then for the first tie last
night he screamed at me and I took the blanket from him so he punched me
in the chest.! I was in shock we usually always get into fights on fri night bc
he has been drinking and then we dont speak for a day or two and then
everything is normal again I dont know what to do ?
Answer Hi Sydney,
Is it a custom for an Israeli man to act like he's still single and go out with friends one night a week and treat his wife horribly when he comes home? I doubt it.
Your husband is an immature, selfish, and spoiled man. He needs to grow up and act like an adult. I wouldn't want a hug from him when he came home! He should have been home with you instead of acting like he's not married.
Sydney, women don't tolerate being punched in the chest...ever! It's against the law and breaks wedding vows. This is serious business. You need to make this "baby" go into therapy and if he ever hits you again, you need to call the police. This is not okay! He's starting a pattern.
I understand men wanting to get together with their friends at times but weekly? Come on! That's ridiculous. He isn't in high school, he's a married man with responsibility.
The next time he goes out, I would pack an overnight bag and go stay the night with a friend and let him see what it feels like to be left alone for the night. Don't leave a note. Just go.
Sydney, you have to ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life living like this. I will repeat...WOMEN DON'T STAY WITH MEN WHO PUNCH THEM!
