AboutAnnie Kaszina Expertise All questions relating to women's experience of domestic violence and recovery. I am not qualified to talk about men's experience.
Experience 20 years in an emotionally abusive marriage. Since then I have worked with thousands of other abused women to help speed them on the road to recovery. My website www.EmotionalAbuseRecoveryNow.com and blog www.lifemadesimple.typepad.com/abusednomore offer insight, information and support,
Education/Credentials Educated to Ph.D. Level. NLP Master Practitioner. Diploma of Life Coaching.
Question Sir, i am married for 3 years and have 2 babies. my husband is very possessive and caring in the starting of our marriage he always raise objection on my outfits and he doesn't want me to speak to anyone or make smile to anyone. he hasn't spent any time with me alone apart from our nights he want sex each and everyday i will do everything what ever he wants he always fights with me bcoz her mother is creating lots of tension between us he have two younger brother married and having son and both are not working he wants me to do all the things and take responsibility of them never want me to say anything to any body whether they are wrong his mother always fights with me . and i am working now everyday he tell me that leave the house bcoz now he don't like me bcoz i started fighting back with him. now you tell me what to do
Answer Hi Puja,
First things first, I cannot tell you what to do in terms of what actions to take.
From what you write, it sounds like you realize that there are major problems in your relationship; your husband does not treat you as you want to be treated, you have issues with his mother and now you are fighting back, which is understandable but will not help the relationship.
So what do you want to do? Do you see yourself staying in a relationship that in all probability will only get worse? Would you rather get out of that relationship?
The truth is, you don't have too many choices. You can stay or you can go. Which will you do?
My advice, such as it is, is to start rebuilding your self-esteem. That will be the best thing for you and your babies' future. There are a number of ways that you can start to do that. Some of the most useful resources that I know of are to be found through my website www.EmotionalAbuseRecoveryNow.com.
Sadly there are no easy answers to an abusive relationship. All I can tell you, which is what many, many women have told me is that once you make your decisions at least the agony of Limbo is gone and you can start to move forward.
