AboutSusan Blocker Expertise My name is Susan Blocker. I am 45 years old, born with a physical disabillity I am SURVIVOR of Physical, Sexual, Verbal, Emotional and Economical abuse. During the past 11 years via my website "Climbing Out Of The Spiral" I have provided a myriad of online support and counseling services to survivors and victims of abuse worldwide.
My knowledge stems from my own personal experiences with childhood abuse and domestic violence. Through my own experience with abuse I've learned many valuable lessons that I am able to pass on to those in need of guidance and support, so that they may begin their "Climb Out Of The Spiral".
Experience My greatest accomplishment is surviving thirty years of abuse and having the strength to uphold my emotional fortitude so that I can pass my experience on to other survivors of abuse. I am creative founder of a website dedicated to promoting abuse awareness and prevention. Climbing Out Of The Spiral has provided abuse support and counseling services to victims and survivors of abuse world wide since December 7, 1996. Climbing Out Of The Spiral is my most precious achievement.
Expert: Susan Blocker Date: 3/24/2008 Subject: How do I get past Domestic violence?
Question My father used to beat the holy hell out of my mother. They both hit me until I got bigger. My question is how do I get past this dark chapter in my life? I am in my mid 30's and I still can't get past this!!!!! Why can't I not make the same mistakes as my parents? How do I stop from reliving the horrible beatings? How do I erase the images of blood, bruises and beatings that are in my head?
I have and inferiority complex. I have been involved with nothing but bad and toxic relationships. For the longest time I couldn't figure out why I did certain things, like fighting all my friends. Or why I thought certain thoughts. I will constantly put myself down thinking of my past mistakes or actions. This has destroyed my self confidence and my ability to make and keep friends.
Answer Hello Howie:
I thank you for your inquire. Healing from Childhood abuse and or Domestic Violence takes time. To help in your healing process you might consider participating in one of the many online abuse support and chat groups. Sharing your pain amongst fellow survivors of abuse can be of great help in the healing process. Just knowing that "YOU" are not alone in your quest for healing can provide you with the comfort and support that you might need.
Abuse can damage ones Self Esteem and create anger that festers from within. The goal is to work at the realization that "YOU" are NOT your parents and you are NOT a defenseless child anymore. "YOU" are a Strong, Intelligent, Independent Human Being and you are in control over your LIFE and what you choose to do. You know first hand what it feels like to be abused and you Do Not want to repeat the cycle of abuse by passing the negativity on to the people you love and care for.
Depending the severity of your emotional scars sometimes it might be helpful to talk with a professional support counselor/psychologists etc. To do so you might consider contacting your local Mental Health/Victim Services organization.
Healing takes time and there are no time limits. Take your time and heal at your own pace. Once you connect with a support system that works best for you you'll begin to feel allot stronger emotionally.
Remember There is know Right or Wrong way to begin your healing process. The key is to connect with a support system that works best for you.
Please feel free to contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-7233 or visit their web site at: http://www.ndvh.org/
Most important Do Not give up your quest for healing and remember you are NOT alone.
I hope that I have been of help to you. Wishing you the very best.
